I saw a life coach I love, Ashley, do a post entitled If We Were Having Coffee and I decided to take her lead and do one myself in November 2013 because I loved it and sometimes I feel like we forget that there is a whole life behind the people that write and read blogs. I got such a great response to my initial post so I made it a reoccurring thing for the past couple of years and do it when I feel so inclined!
So, grab your coffee/beverage of your choice and meet me for a chat. I’ve got some amaaaazing Harvest tea from Trader Joe’s that has hints of apple and cinnamon and ginger and all sorts of other goodness. And I have a soy pumpkin candle burning so THE MOOD IS RIGHT, Y’ALL!
If we were having coffee….I’d tell you that I’m currently reading A Step Toward Falling by Cammie McGovern. I’d ask you what you are currently reading!
If we were having coffee.… I’d tell you how much this past month having our rescue dog, Finn, has changed me. He’s such a silly, loving and sweet pup who is so good though it hasn’t been without its trials (he and my dad’s dog hating each other, teaching him to walk properly on a leash, training, etc.) but I’m enjoying it all. He’s gotten us out even more (for walks, to hike, to the dog park) and we’ve met so many different people. The other thing is how much he has opened up my heart to the rescuing process. My heart breaks for all these lost and abandoned animals. Will and I have started volunteering in different ways with different shelters (including the high kill shelter Finn was originally at before DogTown rescued him) and the rescue we got Finn at who does SUCH good work and is full of awesome people. I’d ask you if you have a pet/ever rescued an animal but I’d also ask you if you’ve discovered something new you are passionate about that you hadn’t even realized.
If we were having coffee.… I’d tell you how I recently did something very out of my comfort zone and I had such a good time and I think it could lead to good things. It’s scary but also so invigorating to go outside of your comfort zone. I asked myself, “what’s the worst that could happen if I did this?” and honestly the WORST thing was no biggie honestly. It’s definitely one of those moments where I’m like YAS SELF TAKE MORE RISKS, BE MORE FEARLESS, KICK THAT COMFORT ZONE ASIDE. I’d ask you what’s the last thing you did that was out of your comfort zone and you felt great about it!
If we were having coffee…. I‘d share with you this life-changing (for me), new thought process I’ve discovered when it comes to decisions. I REALLY struggle to make decisions. To start this project or not? To go out and do this thing or not? To try this thing or not? To quit something or not? I was listening to the Happier podcast that Gretchen Rubin and her sister do (you can see what podcasts I listen to here with a few sentences about each) and they were talking about this very thing. Their suggestion that they (or maybe just Gretchen uses)? The idea of “choosing the bigger life.” And as soon as she said it I was like YES. It’s so simple. I get so caught up in the decision and this simplifies it some. Whatever decision I’m facing, I’m like what gives me the bigger life? And the thing is that answer will be different for everyone and I think even for me in certain situations. Sometimes choosing the bigger life WILL be quitting something and sometimes it would be not quitting it. Going out and having a good time can be the bigger life just as much as staying in and practicing self-care instead of going out on a different day. So, I’m facing decisions with this idea — choosing the bigger life — the path that propels me forward in the way I want, the decision that makes my life more rich and fulfilling and bigger and better. Highly rec at least listening to that episode when she explains it! I’d ask you how YOU approach decisions that you have a hard time with!
If we were having coffee…. I’d tell you that for the first time a blogger I follow (not in the book sphere) recently passed away and it’s a really weird thing to experience. I don’t know this blogger personally at all. I was just always inspired by their posts and enjoyed reading the blog and I felt such a strange sense of loss. It’s a weird thing to experience not knowing someone but feeling that absence that wasn’t even a physical one in your life. It also reminds me how paranoid I get when bloggers I follow drop off the internet because I’m like ARE YOU ALIVE PLEASE JUST LET US KNOW THANKS.
If we were having coffee… I’d tell you about how I realized something about myself lately that I really want, no NEED, to work on: I SELF SABOTAGE MYSELF. All the time. I don’t know when this became a thing for me but it has. I self sabotaged myself about a job opportunity recently. With friendships recently because I’ve decided to “save myself the hurt that I know will come.” I don’t remember being like that!!! It’s so frustrating when I’ve realized I’ve done this lately. I’d ask you something that you are trying to work on personally and how it’s going! Also, I’d ask you if you struggle with self sabotage!
If we were having coffee….I’d tell you how it’s weird being 30 now. Okay, I’ve only been 30 for like a week but still. It feels weird and disappointing and different than YA me would have ever thought. I thought 30 would make me feel like a real adult. And I don’t. I still feel like I have no idea what the hell I’m doing. I think maybe it’s this thing where all these years you build up the idea of BEING AN ADULT and ~adulthood~ is nowhere near what you thought it would be like/feel like. I think there is also all those hopes and dreams you had for yourself. I just pictured my life so differently at 30 and it’s hard not to be disappointed that I feel like a failure. But with that, 30 has been pretty great and I’m finding myself not really caring about a lot of stuff all that much? Just going with the flow but also realizing how fast time goes so looking at every moment of my day as though it were precious. Maybe that’s the secret about adulthood and turning 30 — that it really is just a number and nobody really feels all that prepared. We’re all just trying to do the best we can, I suppose. We all had ideas of what it would be like that I’m sure didn’t happen. And like no ~adult~ switch turns on at a certain age. JUST MAKING IT UP AS WE GO. At least that’s what I’m telling myself to make myself feel better. GOING WITH IT. And coming to terms with the fact that it’s not what I thought it would be and I’m not where I thought I would be.
If we were having coffee….I’d you that I still haven’t been reading that much lately. September was like 2 books and this month maybe 4 so far? I don’t have any desire to read that much..just here and there. Which is okay with me and why I didn’t set a Goodreads goal. I’m just going with what I feel like. In other reading news, I WAS in the middle of a book and then my Kindle died for good. BUUUUT it was 3 days before my birthday so Will swooped in with a new Kindle Paperwhite for my bday present. I’d ask how your reading life has been lately! Are you reaching your Goodreads goals? Reading all the books you’ve been wanting to?
If we were having coffee…I’d tell you how absolutely STOKED I am about the Gilmore Girls reboot!!!! Back in 2004 my college roomie/bff and I started our tradition of watching all the seasons together until we caught up to the current season (and then rewatch them) and it just was such a great bonding time. We’d be hermits and just lay in bed watching it from one of our laptops and snack and sing along to the theme song. Those are just some of my best memories from college just that time together and, though we aren’t as close as we used to be, it was really fun to text and be excited about it and make plans to watch it together. SERIOUSLY I HAVE ALL THE FEELS RIGHT NOW. I CANNOT WAIT TO SEE SOME OF MY ALL TIME FAVORITE CHARACTERS AGAIN!! WHAT A WORLD WE LIVE IN THAT MY FAVORITE SHOW CAN GET SOME MAYBE BETTER CLOSURE FOR ME. I’d ask you if you were into Gilmore Girls and if you weren’t I’d drag you to a nearby couch and start marathoning with you!
If we were having coffee…what would you tell me? Come on…lay it all out! It’s just you, me, the pleasant sounds of a cafe…and maybe some other eyes in the comment section but NBD right?? Our we can have coffee in my inbox if you don’t feel comfortable. I really want to know! What’s going on with you?