I saw a life coach I love, Ashley, do a post entitled If We Were Having Coffee and I decided to take her lead and do one myself in November 2013 because I loved it and sometimes I feel like we forget that there is a whole life behind the people that write and read blogs. I got such a great response to my initial post so I made it a reoccurring thing for the past couple of years and do it when I feel so inclined!
So, grab your coffee/beverage of your choice and meet me for a chat. Currently I’m drinking an iced mocha so YAY for once I’m actually drinking coffee when I do one of these.
If we were having coffee….I’d tell you that I’m currently reading Wanderlost by Jen Malone. I’d ask you what you are currently reading!
If we were having coffee.… I’d tell you that my heart has been very heavy after Orlando. My heart breaks for the families and friends and loved ones who lost people and for the survivors who had to witness something so unimaginable. I’m heartbroken over and over again every time something like this happens — seeing the faces and learning the names and about who they were. I feel beaten down from it and something needs to change. That’s all I’m going to say because I refuse to talk politics during our coffee date. The other aspect that comes up for me every time is this building of fear in me. I try not to let it affect me when I go in public but I would be lying if I said I didn’t check my surroundings for exits and think about what I’d do. I don’t want to live in fear and not do things but maaaan it’s hard to not feel on edge sometimes especially when these things are happening so often. I’d ask you to tell me one really great fantastic thing you saw or heard or witnessed — an act of kindness, something funny or sweet, etc — because I need to hear something good.
If we were having coffee.… I’d tell you that since we’ve gotten back from vacation I really got back into working out again. If you’ve read these posts in the past you’ll know that I really was being consistent earlier this year and then got injured and took quite a bit of time off. I’m doing the PIIT28 challenge and it’s been kicking my butt but I feel results already. I have done Blogilates with Cassey via youtube/her website since 2013 and when she introduced this program I knew that I wanted to. I started doing it in March but, like I said I got injured (not related to the workout) so I decided to wait and try again and then share it with you guys if I felt like it was good! It’s a workout plan (and you can add the meal plan and recipes). It’s Pilates Intense Interval Training and it’s 28 minutes every day (plus stretching before and after). You do 7 moves for 45 seconds and then 10 seconds off for four rounds. I am literally always drenched in sweat. I think if you already eat healthy like I did before, the meal plan isn’t super integral but it DID help to give me some great breakfast and snack ideas and both plans are supposed to go hand in hand. I feel like it was exactly the challenge I needed to teach me some discipline and to give me a workout to really motivate me even if I want to die the whole time. I even joined the community of others doing it on Instagram which has been SOOOO motivating and helpful for me. This whole thing was definitely what I needed. I’d ask you if you have a fitness routine you love and what it is and if you didn’t I’d commiserate with you on #thestruggle to actually work out/be fit because since this program I’ve been off and on with working out.
If we were having coffee…. I‘m super excited that my sister is due in 3 weeks with her 3rd kid — a nephew this time!! I love being an aunt. Like so much. Can’t wait to have another baby to love on.
If we were having coffee…. I’d tell you that I feel broken creatively these days. I feel like I’ve been blogging about books (and obviously other things but mostly books) for so long (six years as of next week!) and I’m just not feeling as inspired to do it — some of it was travel and just being busy lately but I know some of it deep down is that I feel like I’ve been doing this for so long. I think this summer I’m going to cut back on blogging and dabble in some other things — nothing drastic but maybe a post or two less per week. I’ve been sitting on something for YEARS at this point and I want to give myself time to explore that idea but also try some new things. I just kind of believe, based on my own experiences, that when I take time off blogging I always find some new source of inspiration. I’d ask what you do when you feel broken creatively.
If we were having coffee… I’d tell you next month is 10 years since we lost my mom and I feel very weird about it. I mean, it’s just a number and it’s not like it’s different than any other year I grieve and remember her but 10??? That seems…so unreal. I fear the day when that number will be more years than I have had with her.
If we were having coffee….I’d tell you that I am going to have a few days off in August and I’m so trying to convince Will to take another trip (even though our bank account is drained from our 2 week trip to England and Spain last month) domestically. I’m torn on finding somewhere to drive to that we’ve never been or if we want to find a good deal. There are SO many US destination I want to explore but I’m having a hard time narrowing it down to even present him with a solid plan to make this happen. I’m kind of thinking of driving to some places in the NE region which isn’t bad because we are in Philly and I’ve driven to many of these states before pretty easily. I told him if he didn’t to take any time off I’m going by myself…soooo who wants me to come visit them?? 😛 I’d ask you if you could travel to one place in the US where would you choose?
If we were having coffee….I’d tell you that I’m currently in the process of purging my books as part of my Bookshelf Revamp Plan and it’s SO. HARD. I already have over 50+ books to be donated and still so many more to go through. I’ve always been ruthless at purging READ books but it is those unread books that kill me. I’d ask you if you have any book purging tips???
If we were having coffee….I’d tell you how interesting friendships have been in the past year. I’ve talked a lot about how offline friendship has been a big focus of my life in the past 6-8 months and I’m amazed that I’ve met so many amazing new girlfriends in this time. It’s been so amazing. But I’ve had to face some weird friendship realities recently — being dropped by a friend who I realized was only using me and suddenly had no purpose for me anymore, starting a friendship with someone only to find out they were not the person I thought they were and realizing that I had some relationships that I thought were genuine but weren’t. Those are hard things to wade through but I’m happy to clear space for these much more positive, healthy and important friendships I’ve made over the past year. I’d ask you if you have any friendship highs/lows you want to get off your chest!
If we were having coffee…what would you tell me? Come on…lay it all out! It’s just you, me, the pleasant sounds of a cafe…and maybe some other eyes in the comment section but NBD right?? Our we can have coffee in my inbox if you don’t feel comfortable. I really want to know! What’s going on with you?