If We Were Having Coffee

I saw a life coach I love, Ashley, do a post entitled If We Were Having Coffee and I decided to take her lead and do one myself in November 2013 because I loved it and sometimes I feel like we forget that there is a whole life behind the people that write and read blogs. I got such a great response to my initial post so I made it a  reoccurring thing for the past couple of years and do it when I feel so inclined!

 

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So, grab your coffee/beverage of your choice and meet me for a chat. Currently I’m drinking a chocolate peanut butter and banana smoothie.

 

If we were having coffee….I’d tell you that I’m currently reading This Savage Song by Victoria Schwab but I’m not too far into it. I’d ask you what you are currently reading!

 

If we were having coffee.… I’d tell you that my new baby nephew was born on July 8th — he’s healthy and adorable and Genevieve and Adela just adore him. Seriously, being an aunt is the coolest. I was thinking about how when I was growing up I wasn’t always geographically close to my aunts and uncles so I don’t have a ton of memories with them which is sad (though the ones I have are great) and then I got sad that I’m not really close with any of them now. It definitely made me want to reach out to my aunts and uncles but also it made me really want to continue to make sure I’m a part of the lives of these kids. I’ve always kind of wanted to move away from the Philly area for a new adventure but my heart breaks every time I think about leaving them and not having this relationship with them where they see me AT LEAST once a month. The relationship I have with them is just so special and I just love them so freaking much. I’d ask you if you are an aunt or an uncle or if you have a close relationship with yours.

If we were having coffee.… I’d tell you that one of the biggest things I’m working on in my life is talking less and listening more. I can be a very talky person and I like to think in some way it’s endearing that I am excitable and can keep a conversation going but I don’t want to be the person who takes over every conversation because I am legit excited about things we are talking about and want to also share what I think/feel/my experience. It’s not even like I feel like I need the convo to be centered on me – I just want to add value and be IN the conversation. I feel like I’m having a hard time finding the balance between talking too much and then not really saying much at all and feeling like I’m just a spectator in a conversation with a group of friends. But, alas, I’m trying to work on finding that balance even though it’s really hard.

If we were having coffee…. I’d tell you that I’ve begun researching bullet journalling. It’s so interesting to me because back in college I kind of did something VERY similar — except without the using it as a calendar/planner sort of things as well. I had more of the OTHER kinds of collections — to-do lists, tracking things I wanted to make habits, lists of books I wanted to read etc. WHY DID I NOT MAKE IT INTO A SYSTEM AND BECOME RICH BEFORE THIS GUY DID? I already have a planner I literally just bought in June so I’m probably not going to add the calendar/planning stuff until my planner year has ended but I have so many other ideas of what to use it for to keep all my crap together because it’s all scattered from notebook to notebook and onto my Evernote online and Notes on my phone. I can see mine being way more simple/functional than some of the pretty stuff I’ve seen because I’m zero percent artsy or crafty but I enjoy seeing all the pretty all over the internet! I’d ask if you are into bullet journalling and, if you are, share your tips or resources you love!!

 

If we were having coffee…. I’d tell you that one thing I wish people talked about more was like friendship breakups and also the emotional baggage we can get from past friendships. People talk a lot about the baggage one can have from a romantic relationship but maaaan I’m really struggling with letting go of some friendship baggage from over the years as I venture into some really great new friendships with women who are super kind and encouraging and ridiculously fun and intentional and everything I’ve been wanting in friends. That baggage makes me get into my head wayyy too much and is something I really need to work through because I don’t want to self-sabatoge something good because of previously crappy friendship situations and hurt. I think I’m way more scarred from certain friendships than I have EVER been coming out of a romantic relationship. I’d ask you what you think about past friendship baggage.

 

If we were having coffee… I’d tell you that I have barely been able to read lately. Maybe it’s the 100 degree temperatures or the sun or being rather busy but it has been really hard to concentrate when I sit down to read lately. So I haven’t been doing very much of that.  Which is fine…I’m cool with doing other things but it’s such a weird feeling when I go for stretches without reading because ~being a reader~ has always been such a big part of who I am.

 

If we were having coffee….I’d tell you that we chose to skip doing another trip in August because we ran the numbers and it just wasn’t going to be a good idea after our big trip in May. However, I haven’t seen my dad in a while so we are going to drive the 4 hours up there and spend a few days which will be nice plus there is some fun stuff we can do up there. So we won’t be going anywhere new but I’m excited to see my family and also spend time in a familiar place I haven’t explored in a while.

 

If we were having coffee….I’d tell you that I’m still shocked at a situation that happened last week. We found out that Will’s grandma passed away….from reading the paper. Little background: it’s his biological mom’s mom who passed away when he was 4 and he was really close to her. The uncle (his mom’s brother) and aunt have always been a little ~off~ in some ways and have had really complicated relationships with the family off and on over the years but as far as we knew there was nothing up. So imagine our surprise when we find out the grandma had gotten really sick recently and they moved her to where they live and didn’t ever contact Will to tell him. Not to tell him she was sick so he could come see her (which he would have) or that she passed. Sooo many people from his grandma’s church came out to visit apparently but not a single person told Will — one of 3 grandchildren she had and his only real link to his mom since his uncle is apparently not interested. SO we decided to go to the funeral anyways because, as Will said, we were going for his grandma and not them. He was hurt they didn’t contact him and I was confused but I figured all would be fine at the funeral. Until we got there…and a family friend that was with his stepmom (who was very close with his grandma as well over the years) went up first and they were so rude to them I found out later. So I go up after them, oblivious to anything that happened in front of me, and go into hug the aunt who I’ve had plenty of good interactions with and she literally stands there straight and like stares into my soul and just says a cold “thanks” to my “I’m so sorry.” If you know me, you know it takes a lot to make me speechless but I was so shocked standing there with my arms outstretched. They didn’t say one word to Will and after he saw what she did to me he just quietly said “I’m done” and walked right past them. I was in tears and he was visibly shaken up and wanted to leave but we sat for the funeral to honor his grandma and then left. It was honestly one of the most awful things I’ve experienced and, later that day, when Will went to the gym I just called my dad and bawled and bawled because I was so hurt but also just devastated for Will that they would do that to him and he wouldn’t get to say goodbye to his grandma who he loved so much and that they could be so bitter and awful — something that his grandma would have been APPALLED about. Ughhhh. Ugh. I just can’t even. I’m still just seething.

If we were having coffee….I’d tell you that I cannot believe that the year is halfway over. DID WE NOT JUST START THE YEAR 2016??? It makes me all anxious feeling like I wasted time at some points this year and I didn’t do the things I wanted to do yet and GAH. But then I’m like OKAY…let’s reframe…still half a year to kick some major ass. Every day is a blank slate.  Blah blah blah. I feel like as a kid I was never really aware of time but now I feel like I am aware of every single grain of salt falling down forever in the bottom of the hourglass. But yet I still waste a lot of it? But then I want it back? Like no no nooooo give me back those hours/days/weeks I swear I will use them better and make more out of them. Will says my brain exhausts him that I think about these things. Me too, dude, me too. It’s exhausting to have my brain.

 

If we were having coffee…what would you tell me? Come on…lay it all out! It’s just you, me, the pleasant sounds of a cafe…and maybe some other eyes in the comment section but NBD right?? Our we can have coffee in my inbox if you don’t feel comfortable. I really want to know! What’s going on with you?

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Jamie is a 30 year old married lady who is in denial that she’s actually that old. When she’s not reading you can find her doing Pilates followed by eating ice cream, listening to music with oversized headphones and having adventures with her husband and dog.

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  1. I just finished This Savage Song and I LOVED it. I got it in a subscription box or I never in a million years would have read it. Yay, expanding genres. Now I’m reading The Loose Ends List which is also good but I think I have a book hangover from This Sage Song.
    I, too, am a talker but I think that people who love you love you because you are a talker not despite. Its hard being a woman. So much am I enough? Am I too much? Questioning ourselves.You are just right. I am sure that you are delightful and I love to have exuberant conversation conversation partners.
    Also, I love that your notebook. I had that moment recently. In my field, there was a call for award nominations and I actually actually someone to nominate me. She jumped at the chance and got other supporting nominations but I felt super weird asking. I won’t find out for a while if I win, but why not me? I work hard and am so invested in this field. I may as well throw my hat in the ring (even if I still feel tacky for asking).

    • So glad to hear you loved This Savage Song! Excited to get more into it!

      YESSSS so much to what you said about it’s hard being a woman for those reasons. Also for the friendship baggage reasons — like I feel like my brain wants to overthink everything because of all the hurts so in my new friendships I feel like I’m hyperaware.

      I hope you win!!! Good luck!! And I think asking is a good thing. I was just talking about this with friends about how it’s okay to ask for you what you need or want. Check out The Art of Asking by Amanda Palmer!

  2. Jamie I’m so sorry to hear about that awful experience at the funeral. Family can be really shitty sometimes. My parents have gone through their fair share of it already, and it’s traumatizing and appalling to see how selfish and MEAN your own flesh and blood can be. Hope Will’s doing okay.

    • Thanks Tiffany <3 It was really appalling behavior and just really the whole situation in general. And like having been through that myself, losing someone, I just don't comprehend where they have room in their soul to be vindictive and bitter and awful. I remember seeing someone (who hurt me pretty badly and was a mentor type person) when my mom passed and honestly when they came to my house to see how I was doing that day all my anger and bitterness just melted away. I still don't have a relationship with them but I just could not find it in anywhere within me to be bitter and angry and not accept the love that they genuinely were coming to give me.

  3. Great post! I started bullet journaling but fell off the wagon after vacation. I’m hoping to jump back in. I’m not doing anything official, I think you can make it whatever you want. Or, that’s what I tell myself, anyway. Good luck!

    • Yeah that’s kind of the drift I was getting from all the research I was doing which I LOVE. Hoping it will prevent me from getting discouraged that I’m not doing it ~right~ and I’ll just use it how I need to. I DO want to incorporate the logs and the calendar when this planner is done but not willing to waste my money just to have it all in one place right now. But I’m hoping this system will work for me! It seems like what I need.

      • I use a journal with daily to do lists, notes, grocery lists, notes from classes, syllabus outlines, etc and then use my phone for my calendar. It’s kind of like bullet journaling but without the daily calendar part.

  4. Every time I would think about moving away from the Twin Cities (even just for grad school), I would decide I couldn’t leave my friends’ kiddos who call me “Auntie Jackie.” They are my heart.

    • IT’S SO HARD TO THINK OF. Like even though I know so many people have great relationships long-distance with family and friends because of technology and being intentional I just…I think after having all this time with them I can’t imagine not having the cuddles or reading them books or watching them learn and grow up.

  5. Bullet journaling is so interesting! I think the two best resources I’ve found on it are from Modern Mrs. Darcy and The Lazy Genius Collective. I had a hard time grasping the concept at first but after reading their posts I just GOT it. I have a 2016 planner that I’m using right now and I’ve sort of incorporated the method with it, but I plan on fully switching over with a blank notebook next year.

    I also really wish people would write about friendship baggage more. I’ve had some past friendships that soured, and as much as I’d love to find a group of awesome lady friends I’m more reluctant to put myself out there and really make the effort now. And making friends as an adult is SO much harder! I feel like everyone already has a “group” they’ve been with since high school or college or whatever.

    I’ve had a hard time reading lately, too. Nothing is really keeping my interest, and I don’t know if it’s the books or the weather or life or what, but it sucks.

    I’m really sorry to hear about what happened with the funeral. It’s so hard when the people hurting you are your own family, and I hope you both are feeling better.

    • Thanks for the resources! I was also having a hard time grasping it at first but I think I understand it now after doing much research! And yes that’s my plan to — carry out the rest of the year via my planner and then incorporating all that later. I just am too cheap to waste money on something I JUST bought haha.

      YES I feel that. It really is so hard to put yourself out there and be vulnerable again after you’ve done that and had a bad experience. UGH yes and that is a subject I want to see written about more in a real way — making friends as an adult. I actually joined a local meetup group for 20’s and 30’s ladies and I really enjoyed the group as a whole and a few of the girls and I really hit it off and have kind of formed our own ~group~ outside of that and have even hung out with our husbands and stuff. I am so so thankful for these girls too and feel lucky that I found with people I click with as an adult who seem to have sort of the same thoughts on friendship.

  6. I discovered the bullet journal last Summer from bohoberry.com and I fell in love with it. Unfortunately I had just purchased a pretty academic planner and I didn’t want to waste my money, so I started using it as a brain dump and a way to track stuff, like book challenges, habits, TV shows and movies I watch at the cinema, and so on. Now I use it also as the place to jot down my to-do list for the day, while all my appointments and deadlines are still in my actual planner (basically the future planning stuff), it might sound confusing to use 2 journals instead of one, but it really works for me.
    My recommendation is to start reading the directions at the official website http://www.bulletjournal.com and NOT look at Pinterest/Instagram where all the artsy people share their amazing creative bullet journals or you’ll burn out very quickly because of the comparison trap. I’ve been there! But if you want to take a look at some other bullet journals, I love tinyrayofsunshine.com because her style is very minimalistic, she even wrote a master post with all the minimalist bullet journalers she likes http://www.tinyrayofsunshine.com/blog/minimalist-bullet-journalists
    Hope it helps!! <3

    • Yes boho berry is one site I’ve been on A LOT! And I def was on the official site a lot.

      How you use it is definitely a lot how I plan to use it and then when my planner is all finished I’ll integrate that planner portion (with daily to-do lists and notes and future planning etc) in there. I think what’s great is that really you can adapt it to make it work for you — like how you find it helpful to have the two!

      Annnnd I already fell down the pretty bullet journal hole but I am realistic because I KNOW I could never do that. So I just admire. Thank you thank youuuu for sending that link with the minimilist bullet journals because that is definitely more my style (well, mostly only because of my lack of abilities to have the really decorative ones). The thing I love is that for some people it gets to be a creative expression and art project AND functional at the same time. For me, I only need it to be a functional thing. It’s what is so brilliant about it.

  7. July 8th!!! That’s my Birthday too!!! LOL. I also struggle with being a “talker” and not a “listener”. But I’m not as bad as some people I know, so I don’t worry about it too much. I definitely am trying to not actively relate every thing that someone brings up to something that happened to me. That’s definitely a bad habit of mine. I mean, I think it’s normal to do it, but it’s not alway about ME and I have to remember that!

    Friendship breakup baggage really is the worst. I had a bad friendship breakup with a girl who was basically like my sister (because we grew up together and saw each other almost everyday), but she was a terrible person and I tried ignoring it, but after a while I just couldn’t. But I still think about her a lot and it still feels weird that I can’t call her and tell her about stuff. And I definitely take some of that past crap with me into new friendships bc my new friendships don’t have the history behind them, so it’s harder to trust.

    So sorry about Will’s grandma. That’s really shitty. I had a similar situation happen to me and it really hurts…. but I won’t go into that bc I’m trying NOT to turn every subject back to something that happened to me 🙂 Just really really sorry that happened!!!

  8. I love being an aunt. I’m still on the fence about kids but being an aunt is totally my jam. My nephew just turned one and he amazes me constantly. It makes me so mad that anyone treated you that way especially at a funeral. I had a smilie experience so I know how upsetting it can be. I’m so sorry :(. None deserves that.

  9. What happened with Will and his family is awful! It happens so often though, you can’t pick your family, but at least he was there and did what was right by his gran. As for female friendship break-ups, I’ve had two that were significant, one was just due to life-changes, one was an actual break-up that was partially rekindled,or at least resolved, years later. People definitely don’t talk about how much the end of those relationships can affect you! I recently read Dumped, which might be just what you’re looking for! https://confessionsofabookgeek.com/2015/03/19/review-dumped-stories-of-women-unfriending-women/

  10. Friendship baggage is SO HARD. I have a lot of it right now. I feel like I should be able to get rid of it, but it’s not that easy–some of it has been hanging around for six years, but it’s also from a really bad friendship.. I’m lucky to have some amazing friends who help me through it, though.

    I’m so sorry about the funeral. I agree–I don’t know how people can be so bitter and cruel in those situations. Life is too short for that.

  11. I always forget who posted the If we were having coffee. I loved this idea so much I started my own discussion called Friday Coffee & Bookish speaks. It’s a little bit different in that I talk about bookish things but I loved the coffee Idea. I’ve talked about why I do it and always wanted to credit you. So now I can! I love coffee and I love the idea of talking over coffee. So I came up with something similar… all credit to you!

  12. Aw I’m so sorry that those relatives were so cold and cruel to Will. I can’t even imagine how you both must have felt. 🙁 I think it’s great that you are so close to your family and that you have the opportunity to be in your nieces and nephew’s lives! This weather is so unbearable, I hardly have read either. All I want to do is sit under a fan, sleep, drink tons of water, and go to the pool.

  13. It’s so crazy hot here, too. And I was very close to my aunt, even though she lived in Missouri and I in Ohio! Long distance ain’t nothing! She would write me letters and send me stickers and neat, inexpensive gifts. She made a me a book of plays to put on and sent me a certificate when I lost my first tooth! She passed away 10 years ago to an unexpected aneurysm (I guess all aneurysms are…) and I miss her SO much.

    And how incredibly awful for you and Will to go through that with his family! I am 100% sure that his grandma is sending you a million hugs and kisses- especially after an experience like that! Unreal!

  14. I love your coffee posts 🙂

    I’m drinking a chai latte and just started The Geek’s Guide to Unrequited Love. It’s very cute! It’s been a weird reading month for me: productive but a lot of 3 stars which is a little meh. On a whim, I decided to reread Harry Potter 4 and 5, which I hadn’t done in at least 6 years, and it made me so happy!! I’ve been feeling really burnt out on the constant Potter chatter so to go back to the root of my fandom (the books) and rediscover WHY I was a Potter fan in the first place, felt really nice.

    I probably won’t be an aunt for a long time but so many of my friends are having babies this year and I can’t wait to meet them! And when my best friends have kids, I’ll be happy to be the cool “aunt” for sure 🙂

    Trips can be hard; Chris and I both live an 8 hour car trip/1 hour flight from our families so I always feel guilty if we plan a trip that isn’t to visit, even though that’s silly! We did get to go to Dallas this year, and I went to BEA, and we’re driving to Lake Tahoe to meet friends in a couple weeks and stay at my grandpa’s cabin, I’m very excited. And I do love visiting my family, we went to my parents for 4th of July 🙂 It’s just a weird anxious thing I get, about splitting time and all that stuff.

    I’m so sorry again about Will’s family. That is such a horrible story and situation 🙁

    I’ve wanted to try bullet journaling but I’m always worried about messing up haha! And I’m not super arty but I love seeing everyone’s pretty pages. I’m like you, I just write random lists everywhere instead.

    I feel you so hard on friendship baggage. I had some of my best friendships from college evaporate a few years ago and I know it was for the best but I still think about it and wonder if it was my fault and feel guilty. But things happen and true colors come out after awhile. Maybe we weren’t as good a fit as I thought. I think about friendships a lot and understand what you mean. I worry that it’s something I do. Also the listening! I think I sort of naturally adjust to the group I’m with. I’m quiet when other people are talkative/loud and I’m talkative when others are quiet haha. But I do worry about taking over conversations 🙁 I feel like I’m doing that with this comment even lol.

    Ahhhhh Jamie, I wish we lived near each other so we could be IRL friends!!! <3

  15. I love these posts you do because it is so nice to get a bit of an insight into the person behind the blog. I hope you’re liking This Savage Song, I’ve been really nervous about reading because what about if I don’t like it? My expectations are just too high to read it just yet.

    I love how you’re so excited about being an aunt again, I was never close with my aunts so it must be a really nice feeling to be there seeing your nieces and nephew grow up. It shouldn’t stop you from moving away if you want to, but you need to decide which you want more. Family is really hard to leave because you know you’ll be missing things, but then there are all the other memories so it’s difficult. Even if you did go you would always be in their lives but just in a different way.

    Friendship baggage is the absolute worst, there should definitely be more understanding for new friendships that you’re not intentionally being cagey but you’ve been burned before by friends so are hesitant going in with hangups and issues. I suppose it’s because friendship breakups are never spoken about! You always question if there was something you could have done or if you could have changed things and it’s hard.

    And that completely sucks that entire situation for you and Will. I’m so sorry you both had to go through that especially with someone as important as a grandparent. Even if you aren’t close with family something like that is awful, especially finding out the way you did. I will never understand some people and why they act the way they do. It’s just rude. I couldn’t act that way with people I don’t like let alone people I know. It just completely sucks it all went down the way it did but at least you both know you acted sensibly and did right by his nan, screw everything else.

  16. I am adding This Savage Song to my list!
    Friendship baggage is real. So real. I have definitely been more damaged by friendships than relationships. I have had more friendships end than relationships, so there is that. I am a super emotional person, and I’m very sensitive, and it really hurts my feelings when people treat me badly, although sometimes my definition of bad is different to theirs and I don’t know if they are doing it maliciously or obliviously and I get so wrapped up and inside my own head that it’s like a person on its own. So weird. I also have a lot of regret with ending friendships sometimes, even though I know they are bad and toxic and horrible and I am better off without them, it’s hard because there was good parts too? and maybe I was wrong? I am always itching to fix things so people will like me, but I have to remind myself they didn’t like me even when I tried hard. See, even writing this comment is screwing with my head 😉 It also really sucks and is hard because right now, I only really have 4 friends, and 1 of them is in Australia. I have online friends though, so that helps, but it can get lonely.
    i am a huge talker too… i’m sure you didn’t notice by my obnoxiously long comment. sometimes i walk away from people and realise that i took up the majority of the conversation and it makes me so embarrassed. i try really hard to listen, but i really annoying and chatty sometimes, okay, most times.
    oh my gosh Jamie, I am so sorry to hear about that awful experience that you and Will had at the funeral. That is so, so horrible. Why would they be so cruel? I don’t understand.

  17. If we were having coffee, I would ask you to check out my new book blog! I just started this new book blog on WordPress, http://awaveofvellichor.wordpress.com , and it has currently two posts posted. I’m working on a bunch on reviews waiting to be posted in the future.

    If we were having coffee, I would tell you that yeah, I feel the same way about this year. It felt like it was just yesterday I started my second semester in college (it started in February), and now I’m about to take on my second year (third semester)! Time does go faster as we get older.

    If we were havimg cofee, I would tell you that I’m totally going to check that bullet journal out! I have always wanted to do a journal, but traditional journal writing has never been one for me. Maybe bullet journal will the one.

    If we were having coffee, I would tell you that I’m thinking of doing this for my blog, too! It sounds fund and helps to remember what we have experienced in the past days. Yeah, totally worth trying!

  18. Oh my goodness…I’m literally cringing as I read about Will’s experience! Yikes! Kudos to him for doing the right thing. hang in there on that one!

  19. Ah, I LOVE these posts so much! Okay, so I’m currently reading The Thousandth Floor and not really that into it. But since I’m only about 40ish pages into it, I will definitely give it a bit more time to see if it keeps working. I’m just more excited that it’s basically August and I can start my reread of The Kiss of Deception tonight! eep. Also, I hope you are enjoying/did enjoy This Savage Song!! IT’S SO GOOD.

    I really want to start bullet journaling! I see so many posts and tweets, and it looks so fun and I think I’d actually use them too. I would especially love one for blogging! I feel like I’m organized more than I have ever been doing this (finallyyyyy hahahaha I’m The Worst at being organized), but I think actually using a bullet journal would be even more helpful. I definitely want to try one!

    I’m having a hard time with that past friendship baggage too. I’ve found some amazing people through blogging, and I have friendships better than they ever have been, but I still find myself pulling back and keeping people at a distance based on past baggage. I’m way better about this now, but I’d had such issues with friendships in the past that it’s difficult. So I totally understand! For me, I’m just trying to let it go little by little, and be more open. And that helps! It’s still there, but it doesn’t weigh me down so much anymore, you know? It also helps that I have some wonderful friends who I find it easier and easier to have good relationships with.

    BEA was my trip for the year! So I won’t be going anywhere for the rest of it, sadly. I really love traveling, so I always want to just gogogo. But I’m really hoping I’ll be able to go to ALAMW in Atlanta next year. My friends are going, so I definitely don’t want to miss it. But honestly being able to go to any new place, or one that I haven’t been to in awhile is fun! I’ve done that a bit since the Pokemon Go app started. Haha. I hope you have a great trip to your family’s house! Also, that situation with the funeral sounds just absolutely awful and unfair, and I hope you guys are doing better now! I just don’t understand how people could be so cruel and bitter at a time like that.

    I’ve been having that oh-no-2016-is-ending-soon-and-I’ve-barely-done-anything feeling too lately! I just always want to do such much when a new year starts, and then things happen, and somehow I lose time for all that I had wanted to do! But you’re right, we still have a little less than a half a year left! We can still kick some ass. 😀

  20. I just got A Savage Song in my Owlcrate box! I was having mixed feelings about it but keep seeing good reviews.

    I’m so sorry you had such a horrible experience at the funeral. :'( I know everyone deals in their own way but that just seems so cold and uncalled for. Much love and light to you and your family.

  21. Oh my…Jessica your blog (this post) et al are too funny, yet targeted and serious and open doorways, all at the same time. Enjoyed the post and yep I can related. Especially to the part of half a year remains to kick it. That’s what rolls around my brain today. Anyway, I adore a post that makes me smile while hooking my thoughts on the deeper issues such as connecting to others. Our emotional ties sometimes get knocked or awry and don’t just go away.
    Thanks! Am interested in bullet journal entries. Sounds concise and energetic.

  22. I’m not saying I’m an expert when it comes to bulletjournaling, but I’ve started my adventure in April and I’m loving it! You can always shoot me a message. I’m writing a short series about setting up my journal, so keep an eye out for them, and of course I post a lot of pictures on Instagram about it 🙂 It’s so much fun!

    I would say that when it comes to baggage from friendships, I’ve had some tough situations.. Friends who portrayed to be friends and ended up being liars. Girls I trusted who played on my innocence and insecurities. People who bullied me and then smiled, like it was all a joke.. Girls who used me and I letting them, because of my need for friendship. Only now that I’ve met these girls from internet who became my real life friends, I finally feel like I matter when it comes to friendships. It definitely has influenced me as a person and how I look at other people.

    I’m so sorry Will had to hear this news in such a terrible way 🙁

  23. This is such a cool post! I’ll have to look into a bit more but I love it, such a cool way to add a personal touch to a blog. I’ll definitely have to look at the original posts. I’ve only just stumbled upon your blog and this was the first post I clicked on simply because the title tickled my curiosity but I will definitely look at a couple more after this. I wish I had a little more time for a bit more of a chatty comment but unfortunately I do not.

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