Best Friends Forever + A Giveaway

Heeeeeey it’s been a while. If you are super behind in why I’ve been MIA, check here. Good reason, I promise. I’ve even been in the worst reading slump BUT I finished Windwitch recently (amazing!) and right now I’m currently reading A List of Cages by Robin Roe (thanks to Disney for providing me with a copy and a fun prize pack to giveaway to you guys) which totally has me engaged but I think by the end is going to have me in tears.

A List of Cages, so far in my reading, has a lot of really cool things to talk about so when the door was left open to talk about some of the themes, in conjunction with a giveaway, I was pretty excited because friendships and kindness seem to be a big part of this novel so far — two subjects I could talk passionately about for hours!

But I chose to talk about friendship — specifically, tell you a little about my OWN best friend.

I’ve had a few best friends through the 31 years I’ve lived — childhood best friends, my middle school best friend, my high school-through-my early 20’s- best friend and recently I’ve become with 4 ladies that are definitely best friend material in the short time I’ve known them. My best friends have been so crucial in my life. Even the ones that aren’t part of my life anymore I still think about all the great memories and how they shaped me even if we aren’t AS close anymore.

But my BEST FRIEND FOREVER?

It’s my sister, Angela. We are two years apart and she’s been my built-in best friend since forever. The interesting thing that I realized as an adult? I’ve actively chosen her as my best friend even though she was “built into” my life. And the relationship isn’t based on default status but has all the qualities of true bff-ship. And it’s been a bit of a journey:

As kids we were the BEST OF FRIENDS. Always playing together and doing everything together. Sure, we fought but we were BEST FRIENDS.

Then high school happened and my mom got diagnosed with brain cancer my senior year of high school. I folded into myself a little more and my sister went wild. We fought way more and I felt distance…but we still had each other. She was literally the only person who understood what I was going through and we got through it together.

 

Then my mom passed away going into my junior year of college and the split between my sister and I was just at an all time high. We could NOT get along. We were both grieving. She resented me because I was away at college (literally only an hour away) while she was at home watching my mom get worse. I felt helpless and guilty being at home and not being there but my parents would have killed me if I left college. So after she died we just drifted so far apart. I was convinced I hated her at some points even though I know I did love her — pretty sure the sentiment was shared. I thought she was being reckless and making bad decisions in her life and she thought I was just being a bitch who knew better than she did. It is interesting to note that even though this period was such a dark period in our relationship there were some times we could get along and stick up for each other against other people — but it was always ruined after too long of spending time together.

The point everything turned around? When my sister told me she was pregnant (with Genevieve). She had moved out and we were barely speaking and I was the first person she told. And INSTANTLY it was like nothing had ever happened between us. I went to her appointments with her when her boyfriend (now husband) couldn’t and I was just there for her in a way I know she needed because it was REALLY hard to go through this with our mom and I knew I needed to be there.

Everytime Genevieve has a birthday I can’t help but think how she is the miracle who brought us back together. We became inseparable again. It was so NICE to have my best friend back and our relationship grew in a deeper and stronger way as adults.

It was an honor to be each other’s maid of honors because I think of how much we’ve been through together. We are the only ones who understand how we still grieve my mom. We share her memories. I know if I need something my sister is there and vice versa — literally I’ve answered calls in the dead of night from her. I love that we can tell each other the things we would never tell anybody else and know we aren’t judged and that what we said is not going anywhere. I know I can always tell her about someone who wronged me and she will agree with me that they are the worst. But I know she will always tell me the truth because she doesn’t want me to look like an asshole. Sometimes I think my sister wants to kill me for how brutally honest I am when it comes to situations in her life but it’s a kind of honesty that you don’t have to sugar coat because we both know the other has each other’s best interests. Plus we always have the most fun together. And she gets me — on a level that nobody except Will does. I honestly can’t imagine how I’d have gotten through most of my twenties and now being 31 and entering a new stage of life being pregnant.

I always feel silly when people are like “who is your best friend?” because it feels so cliche to be like “my sister” but she truly is and not by default. As adults we’ve actively CHOSEN to take on the role.  She’s my ride-or-die and the best friend I’ve ever had. I’m so thankful for this relationship throughout the years — even when it felt like it couldn’t be repaired.

I would LOVE to hear about your best friend or your relationship with your sibling!

 

Now for the giveaway:

One (1) winner receives:

  • A copy of A List of Cages
  • Plus a $50 Visa gift card to put towards a day of friendship.

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Giveaway open to US addresses only.
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Disney-Hyperion.

About A List Of Cages

 

When Adam Blake lands the best elective ever in his senior year, serving as an aide to the school psychologist, he thinks he’s got it made. Sure, it means a lot of sitting around, which isn’t easy for a guy with ADHD, but he can’t complain, since he gets to spend the period texting all his friends. Then the doctor asks him to track down the troubled freshman who keeps dodging her, and Adam discovers that the boy is Julian–the foster brother he hasn’t seen in five years.

Adam is ecstatic to be reunited. At first, Julian seems like the boy he once knew. He’s still kind hearted. He still writes stories and loves picture books meant for little kids. But as they spend more time together, Adam realizes that Julian is keeping secrets, like where he hides during the middle of the day, and what’s really going on inside his house. Adam is determined to help him, but his involvement could cost both boys their lives.

First-time novelist Robin Roe relied on life experience when writing this exquisite, gripping story featuring two lionhearted characters.

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About Jamie

Jamie is a 30 year old married lady who is in denial that she's actually that old. When she's not reading you can find her doing Pilates followed by eating ice cream, listening to music with oversized headphones and having adventures with her husband and dog.

Comments

  1. Lisa Brown says:

    My best friend is my husband: he is generous, kind, a good listener.

  2. A best friend is someone who is always there and supports you no matter what.

  3. This was such a sweet post! I’m glad you have your sister.

    I’ve had a lot of close friends, but there are a couple people who are always there for me and are more like sisters than “just” friends. Those are the people I consider my best friends. I also consider my boyfriend my best friend.

    Thanks for the giveaway. 🙂

  4. You two are gorgeous. Mahalo for sharing your story. I hope your pregnancy is going well.

  5. Chelsea Smith says:

    I have been lucky to have a few best friends in my life. A best friend is someone who is there for you and will challenge and love you.

  6. I actually found my best friend through OTSP Secret Sister! We weren’t even paired, but we met each other through the tag and just INSTANTLY bonded. We’re basically soul sisters. She gets everything I’m going through, because she goes through a lot of the same things. She doesn’t judge me and we have no filter with each other. It’s awesome. SO so thankful for her!

  7. I met my best friend in college. She is thoughtful and we always take the time to get together. Now that we have kids we do things with them.

  8. My best friend to me is a teacher, mother and a sister. She listens, comforts and life me up whenever I feel down and upset.

  9. Brittany K says:

    Three of my best friends are in a book club with me. I became close to two in college/grad school and I’ve known the other for over thirteen years now. They are my adulting support group, my sounding board, my inspiration to be my smartest, brightest, most creative, boldest self. And, of course, my sister will always be my bestie for life! 😀

  10. SOmeone who is always there to listen and laugh

  11. I totally relate to this – my best friend is my sister too. There are three of us girls total, and E and I were always the closest as kids and had the most in common. We became really close in high school and then when she became pregnant we got even closer too. To be honest, right now we’re kind of at a weird place because she is just in such a different stage of life than me (has a 2.5 year old son, is getting married next month) and she’s two years younger than me, but I know we’ll pull through because she’s literally the only person that has always been there for me. Sisters are so special! I’m so glad that you and your sister are so close. There’s really nothing that can replace that relationship!

  12. My best friend has been there for my since 5th grade. She has the most infectious laugh and personality. She’s just a lot of fun to be around and always cheers me up. I am glad everyday that we met and became friends.

  13. This is such a touching and amazing story!

  14. I’ve known my best friend since 6th grade. We don’t always have everything in common, but we have been through a lot together. When you have been friends with someone for more than half your life, you know it’s an important relationship.

  15. Aww…I wish I had a sister like that! My BFF has just been there for a lifetime it seems and I never worry about what version of me she is seeing 🙂 It doesn’t phase her.

  16. I LOVEDDDDDD this book!!! And I’m super jealous of your sister relationship 🙂 I don’t have siblings ( and neither does my husband), so I really don’t have any idea of what it’s like, but it seems like it’s someone who will always have your back because no matter what you’re still sisters. Friends are way more fair-weather (or they can be). I’ve had a bunch of besties come and go in my life and I think I’m now to the point where I’m just like whatever about friends. They’re nice to have, but I’ve lowered my expectations about them.

  17. When I was in collage I remember a girl saying,”I hate girls who claim to be best friends with their Mom.” And I thought how lucky I was that my mom was my mom and a best friend. Growing up without a Dad or siblings and among other things is how it happened. I have had other friends who were best friends at the time. But I always wanted a brother or sister.

  18. My best friends are my husband and my husbands best friends wife. We both suffered miscarriages which brought us closer since I could talk openly to her about how I felt and she could tell me things she was going through. I’m also super close to my sister. They are my ride or die’s and I couldn’t get through my life without them ❤

  19. This was a really nice post. It’s amazing how relationships grow and change over the years.

  20. Congratulations, Jamie! I’m so happy for you and Will (and Finn) on your news. It’s so sweet that you have your sister as your BFF.