If We Were Having Coffee

I saw a life coach I love, Ashley, do a post entitled If We Were Having Coffee and I decided to take her lead and do one myself in November 2013 because I loved it and sometimes I feel like we forget that there is a whole life behind the people that write and read blogs. I got such a great response to my initial post so I made it aΒ  reoccurring thing for the past couple of years and do it when I feel so inclined!


Processed with VSCOcam with x1 preset

So, grab your coffee/beverage of your choice and meet me for a chat. Currently I’m drinking WATER…because I had to do the 3 hour glucose test today and I literally want nothing except water after that.


If we were having coffee….I’d tell you that I’m currently reading Goodbye Days by Jeff Zentner. I can tell it’s going to destroy me just like his debut, The Serpent King, did. I’d ask what you are reading right now!

If we were having coffee.…I’d tell you that I can’t believe I’m in the third trimester and I’d tell you all about the worries I have right now — some serious, some kind of silly. I’m terrified of giving birth and, erm, the recovery. STOP READING ABOUT IT, SELF. I’m terrified something will be wrong with her. That I’ll be a terrible mom. That Will and I will not be as good of a team under the strain of parenthood as we are now. What if we go into debt bc KIDS ARE EXPENSIVE. That I will never have a life again. That I will lose who I am. That I will never get to travel ever again. And then it’s like super specific things like WHAT IF BREASTFEEDING HURTS AND IS TOO HARD or WHAT IF I NEVER FIT INTO ANY OF MY PRE-BABY CLOTHES AGAIN. There’s just so much big and little stuff to worry about and my brain can’t shut off.

If we were having coffee.…I’d tell you that I’m coming up on my 7 year anniversary of blogging next month which WOW. It’s amazing to think that I started this blog as a 24 year old and now I’m 31 and going to have a baby. The blog has definitely evolved over the years. It’s always been pretty book-focused though I do talk about a lot of things on this blog clearly but lately I’m not quite sure if it fits me anymore. The community has shifted and grown over the years and I don’t know where I fit within it anymore whereas back a few years ago I definitely did. I’ve just been writing about whatever I feel like writing for the past couple of years and it works for me, for now. I don’t know that I could ever be a ~lifestyle~ blog bc I’m not good at any of that stuff that is normally the content on those blogs. I don’t feel like I have a certain niche I want to write about though I DO know I want to keep writing about books. But will people be here if I add even MORE ~other~ stuff? I just want to write about my life, books, tv/music/movies, what’s on my mind & heart. But is that compelling to people? Do people GET anything out of my blog? I feel like before it was pretty easy to answer that…they got lots of book recommendations through various ways (reviews, lists, New to the Queue posts, etc.) and just a general haven/community for book lovers where I’d talk about different book/reading related topics that we could all relate to mostly. Now…I just don’t know. Lots to think about. I’d ask you what makes you read a blog!

If we were having coffee…. I’d tell you that our friends that live in Spain (Will’s best friend) had their baby this week and they named her one of the names in our list of 3 we narrowed down which we had to laugh about because LITERALLY OUT OF ALL THE NAMES. Will and I can’t agree on names as it is so this threw a wrench because this was his absolute favorite. Do I care about having the same name as our friends baby? I know THEY don’t care. If we weren’t SUCH good friends with them and have lots of mutuals it wouldn’t be an issue at all. Sooo still trying to make a decision on that. I’d ask what you think. Also I’d probably tell you the 3 remaining names because WE certainly can’t make a decision so maybe someone else should pick.

If we were having coffee…. I’d tell you that I was recently looking at my shelves and Goodreads list and I realized I have SO MANY series that I’m just in the middle of. I’m so bad at finishing series in general. I get so excited for the next book and then sometimes I pick it up and sometimes I get distracted and don’t because NEW SHINY BOOKS. And honestly? Sometimes I just don’t pick them up because I really can’t remember what happened previously and I don’t always want to reread every series. I sometimes read recaps of popular series but can’t always find recaps of ones that aren’t as popular. It would be so wonderful if publishers would put out a PREVIOUSLY IN X SERIES on their websites right before a new book in a series so that readers could refresh themselves. I would finish WAY more series that way. Anyways, one of my goals is to start tackling these series and finish them. I’d ask if you are like me or if you are better at reading series than I am.


If we were having coffee… I’d tell you that recently I got rid of A LOT of books. It’s so sad to part with them but 1) we need the room for the baby 2) they are going to a teacher who is amazing and does so much to really create a real love for reading in her classroom 3) I can always get them from a library. My relationship with buying books and theΒ  wanting to have a huge library have changed so much for many reasons but it feels weird. Like I still dream of the Belle library but I don’t actually think I want it these days. This last purge kind of solidified it for me because it was easier (not EASY..but easier than say years ago).Β  I’d ask about your book buying habits and if you desire a huge library vs. a more minimalist approach to owning books.


If we were having coffee….I’d tell you that though I HATE having only a handful of things that fit me right now (I’ve only bought very bare necessities for maternity wear because #iamcheap) BUT let me tell you how easy it is to get dressed in the morning! I mean, I hate that I wear the same thing over and over but I think I’m realizing for me & my closet I work best with a happy medium in between CLOTHES OVERLOAD (where my pre-pregnancy closet is at) and super minimalist (my pregnancy wardrobe). On another note, I always thought I’d be this super stylish pregnant lady but 1) I realized I’m too cheap to buy lots of stuff I will only wear for a short amount of time and 2) I JUST WANT TO BE COMFORTABLE BECAUSE NOTHING IS COMFORTABLE RIGHT NOW.

If we were having coffee….I’d tell you that one of my little projects before the baby comes is to cook more. I used to cook before Will and then he really enjoyed it more than I did so for the past almost 5 of our marriage he’s done the cooking…like every night. It’s like I forget how to cook because when he isn’t here to cook dinner and I’m left to my own devices I’m like WHAT DO I DOOOOOO. I figure, at least while I’m on maternity leave, it might be nice to become competent at cooking again especially because if they get a new project they think they might get at work then he will be working some longer hours.


If we were having coffee…what would you tell me? Come on…lay it all out! It’s just you, me, the pleasant sounds of a cafe…and maybe some other eyes in the comment section but NBD right?? Our we can have coffee in my inbox if you don’t feel comfortable. I really want to know! What’s going on with you?

Related Posts Plugin for WordPress, Blogger...
About Jamie

Jamie is a 32 year old married lady (with a new baby!!) who is in denial that she's actually that old to be a married lady and a mom. When she's not reading you can find her doing Pilates followed by eating ice cream, belting out Hamilton (loud and offkey) and having adventures with her husband, daughter and rescue dog.


  1. I’m reading ACOWAR and it’s ruining me haha. I’m only 46% the way through, ahh!
    You’ll be a great mum! The fact that you’re having all these worries, tells that!
    Don’t put too much pressure on yourself! It’s YOUR blog. Write about what you want to on it πŸ™‚ I’ll stick around! I honestly read more posts about stuff that isn’t books on your blog, than I do the ones about books! What makes me read a blog is being able to connect! And I like keeping up to date on the people I consider friends (you being one, even though we barely talk :/)!
    What was the name they picked for their baby girl? Also I’d love to know the remaining names! I LOVE names haha. Also I’ve heard that when you see your kid, the name that is meant for she/he will just click. (my DM’s are always open)
    I’d LOVE for publishers to put out a PREVIOUSLY IN X SERIES on their websites. That’d be so handy haha.
    I’ve started to wait until series are completed to read them, because otherwise I get kind of meh. I also like remembering things for the other books, so just binging the whole series works for me!
    In the past couple of years, I’ve waited to get books (or add them to my wishlist to own) until I’ve read them and liked them enough… because I just don’t have the room (or money)! Plus, I read ebooks (but I like owning physical copies of ones I enjoy)!
    I’m not even remotely a cook haha. I can make a mean boiled dinner/pot roast, but otherwise than that, nope. But it’s mostly by the time I’m done cooking, I’m no longer hungry for said food! I get all hot and impatient and it kills my appetite.
    How’d your 3 hour glucose test go?
    Not much has been going on with me, honestly. I’m pretty low key lol. But I got a couple new pen pals this year and I’m really enjoying writing back and forth with them πŸ™‚ And I recently watched “Star Wars: The Force Awakens” (I’m not a Star Wars person), but I liked it! Especially Rey, Finn, and BB8!

    • I still haven’t read ACOMAF! I was in London when it came out last year and then just never got to it because my reading life has been all over the place.

      Haha I def won’t put too much pressure on myself with the blog…never have! And that’s what I’ve been doing…writing what I want. It’s just hard to feel like I no longer FIT. It also has a lot to do with how the book community has changed and evolved. Just doing some soul searching with the blog, I guess. Figuring out what *I* want it to be.

      I can’t tell the name yet bc we still haven’t struck it off our list πŸ™‚

      We should start a petition for publishers to do this haha

      The test was BLAH. Getting blood drawn 4 times + a 3 1/2 hour wait in the waiting room. NO FUN.

  2. This is the kind of content that drew me to the book blogging community. I think since I moved to a little town where I don’t know anyone I just want to CHAT with people who have the same interests as me. And introverted bookworms aren’t exactly coming out of the woodwork in Whangarei to shake hands (I can’t even get into the library book club until someone else leaves or dies). Please don’t stop blogging. You’re one of the few bloggers I’ve found that reads and discusses both YA AND adult fiction. I’m sure the baby is probably going to take up a lot of time though. But we’ll all be here waiting quietly for you to pop in when you’ve got a moment. You mentioned book purging. I’ve done that twice in my life – once when I moved from one end of the Island to the other and we had to fit everything we owned into a van. Another time, I made my own little book fair in the office canteen to raise money for prostate cancer (actually, it was a bet I had with my partner to make him shave his ugly handlebar moustache. If I could raise $500 by selling my books, he’d shave it off and the proceeds would all go to charity). There are some books I wish I hadn’t sold – like my first copies of American Gods, and Stardust. But on reflection, selling those books introduced someone else to my favourite writer (love you Neil) and that’s an awesome feeling!

  3. I just added the Serpent King to my list.

    I’m a two time mom of two adorable girls – 5 and 8. You sound just like I did when I was pregnant the first time. You will be a great mom because you want to be. We all do it different and no way is right. You will recover fine, we all do. Breastfeeding will be so, so hard (it is for all of us) and the baby will click, or she won’t. Formula is actually made to grow healthy babies, too. (We forget that.) breast feeding was hard with one of my girls. One was exclusively breastfed for 9 months, one hardly at all — they’re both fine. My formula one is actually smarter because there’s more to your kids success in life that what you feed them as a babe.

    if we were having coffee, I would tell you that I am ready for school to be over for summer. I’m planning on reading aloud Harry Potter to my kids and I can’t wait. We are going to swim all summer and play with kids who live by us.

  4. All your thoughts about your baby’s birth are so normal! I’m almost 40, so I and most of my friends have had multiple kids by now. I’ve felt and heard versions of those fears many times.

    On these “That I will never have a life again. That I will lose who I am. That I will never get to travel ever again.”: You won’t have a life if you don’t make it priority to have a life. You will lose who you are if you don’t make it a priority to maintain your identity. Use babysitters. Keep up your hobbies and the things that make you who you are. You may have to cut down the time spent on those hobbies and focus on your 1 or 2 favorite ones and cut the rest, but it can be done. I actually read a ton when my kids were newborns. Breastfeeding is a great time to read! Prop that Kindle up on the boppy pillow and you’ve got a couple hours of built-in reading time a day! And – traveling with an infant is easy…travel while she’s an infant (i.e. before she’s mobile) and take her with you. When she becomes a toddler is when traveling with her becomes harder.

    Oh – and breastfeeding is hard to get the hang of! Use the lactation people in the hospital to help you. It didn’t really hurt me, but I did find it logistically difficult with both my kids. Takes a bit for you and baby to find the positions that work best and for baby to learn how to latch on. And if it’s not working for you then don’t beat yourself up about it…giving a baby formula is not the end of the world!!

    You’re going to be fine and wishing you luck!

  5. If we were having coffee, I’d tell you that all those worries are normal and I had them too when I was pregnant. I’d also tell you that when my daughter was born we made a conscious choice to go into debt so I could work part time and be with her more. It was stressful and now that she’s 7 I’m going back to work full time and we paid most of the debt down. The stress was worth it overall (for us- everyone has to make their own choices about what’s right for their family) to have that time with her. But man, it was hard sometimes those first years. We knew pretty early on that she would be an only so we also knew there was a finite amount of time that we would accrue the debt. I’d tell you that I’m a little sad to have bankers hours again and that I’ll miss the flexibility I had before but I am also super excited about this job and so much (for us) money. I’m nervous about having to put my daughter in after school care next year but she’s totally not. Her circus classes (yes, you read that right. She is all about trapeze and Lyra) have an after school program and she excited to go. I’m the one who is worried. She’s all “peace out, mom, I’m going to hang upside on the trapeze. See you at dinner!”

    I’d commiserate that people naming is HARD.

    I’d also tell tou that breastfeeding is super hard and I’d share that I made it too high a priority and stressed myself out and woke up in the middle of the night to pump enough milk for her to have the two days a week I was at work. I’d tell you that eventually, I had to supplement with formula and you what? It was okay. She ate, I slept and in the end it actually lead to me breastfeeding longer because I wasn’t such an anxious freak about it. Feed your baby. It doesn’t matter how.

    I’d ask you for recommendations for new adult books. I’m a sucker for them right now even though they are often smutty and formulaic. I’ve read my way through sarina Bowen, Elle Kennedy, dahlia Adler and the Inked series. I need more new adult!

    I’d also confess that I’m reading the last book in Jenny Han’s Lara Jean series and I may DNF it. It’s cute but I’m just not connecting with it the way I did the others. Maybe I’ll come back to it after I’ve gotten through this new adult kick?

  6. Jamie, let me tell you about the breastfeeding thing… if it makes you miserable, or uptight, you don’t have to do it! Babies can pick up on your emotions, plus, the biggest deal with breastfeeding is the “bonding” and if you are miserable that’s not conducive to bonding. Also, don’t let the Nipple Nazies (lactation coaches and the La Leche League) tell you a baby will get “nipple confusion” if you pump and bottle feed, or suppliment with bottles. They don’t, they will still breastfeed after being given a bottle. Also, the formulas they have now are fabulous. My son ended up on formula after two weeks and he never had any of the things they try to scare you about: no ear infections, no digestive problems, he didn’t have allergies (until he developed hayfever at 18 years old, ha ha), and as far as brain development – he was in the gifted class all through elementary school and middle school, he was a John Hopkins talent search winner in sixth grade, he was a Nobel Society Scholar, in National Honor Society, and graduated with honors with three different full diplomas (NYS Regents, Rod Serling Fine Arts School, and RIT Lead-the-Way pre-engineering), so don’t worry! Do what is best for you and little baby. The bonding comes from body contact, not the act of breastfeeding. Just make sure to hold the little one a lot. <3

  7. Look! I’m reading a blog. I love you. Text me. xo

  8. I would absolutely love for publishers to do a PREVIOUSLY ON X SERIES. There are times I actually put off reading a series just because I know the next book isn’t going to come out for a long time and I’ll just have to reread the previous books because I won’t remember and won’t have time to. Now I’m in the middle of I don’t know how many series and wondering how I’m going to keep them all straight when the next book comes out…

    As for the baby thing. As hard as it is, try not to stress too much. I know, way easier said than done. The first few months can be really hard, though. I’m just going to say it. You’ll be exhausted and your hormones will be all crazy, so accept help where you can get it and always go with your gut. Stay away from mommy forums or blogs or whatever. You will know what to do. I was so freaked out about breastfeeding and holding the baby right, but most of it all comes naturally. If it doesn’t… don’t worry. Ask trusted females for help and do what is right for you and your baby when it comes to all decisions. A lot of it won’t be easy, but you can do it!

    • I’ve started waiting for series to be finished before I start them, too. If I can’t remember all the items on my grocery list, I definitely can’t remember all the details in a book for 2 years while I wait for the next one.

  9. Ciara Smyth says:

    I definitely wish they had “Previously on X series”. I have abandoned series’ because I can’t remember what happened in the last one one and I don’t want to re-read it.
    I’d also say go for the name you like. It’s only a name and you might as well pick the one you want.
    Anyway, I like your blog, whatever way you go with it in the future.

  10. Choosing names is soooo hard. I don’t think The Hubs and I ever disagreed more on anything else we’ve had to make decisions on. It took forever for us to decide on one. We only had one condition if it was a girl she’d have my middle name and if it was a boy he’d have his.

    As for blogging, I love your blog. Our interests shift, and that’s completely okay. I’d still come read it. It’s your space… do what you want. πŸ˜€

    As for baby fears… Those are legit. And yes kids are EXPENSIVE. My kiddos are 13 and almost 8, and I finally feel like I’m at a place where I can do things I want to do. Not that I didn’t before, but I was always that overachiever mom. I’ve let the reigns on that drop some. I’ve had to figure out how to be a great mom without feeling like I had to compete with what other moms are doing.

    I’m pretty minimalist when it comes to my closet. But I want to know why they make maternity clothes so expensive when you only wear them for a short period of time. With my second pregnancy I practically lived in yoga pants and just bought bigger shirts. I couldn’t justify spending 40-50 on a maternity pants.

    Your little one will be here before you know it! Take as much time as you can to enjoy Will and being just the two of you. I’m not going to lie, parenting is tough in the beginning. You think of all the ways you can screw up your kids, but that’s totally normal. Y’all are going to rock as parents.

  11. If we were having coffee… I’d tell you that my third trimester worries are basically exactly the same! You are certainly not alone! Whilst I have no words of wisdom, as I’m right there with you (I have a dress I wore once last summer, and I will be devastated if I never manage to wear it again due to baby-related body changes!), someone did recently say to me that worrying about any and all things baby means you’re gonna be ace the parenting thing, as it shows you care and are thinking about what to do, which is not what good parents do, so hopefully that provides some perspective! I’m finding that having a baby takes up so much more of my headspace than I ever imagined – feel like it’s all I think / talk about right now, and there’s such a to do list of things to do / buy / arrange!

  12. I feel your fear about breastfeeding and I want to be completely honest with you, for your first time, it will hurt. I remember having the same fear with my son (my first) and I will admit that even prepared knowing it hurt didn’t fully prepare me for the actual thing. But it hurts because of the frequency that a newborn will want to feed and eventually that will go away. I’m talking one day the baby will be eating and you won’t even know it’s happening until they’re what I like to call “milk drunk” and pass out in your arms.

    I also agree with people here. I was blessed with determination, an understanding husband who did most of the poops (and I’m talking every time I fed, they pooped), but more importantly, I did not have any issues with flow or my children being tongue tied. There is no shame in using formula. I was in the Army when I had my son and I was able to pump for about 6 months but eventually, I had to give him more and more formula. It broke my heart but I knew that my pride wasn’t worth my baby starving because I wanted to make the 1 yr mark. Also, I did find when my son got introduced to formula that he was lactose intolerant (I’m talking explosive vomiting, horrible stomach pain, and gas) and so we had to use other non-milk based formula. It helped him out tremendously.

  13. What I love most about your blog is that you just speak and share from the heart. I will read whatever you write, and I don’t think you need to feel compelled to follow some idea of what a blog should be. People love you for being you!

  14. If we were having coffee, I’d tell you I just started reading Difficult Women by Roxane Gay. I haven’t read The Serpent King, but I think it’s on my nook. I’m really bad about keeping up with what’s on their and reading what I have on there.
    I’d tell you that your fears are normal! It’s okay to freak out and worry about giving birth. I’ve never done it (and probably never will now thanks to the GOP), but I’ve seen plenty of women get through it. Some are more dramatic than others, but they all get through it and so will you! I believe in you! Breastfeeding will be hard, but there should be people there to help you! Don’t be afraid to ask for help! People think it should be a natural process, but it takes some work. You’ll have a life and get to travel- it just may look different than how you thought it would! I have another friend struggling with that right now. She accidentally got pregnant and was so upset she wouldn’t be able to travel the world with her husband anymore. But you both will get to! It’ll just be different. Just remind yourself that it took 40 weeks for your body to get the way it is now- it’ll take time to get back to pre pregnancy shape too.
    I’d tell you that I love your blog! It’s one of the few I actually keep up with! I’d probably still read it even if you never posted anything book related ever again.
    Oh man I’m the worst at naming things. My husband had to name our cats because when I was little I named my cat Stripes because she had stripes. I’d probably name a child Baby or something like that. It would be terrible. I understand what you mean about the names though. We have a few that we like if we ever do have children, but the one I love the most for a girl is what my friend that is pregnant wants to name her child if she has a girl (she’s not finding out the sex of the baby). I had a name I really liked for a boy but someone I don’t like from back home named their son that, so it kind of ruined it. We’ve also been told names by my husband’s sisters we absolutely cannot name future children because that’s what they want to name their future children. Like, ugh. There’s so much more that goes into naming a child than just picking a name. I hope y’all find something you both love though!
    Ugh, series. I try to wait until they’re finished before reading them. Which is why I have the Throne of Glass books but have not read a. single. one. I just don’t like the wait. OR being thrown a surprise *ahem* Jenny Han. I like series, but having to wait for the Harry Potter books one by one ruined me.
    The bigger the library, the better. We keep buying bookshelves because we keep running out of room for all of the books. We have some piled on the floor. The only bad thing is we don’t really have room for more bookshelves in our guest room unless we get rid of the bed in there. :\ I just want to own ALL OF THE BOOKS.
    I’m sorry your wardrobe is causing you so many problems. I can’t even imagine what going through that is like. I’ve seen the pictures you post on twitter/instagram though, and you always look super cute!
    I don’t like cooking. My husband does most of it. I’m probably going to have to start doing more of it though. He’s taking on more jobs next semester and we won’t ever see each other unless it’s my night off. I just don’t have time to cook working 12 hour night shifts. I guess I’ll have to cook when I am off though. I hope you find some good recipes!

  15. I smiled so many times as I read this. Yes, Jeff Zentner books make me cry. I am currently reading ACOWAR! The third trimester is the worst. It seems so much longer than all the others, and I remember wanting to flee the hospital during my daughter’s birth. Don’t worry, you’ll do great! Seven years of blogging! Congratulations! Remember: you are beautiful and you are making a person, creating the next generation. That is a very important job. This is making me very nostalgic. My daughter will graduate from college next week, and I miss her to pieces.
    Sam @ WLABB

  16. If we were having coffee…I’d tell you that I’m rereading the second in the Nero Wolfe series by Rex Stout, a series that I’ve read most of the books in. I’d tell you that I’m probably better at reading series than you are, but mostly because the series I read are older crime fiction and the series are already finished and aren’t ongoing. I’d tell you that you should listen to the other ladies’ advice here about your concerns during your third trimester. They sound like they know what they’re talking about. I’d tell you that as far as blogging, you should write what you want to write: life, books, tv/music/movies, and most especially what’s on your mind and heart, because that is compelling to people. I think that’s what draws people to your blog: your mind and heart. It’s what draws me anyway. I’d tell you that I don’t mind being a minimalist in terms of my book buying and book owning habits. I’m looking at our bookshelf and it has less than 100 books on it and we’re okay with that. We mostly borrow books from the library and that is more than okay with us. We do occassionally buy books, but very few and mostly Kindle books.

  17. Ugh. The baby name thing. I don’t have kids just yet, but I’m planning to. I had a name for a baby girl in mind since I was in high school but then last year my bestfriend had her baby and she named her the exact same name. Literally the same with the exact same spelling (there are several different spellings). Several months later, my husband’s cousin had her baby and she named her THE. EXACT. SAME. NAME. About the next month, another friend had her baby and she named her the same name with a different spelling. So that was it, then. I chose another name and guess what? My husband’s friend used it too for her baby. Am I cursed?

    I’m currently reading Mistletoe and Murder by Robin Stevens. It’s a book from the Murder Most Unladylike middle grade series. I’ve been so crazy about the series!

  18. IT WAS YOU. Which, weird comment is weird, but I saw this feature before and loved it and wanted to use it on my own blog (which I did, by the way) but I could not FOR THE LIFE OF ME remember where I’d seen it to link back so I guess this comment is kind of an apology for that.
    Also: I’m pretty sure the ‘gonna-be-a-Mum’ worrying is the most normal so don’t…worry? You’re going to be amazing <3

  19. There is a blog, Laineygossip, that has a regular post in there lifestyle section on baby names. I have no need for baby names but I love reading it. Parents write in for help choosing or maybe just to get their thoughts out. Anyway it is fun, to me, to see the thought process that goes into choosing, plus just to read the name combos.

  20. I am reading Raven Boys by Maggie Stiefvater, and I am not going to lie to anyone here but it’s confusing me a little so far. But I am intrigued and I will keep reading it, just so I know what happens at the end. Because I am just that curious. πŸ™‚ On another note, I realize this is a series and most of the books on the series are out right now, so I would (if I like the book) read everything in the series before I go onto another book. I am more of a mood reader though, so if I feel like a hot exciting romance in the middle of a series I am reading, I am known to put down one book and pick up the other. πŸ™‚
    As per your worries about your baby, these are very normal. I had my daughter when I was 30 years old, and I was so scared due to the fact that most of the time my husband and I like to act like children ourselves, but when push comes to shove it all works out. πŸ™‚ You’ll do just perfect. As for the baby names, we couldn’t decide for the longest time also, and due to that my daughter now has 3 names and a last name, I also wanted to stick my maiden name on her but we had to stop somewhere haha 4 names is hard enough for a little person to learn. πŸ™‚
    I read blogs for interactive posts like these, I find it’s always good to get to know the person you’re communicating with and to tell you the truth these “discussion” topics are far more interesting to me than reading a book about a book hehehe, if you know what I mean.

  21. This is such a fun post to change upon for my first time on your blog! I really enjoyed it πŸ™‚
    I have only started my blog like a half a year ago, but I’m already wondering bout the types of posts I should have. Only bookish DOES get boring, doesn’t it? So I totally get what you mean. And ‘just life’ posts are fun, personally, I like them. Who says it only has to be books? We’re a community here.
    Also, good luck on your big (and possibly scary) adventure! I also totally get you about your library. I’m happy I am fine with reading e-books – you have no idea how much space they save. Rather, _I_ probably have no idea how much space they would take IF they were not e-books πŸ˜€

  22. Oh, Jamie. Breathe! All your thoughts pre-baby are totally normal. Heck, my son is 18 months now and there’s days that I’m STILL worrying about everything, like “how am I going to do this!?” I can’t explain it. But as soon as you hold him/her (I don’t know what you’re having!), it all just…clicks into place. There’s still a learning curve, you still have to adjust, but overall? Everything just makes sense. Which I know sounds totally ridiculous, but it does. You won’t lose who you are, but who you are will change. Not in a bad way, but it changes. As far as the birth and recovery…I was SO SO SO scared of labor. Like…my entire pregnancy, my blood pressure was normal. Went in to the hospital to have him, and it SHOT up. Like 180/80. They had to give me medication to calm me down before they could start anything. And even then, it stayed up pretty high. But honestly? I don’t remember the pain, or anything like that. The only thing that stayed with me is the first time they held him up and showed me his face, and when I got to hold him for the first time. It’s hard to explain. Everything just felt perfect. The birth, and the recovery, were just a blip on the radar.

    Also, there’s TONS of great ways to get baby deals! Let me know if you need any help! I coupon and deal hunt (life of a single mama), I’d be glad to help you!


  1. […] “If We Were Having Coffee” @ The Perpetual Page-Turner […]