Some Real Talk About Change

 

Two weekends ago, in the spirit of making room for the baby, Will and I were SUPER productive and started going through our hall closet where — in addition to coats — I hung a lot of my fancier dresses that I didn’t want in my regular, every day closet. I pull out this short little black number I haven’t worn in like 7 years (one of those going out dresses that elicited a bewildered “HOW IS THAT A DRESS/HOW WOULD THAT EVEN COVER YOUR CROTCH?” from Will to which I was like “WELL IT DID WHEN I WAS A SIZE ZERO SO” even though I was seriously wondering how even then it did). I had to get real with myself and toss this dress in the donate pile because 1) even NOT pregnant there is no way I’m squeezing myself into that thing anytime soon and 2) I have literally no reason or occasion to wear this dress ever again.

And this happened like 8 more times with dresses that were from my early/mid 20’s. And I weirdly didn’t want to get rid of them — I was clutching on to them for dear life. I’m 31 and my 30’s are great so far. I’ve said my goodbyes to my 20’s. BUT DID I REALLY? Every time I put one of these dresses in the donate pile it felt like I was mourning my 20’s. GOODBYE YOUTH. Even though I haven’t lived that life, these dresses were echos of, in quite some time.

As I put the last dress in the pile, I look at Will and I’m like, “I HATE CHANGE!”

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Things I’ve Been Doing While I Haven’t Been Blogging

Oh helloooo there! I am still alive. Trying to get myself motivated to blog again — it’s like I have motivation in my head but the actual physical act of opening my laptop, logging into this thing and typing just somehow doesn’t happen.

So let’s talk about all the things I’ve been doing that clearly aren’t blogging….seems like an easy way to get back into this.

 

1. Having an epic reading slump and then somehow defeating it: Oh man guys. Some rough days I had where I just didn’t want to read. No desire. But then I WANTED to but my brain honestly felt like it couldn’t concentrate. I’ve been told maybe it’s pregnancy brain? IDK. It was terrible. But in the past month I have been a bonafide reading machine. I cannot wait to share with you guys what I’ve been reading because I’ve read some pretty delightful things! Are we friends on Goodreads? You can get a sneak peek of what I’ve been reading before I write about it on here.

2. Having an identity crisis as a blogger: Blogging hasn’t been on my mind much since finding out I was pregnant because for the first trimester I was so so so sick that I just couldn’t do anything but then I just had so much other stuff. But honestly some of it? I don’t know what this blog is anymore after almost 7 years and where it’s going to go. It’s no secret that I write about a lot of other stuff than books and have for a long time but I just feel all sorts of “what is going to become of this blog?” feelings. I’ve moved to a bit of a lifestyle + heavy books feel mostly but I don’t know what the direction will be once I have the baby. In my heart of hearts I don’t want this to be a mom blog (just not a thing I personally want to do) but I do feel like that’s going to be a big part of my life so naturally some posts would reflect that just as anything else in my life. And then the worries of having less time and reading less books? I’m just kind of letting this blog be whatever it is. I feel like most of you have stuck around here for ME and not just all book stuff but who knows?

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If We Were Having Coffee (Aka WHERE THE HECK HAVE I BEEN??)

I saw a life coach I love, Ashley, do a post entitled If We Were Having Coffee and I decided to take her lead and do one myself in November 2013 because I loved it and sometimes I feel like we forget that there is a whole life behind the people that write and read blogs. I got such a great response to my initial post so I made it a  reoccurring thing for the past couple of years and do it when I feel so inclined!

 

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So, grab your coffee/beverage of your choice and meet me for a chat. Currently I’m drinking water…because water is good for you.

 

If we were having coffee….I’d immediately cut to the chase and slide over this picture to you to let you know why I’ve been so MIA.

 

 

If we were having coffee.…I’d wait until you asked me if were were getting another dog or having a human and tell you that I’ve been growing a human inside of me. INDEED I HAVE. Will and I are very excited. Finn was bribed to pretend he was excited for the sake of a cute announcement picture. How he really feels about not being an only child anymore:

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If We Were Having Coffee

I saw a life coach I love, Ashley, do a post entitled If We Were Having Coffee and I decided to take her lead and do one myself in November 2013 because I loved it and sometimes I feel like we forget that there is a whole life behind the people that write and read blogs. I got such a great response to my initial post so I made it a  reoccurring thing for the past couple of years and do it when I feel so inclined!

 

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So, grab your coffee/beverage of your choice and meet me for a chat. Currently I’m drinking some La Croix…apparently I’m channeling my mom in the 90’s. I distinctly remember NOT liking this stuff as a kid.

 

If we were having coffee….I’d tell you that I’m currently reading Kids of Appetite by David Arnold. I’m literally on page 1 so I can’t tell you how it is but I’m super excited because I loved his debut Mosquitoland so much.

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If we were having coffee.…I’d tell you that I’m flabbergasted that we are in September. I feel like I say this all the time, “where did summer go?” “where did 2016 go?” but really. I was thinking about it the other day how when I was younger time really did seem a lot slower to me. I distinctly remember feeling like an hour was the whole day and the whole summer was an eternity until I could go back to school. Now I feel like an hour slips through my hands in a second and a whole summer can pass me by when I blink (no but seriously I had a whole list of fun things I wanted to do this summer and I did a quarter of them and WHAT HAPPENED?). Is it that I’m too aware of time and the fact it’s not endless and I’m desperate to hold on to it? Is it that I’m not living in the moment as much? Am I too distracted? Trying to do too many things? Not using my time wisely?  Whatever the reason is I’d really like to channel my younger self and see an hour as something that I can do a lot with. Now I think of an hour and feel like I can’t accomplish much in it (which sometimes because maybe I’m not 100% focused). I’d ask you if you are feeling like this summer or year in generally has flown.

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If We Were Having Coffee

I saw a life coach I love, Ashley, do a post entitled If We Were Having Coffee and I decided to take her lead and do one myself in November 2013 because I loved it and sometimes I feel like we forget that there is a whole life behind the people that write and read blogs. I got such a great response to my initial post so I made it a  reoccurring thing for the past couple of years and do it when I feel so inclined!

 

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So, grab your coffee/beverage of your choice and meet me for a chat. Currently I’m drinking a chocolate peanut butter and banana smoothie.

 

If we were having coffee….I’d tell you that I’m currently reading This Savage Song by Victoria Schwab but I’m not too far into it. I’d ask you what you are currently reading!

 

If we were having coffee.… I’d tell you that my new baby nephew was born on July 8th — he’s healthy and adorable and Genevieve and Adela just adore him. Seriously, being an aunt is the coolest. I was thinking about how when I was growing up I wasn’t always geographically close to my aunts and uncles so I don’t have a ton of memories with them which is sad (though the ones I have are great) and then I got sad that I’m not really close with any of them now. It definitely made me want to reach out to my aunts and uncles but also it made me really want to continue to make sure I’m a part of the lives of these kids. I’ve always kind of wanted to move away from the Philly area for a new adventure but my heart breaks every time I think about leaving them and not having this relationship with them where they see me AT LEAST once a month. The relationship I have with them is just so special and I just love them so freaking much. I’d ask you if you are an aunt or an uncle or if you have a close relationship with yours.

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If We Were Having Coffee

I saw a life coach I love, Ashley, do a post entitled If We Were Having Coffee and I decided to take her lead and do one myself in November 2013 because I loved it and sometimes I feel like we forget that there is a whole life behind the people that write and read blogs. I got such a great response to my initial post so I made it a  reoccurring thing for the past couple of years and do it when I feel so inclined!

 

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So, grab your coffee/beverage of your choice and meet me for a chat. Currently I’m drinking an iced mocha so YAY for once I’m actually drinking coffee when I do one of these.

 

If we were having coffee….I’d tell you that I’m currently reading Wanderlost by Jen Malone. I’d ask you what you are currently reading!

 

If we were having coffee.… I’d tell you that my heart has been very heavy after Orlando. My heart breaks for the families and friends and loved ones who lost people and for the survivors who had to witness something so unimaginable. I’m heartbroken over and over again every time something like this happens — seeing the faces and learning the names and about who they were. I feel beaten down from it and something needs to change. That’s all I’m going to say because I refuse to talk politics during our coffee date. The other aspect that comes up for me every time is this building of fear in me. I try not to let it affect me when I go in public but I would be lying if I said I didn’t check my surroundings for exits and think about what I’d do. I don’t want to live in fear and not do things but maaaan it’s hard to not feel on edge sometimes especially when these things are happening so often. I’d ask you to tell me one really great fantastic thing you saw or heard or witnessed — an act of kindness, something funny or sweet, etc — because I need to hear something good.

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If We Were Having Coffee

I saw a life coach I love, Ashley, do a post entitled If We Were Having Coffee and I decided to take her lead and do one myself in November 2013 because I loved it and sometimes I feel like we forget that there is a whole life behind the people that write and read blogs. I got such a great response to my initial post so I made it a  reoccurring thing for the past couple of years and do it when I feel so inclined!

 

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So, grab your coffee/beverage of your choice and meet me for a chat. Currently I’m drinking a cup of the Reading Nook tea from Plum Deluxe which is a monthly tea service that so kindly set me some tea to sample (this post is not sponsored at all…just genuinely stoked to try some new tea)! I’m digging the Reading Nook flavor — I have a chamomile/lavender one I’ve always liked but oh man this has rose and vanilla too with the chamomile and lavender and it’s so tasty. I feel like I’m soooo going to ask for a subscription to this for my birthday because 1) I can never think of things when people ask me 2) I drink so much tea and always want to try new things that this will be the perfect way to find new teas and never run out of my favorites.

 

If we were having coffee….I’d tell you that I’m currently reading The Winner’s Kiss (OMG!!! SO NERVOUS/SAD FOR THIS SERIES TO END) and Saga Volume 5. I’d ask you what you are currently reading!

If we were having coffee.… I’d tell you how we are getting down to the last month before our trip to London and Madrid. I’m in that phase where I’m loosely planning all the things we want to do and see and I’m like OMG I WANT TO DO EVERYTHING AND WE CAN’T AND I WANT TO CRY BUT I AM SO HAPPY TO BE GOING BUT OMG WE NEED MORE THAN 2 WEEKS. I’d ask you to tell me your trip planning strategies!

 

If we were having coffee.… I’d tell you that my wrist is FINALLY pretty much healed. I’m sosososo excited to finally be easing back in to some of my workouts that were wrist based. It’s amazing how thankful you become for things that you take for granted in your daily life — the fact that I normally have full use of my wrist and arm. I learned A LOT about patience and not jumping back too soon — taking the necessary healing time is crucial even though it was hard to do. I’d ask you if you’ve ever had an injury! I’m always curious because the most I’ve ever done was like sprain a thumb or something before this. Seriously.

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If We Were Having Coffee

I saw a life coach I love, Ashley, do a post entitled If We Were Having Coffee and I decided to take her lead and do one myself in November 2013 because I loved it and sometimes I feel like we forget that there is a whole life behind the people that write and read blogs. I got such a great response to my initial post so I made it a  reoccurring thing for the past couple of years and do it when I feel so inclined!

 

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So, grab your coffee/beverage of your choice and meet me for a chat. I’ve got some Sleepy Time tea in hand (god I never actually have coffee when I do these posts…I used to drink it but cut down a lot). I’m excited to chat with you all because it’s been since October!!!

 

If we were having coffee….I’d tell you that I’m currently finishing up Underwater by Marisa Reichhardt and also reading the Goblet of Fire (yes, this is a first time read of Harry Potter for me!) I’d ask you what you are reading…

If we were having coffee.… I’d tell you how totally pumped I am for 2016. I mean, we are only 5 days in but I am totally dominating on some of things I wanted to work on this year. I’ve started working out again (wee hiatus this Fall until now) and I want to die but I feel great. I’ve been nourishing my body again with all the healthy food after my sugar coma and major overeating from the holidays. No seriously Will and I eat pretty healthy 80% of the time and then the holidays we turn into rabid sugar monsters.  I’m setting up a nice bed time (hence the sleepy time tea right now!) and morning routine because I have issues with sleep and that’s one of my goals. I’ll tell you…I don’t think it’s a coincidence that I’ve been exercising, eating right and attempting to sleep better and I feel READY TO CONQUER THE WORLD. I’d ask you about some of your goals and desires and intentions and hopes for 2016 and I’d probably share with you some of the other stuff that is on my TO CONQUER list for 2016 and I’d be super invigorated about how badass 2016 is going to be for us.

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If we were having coffee.… I’d tell you how super excited I am for the trip Will and I are taking this year. We are going to London for a week and then to Madrid to visit friends for a week. I’m excited to be going back to London (Will has never been) and getting to experience a new city. I’m a person who feels very frustrated when I can’t explore and travel and in the past couple years we’ve had to cut down on travel stuff because $$ and I just feel so discontent that I just want to jump out of my own skin. I’m excited to have some adventures and spend time with Will and probably get lost. It will be fun because Will and I have both been to Europe but never together! Only mildly freaking out at the thought of leaving Finn for 2 weeks. I don’t want him to feel abandoned especially being a rescue dog. I’d ask you if you have any travel plans for 2016 and if you’ve been to either of the cities I’m going to/have recs of things to do/eat/etc.

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Best Of 2015: All Things Not Books!

The past three years I brought you the best of all things NOT books and it was fun so I figured I’d do it again!

If you want to read all my best of books posts we’ve got:

End of Year Book Survey (my answers still to come)
Best 2015 Debuts
Best 2015 Releases
Best Backlist Books I Read In 2015
Most Underrated Books Of 2015

 

So let’s get to this:

best music 2013

10 Favorite 2015 Albums

(in no particular order)

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This is so fun for me always because 1) I keep meticulous track of my music (a habit dating back to college before I had Spotify and things like that) and 2) because I keep track of it meticulously it’s SO easy to put this together.

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If We Were Having Coffee

I saw a life coach I love, Ashley, do a post entitled If We Were Having Coffee and I decided to take her lead and do one myself in November 2013 because I loved it and sometimes I feel like we forget that there is a whole life behind the people that write and read blogs. I got such a great response to my initial post so I made it a  reoccurring thing for the past couple of years and do it when I feel so inclined!

 

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So, grab your coffee/beverage of your choice and meet me for a chat. I’ve got some amaaaazing Harvest tea from Trader Joe’s that has hints of apple and cinnamon and ginger and all sorts of other goodness. And I have a soy pumpkin candle burning so THE MOOD IS RIGHT, Y’ALL!

 

If we were having coffee….I’d tell you that I’m currently reading A Step Toward Falling by Cammie McGovern.  I’d ask you what you are currently reading!

If we were having coffee.… I’d tell you how much this past month having our rescue dog, Finn, has changed me. He’s such a silly, loving and sweet pup who is so good though it hasn’t been without its trials (he and my dad’s dog hating each other, teaching him to walk properly on a leash, training, etc.) but I’m enjoying it all. He’s gotten us out even more (for walks, to hike, to the dog park) and we’ve met so many different people. The other thing is how much he has opened up my heart to the rescuing process. My heart breaks for all these lost and abandoned animals. Will and I have started volunteering in different ways with different shelters (including the high kill shelter Finn was originally at before DogTown rescued him) and the rescue we got Finn at who does SUCH good work and is full of awesome people. I’d ask you if you have a pet/ever rescued an animal but I’d also ask you if you’ve discovered something new you are passionate about that you hadn’t even realized.

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If we were having coffee.… I’d tell you how I recently did something very out of my comfort zone and I had such a good time and I think it could lead to good things. It’s scary but also so invigorating to go outside of your comfort zone. I asked myself, “what’s the worst that could happen if I did this?” and honestly the WORST thing was no biggie honestly. It’s definitely one of those moments where I’m like YAS SELF TAKE MORE RISKS, BE MORE FEARLESS, KICK THAT COMFORT ZONE ASIDE. I’d ask you what’s the last thing you did that was out of your comfort zone and you felt great about it!

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