If We Were Having Coffee

I saw a life coach I love, Ashley, do a post entitled If We Were Having Coffee and I decided to take her lead and do one myself in November 2013 because I loved it and sometimes I feel like we forget that there is a whole life behind the people that write and read blogs. I got such a great response to my initial post so I made it a  reoccurring thing for the past couple of years and do it when I feel so inclined!

 

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So, grab your coffee/beverage of your choice and meet me for a chat. Currently I’m drinking an iced mocha so YAY for once I’m actually drinking coffee when I do one of these.

 

If we were having coffee….I’d tell you that I’m currently reading Wanderlost by Jen Malone. I’d ask you what you are currently reading!

 

If we were having coffee.… I’d tell you that my heart has been very heavy after Orlando. My heart breaks for the families and friends and loved ones who lost people and for the survivors who had to witness something so unimaginable. I’m heartbroken over and over again every time something like this happens — seeing the faces and learning the names and about who they were. I feel beaten down from it and something needs to change. That’s all I’m going to say because I refuse to talk politics during our coffee date. The other aspect that comes up for me every time is this building of fear in me. I try not to let it affect me when I go in public but I would be lying if I said I didn’t check my surroundings for exits and think about what I’d do. I don’t want to live in fear and not do things but maaaan it’s hard to not feel on edge sometimes especially when these things are happening so often. I’d ask you to tell me one really great fantastic thing you saw or heard or witnessed — an act of kindness, something funny or sweet, etc — because I need to hear something good.

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And I’m Off….

Today is the day….Will and I are heading off to London for a week and then Madrid for a week to stay with our friends who moved there this past summer. I’m sad to leave Finn (like I’ve cried about it multiple times already) and I am dreading a couple hours from now when I have to take him to the boarding place (it’s where he was rescued and they are awesome and he will have fun at the indoor dog park) because I know I’m going to cry when I have to leave him. That probably sounds dumb but I actually don’t care…I love my buddy and I worry he will think we’ve left him like whoever dumped him before.

I’m excited to return to London and figured it would be fun to do a little #throwbackthursday  (a day late but I *started* most of this post on Thursday sooo?) and share some pics from my first trip to London in 2007.

 

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If We Were Having Coffee

I saw a life coach I love, Ashley, do a post entitled If We Were Having Coffee and I decided to take her lead and do one myself in November 2013 because I loved it and sometimes I feel like we forget that there is a whole life behind the people that write and read blogs. I got such a great response to my initial post so I made it a  reoccurring thing for the past couple of years and do it when I feel so inclined!

 

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So, grab your coffee/beverage of your choice and meet me for a chat. Currently I’m drinking a cup of the Reading Nook tea from Plum Deluxe which is a monthly tea service that so kindly set me some tea to sample (this post is not sponsored at all…just genuinely stoked to try some new tea)! I’m digging the Reading Nook flavor — I have a chamomile/lavender one I’ve always liked but oh man this has rose and vanilla too with the chamomile and lavender and it’s so tasty. I feel like I’m soooo going to ask for a subscription to this for my birthday because 1) I can never think of things when people ask me 2) I drink so much tea and always want to try new things that this will be the perfect way to find new teas and never run out of my favorites.

 

If we were having coffee….I’d tell you that I’m currently reading The Winner’s Kiss (OMG!!! SO NERVOUS/SAD FOR THIS SERIES TO END) and Saga Volume 5. I’d ask you what you are currently reading!

If we were having coffee.… I’d tell you how we are getting down to the last month before our trip to London and Madrid. I’m in that phase where I’m loosely planning all the things we want to do and see and I’m like OMG I WANT TO DO EVERYTHING AND WE CAN’T AND I WANT TO CRY BUT I AM SO HAPPY TO BE GOING BUT OMG WE NEED MORE THAN 2 WEEKS. I’d ask you to tell me your trip planning strategies!

 

If we were having coffee.… I’d tell you that my wrist is FINALLY pretty much healed. I’m sosososo excited to finally be easing back in to some of my workouts that were wrist based. It’s amazing how thankful you become for things that you take for granted in your daily life — the fact that I normally have full use of my wrist and arm. I learned A LOT about patience and not jumping back too soon — taking the necessary healing time is crucial even though it was hard to do. I’d ask you if you’ve ever had an injury! I’m always curious because the most I’ve ever done was like sprain a thumb or something before this. Seriously.

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“Why Don’t You Just Write About It On Your Blog?” Says The Husband

(OH MY GOD I AM SO SORRY FOR HOW LONG THIS POST IS)

I’m not going to lie. My head has been in a weird space lately with blogging. I’ve had this blog for over 5 1/2 years and I’ve blogged with regularity — going through the normal slumps like anyone else or just little life things (aka wedding planning back in 2012) getting in the way here and there. I take time away when I need it (big proponent of blogging breaks!) and honestly even when I don’t I schedule mini vacations for myself. I reevaluate yearly (or more) so that I’m always keeping this blog fun for me. I still always have a steadily flowing fountain of ideas even after all this time. I still *love* this blog.

But something has felt off about the whole experience lately.

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If We Were Having Coffee

I saw a life coach I love, Ashley, do a post entitled If We Were Having Coffee and I decided to take her lead and do one myself in November 2013 because I loved it and sometimes I feel like we forget that there is a whole life behind the people that write and read blogs. I got such a great response to my initial post so I made it a  reoccurring thing for the past couple of years and do it when I feel so inclined!

 

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So, grab your coffee/beverage of your choice and meet me for a chat. I’ve got some Sleepy Time tea in hand (god I never actually have coffee when I do these posts…I used to drink it but cut down a lot). I’m excited to chat with you all because it’s been since October!!!

 

If we were having coffee….I’d tell you that I’m currently finishing up Underwater by Marisa Reichhardt and also reading the Goblet of Fire (yes, this is a first time read of Harry Potter for me!) I’d ask you what you are reading…

If we were having coffee.… I’d tell you how totally pumped I am for 2016. I mean, we are only 5 days in but I am totally dominating on some of things I wanted to work on this year. I’ve started working out again (wee hiatus this Fall until now) and I want to die but I feel great. I’ve been nourishing my body again with all the healthy food after my sugar coma and major overeating from the holidays. No seriously Will and I eat pretty healthy 80% of the time and then the holidays we turn into rabid sugar monsters.  I’m setting up a nice bed time (hence the sleepy time tea right now!) and morning routine because I have issues with sleep and that’s one of my goals. I’ll tell you…I don’t think it’s a coincidence that I’ve been exercising, eating right and attempting to sleep better and I feel READY TO CONQUER THE WORLD. I’d ask you about some of your goals and desires and intentions and hopes for 2016 and I’d probably share with you some of the other stuff that is on my TO CONQUER list for 2016 and I’d be super invigorated about how badass 2016 is going to be for us.

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If we were having coffee.… I’d tell you how super excited I am for the trip Will and I are taking this year. We are going to London for a week and then to Madrid to visit friends for a week. I’m excited to be going back to London (Will has never been) and getting to experience a new city. I’m a person who feels very frustrated when I can’t explore and travel and in the past couple years we’ve had to cut down on travel stuff because $$ and I just feel so discontent that I just want to jump out of my own skin. I’m excited to have some adventures and spend time with Will and probably get lost. It will be fun because Will and I have both been to Europe but never together! Only mildly freaking out at the thought of leaving Finn for 2 weeks. I don’t want him to feel abandoned especially being a rescue dog. I’d ask you if you have any travel plans for 2016 and if you’ve been to either of the cities I’m going to/have recs of things to do/eat/etc.

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Beyond the Pages: The Thing About Insecurity Then Vs. Now For Me

Beyond the Pages is my way of sharing the things books make me think about and interact with and want to talk about shared experiences with people. Some of my best conversations have happened because of something that came up in a book. I’m pretty personal in my reviews but I’d like a way to not bog down my review with a huge paragraph of personal experience so this is my way to be able to share it. Some times it will be serious and sometimes just random and fun but I hope we can connect! PAST Beyond the Pages here!

 

 

The book that inspired this conversation:

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Dumplin’ by Julie Murphy
(Goodreads // Amazon )
Check out my review of Dumplin’

What It Is About:

Willowdean has always been the fat girl and she’s always been pretty okay with that despite the normal teenage insecurities. It’s never been a THING for her. Until she gets a job and crushes on one of her hot co-workers who totally ends up liking her back. And then insecurities and what people think get the best of Willowdean and makes her second guess herself and if Bo could really like her. So she decides to remind herself of how confident she is and enters a beauty pageant (that her mother is the coordinator of) — an act that sparks a little bit of a revolution when a couple of other girls, who are inspired by Willowdean’s bravery, to join with her despite them not looking like the usual beauty pageant contestant.

What It Got Me Thinking About:

insecurities for me as a young person vs. insecurities now

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There was so much to love and appreciate in Dumplin’ and so much it made me think about but the biggest thing I thought about while reading was High School Jamie and how insecure she was and then I thought a lot about insecurities in the lens of 30 Year Old Jamie. Julie Murphy really did a great job portraying those high school insecurities. Through Willowdean, who mostly loves and accepts her body how it is, we see this vulnerability that we have as young people when it comes to how we see ourselves because it’s mostly always through the filter of how the world sees us. We see how hard it becomes to be confident of the things you love/accept about yourself when it seems the world makes it so easy for those self-conscious feelings or insecurities attach themselves to you like a leech that drains your confidence. How it becomes easy to feel like you need to change because other people think you should. How it becomes easy to loathe yourself or to judge yourself harshly — for things you might have not ever noticed before.

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If We Were Having Coffee

I saw a life coach I love, Ashley, do a post entitled If We Were Having Coffee and I decided to take her lead and do one myself in November 2013 because I loved it and sometimes I feel like we forget that there is a whole life behind the people that write and read blogs. I got such a great response to my initial post so I made it a  reoccurring thing for the past couple of years and do it when I feel so inclined!

 

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So, grab your coffee/beverage of your choice and meet me for a chat. I’ve got some amaaaazing Harvest tea from Trader Joe’s that has hints of apple and cinnamon and ginger and all sorts of other goodness. And I have a soy pumpkin candle burning so THE MOOD IS RIGHT, Y’ALL!

 

If we were having coffee….I’d tell you that I’m currently reading A Step Toward Falling by Cammie McGovern.  I’d ask you what you are currently reading!

If we were having coffee.… I’d tell you how much this past month having our rescue dog, Finn, has changed me. He’s such a silly, loving and sweet pup who is so good though it hasn’t been without its trials (he and my dad’s dog hating each other, teaching him to walk properly on a leash, training, etc.) but I’m enjoying it all. He’s gotten us out even more (for walks, to hike, to the dog park) and we’ve met so many different people. The other thing is how much he has opened up my heart to the rescuing process. My heart breaks for all these lost and abandoned animals. Will and I have started volunteering in different ways with different shelters (including the high kill shelter Finn was originally at before DogTown rescued him) and the rescue we got Finn at who does SUCH good work and is full of awesome people. I’d ask you if you have a pet/ever rescued an animal but I’d also ask you if you’ve discovered something new you are passionate about that you hadn’t even realized.

Me & Finn!

IMG_8759(1)hMe & the little pit puppy we gave a freedom ride to (aka a ride from the high kill shelter to a rescue/adoption center). SHE WAS SO SWEET. PUPPY KISSES.

 

If we were having coffee.… I’d tell you how I recently did something very out of my comfort zone and I had such a good time and I think it could lead to good things. It’s scary but also so invigorating to go outside of your comfort zone. I asked myself, “what’s the worst that could happen if I did this?” and honestly the WORST thing was no biggie honestly. It’s definitely one of those moments where I’m like YAS SELF TAKE MORE RISKS, BE MORE FEARLESS, KICK THAT COMFORT ZONE ASIDE. I’d ask you what’s the last thing you did that was out of your comfort zone and you felt great about it!

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Beyond the Pages: Musings On Internet Life

Beyond the Pages is my way of sharing the things books make me think about and interact with and want to talk about shared experiences with people. Some of my best conversations have happened because of something that came up in a book. I’m pretty personal in my reviews but I’d like a way to not bog down my review with a huge paragraph of personal experience so this is my way to be able to share it. Some times it will be serious and sometimes just random and fun but I hope we can connect! PAST Beyond the Pages here!

 

 

The book that inspired this conversation:

The Status Of All Things

The Status Of All Things by Liz Fenton & Lisa Steinke
(Goodreads // Amazon)

What It Is About:

What would you do if you could literally rewrite your fate—on Facebook? This heartwarming and hilarious new novel from the authors of Your Perfect Life follows a woman who discovers she can change her life through online status updates.

Kate is a thirty-five-year-old woman who is obsessed with social media. So when her fiancé, Max, breaks things off at their rehearsal dinner—to be with Kate’s close friend and coworker, no less—she goes straight to Facebook to share it with the world. But something’s changed. Suddenly, Kate’s real life starts to mirror whatever she writes in her Facebook status. With all the power at her fingertips, and heartbroken and confused over why Max left her, Kate goes back in time to rewrite their history.

Kate’s two best friends, Jules and Liam, are the only ones who know the truth. In order to convince them she’s really time traveled, Kate offers to use her Facebook status to help improve their lives. But her attempts to help them don’t go exactly as planned, and every effort to get Max back seems to only backfire, causing Kate to wonder if it’s really possible to change her fate.

What It Got Me Thinking About:

social media and how it is so embedded in my life..everyone’s life really, how social media isn’t always an accurate representation of who a person is

Image1fdsfI’ve been feeling very on again off again with social media lately. Reading this book reminded me how much social media affects my life and how it has permeated into my daily routine in such a huge way without me even realizing it. I grew up before the internet. I grew up before social media. I know how to live life without it all….but why does it feel like sometimes I don’t?

I’m going to preface this with: I LOVE SOCIAL MEDIA. I LOVE THE INTERNET. It is glorious. I have met some of my very best friends. I’ve grown as a person. Have found an amazing outlet. Learned a lot. I love how it has allowed me to have PEOPLE to connect with who I wouldn’t otherwise.

Here’s 2 things it made me think about:

 

If you don’t post it on social media, did it really happen?

In the book, immediately when Kate finds out that her fiance was breaking up with her, her first thought is basically, “what will social media think of this? How will I break the news on Facebook?” At first I thought, “how silly” but then I was thinking about how I’ve struggled with this so much. I go to social media immediately to announce life things.  I can’t go a day without thinking about how I can photograph it perfectly for Instagram. How immediately when I do something fun I need to post it. What will my followers think if I get too personal about my bad day? Will people like this? Will people think it’s lame? Social media is the first thing I do when I wake up and a lot of the time the last thing I do before I close my eyes.

I’ve been better with it lately because I’ve just felt so TIRED of sharing and curating my whole life. I try to be authentic and open as possible when I do share but lately I just want to keep things to myself. I don’t want to live my whole life out on social media. I’m tired of putting so much of myself on display and caring too much about what social media thinks. And I’ve been finding life a bit more fulfilling by enjoying those moments without sharing them. Sure, some of them were super share-worthy (like how beautiful the sun and the leaves look from my reading spot here at the park) but it’s kind of nice to not immediately reach for my phone and be like, “I need to tweet/snap/instagram/ that.”  Sometimes it’s kind of just nice to admire it and feel the sun on my face and appreciate the moment. I’m still a work in process but I’m finding that life is more fun without over-documenting it.

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Exciting Thing Is Exciting!

So if you read my August recap you know the whole dog saga about how we had a perfect pup that we were going to adopt and then it fell through because our apartment complex and their ~breed restrictions~ policy. So no Staffordshire puppy for us! We were so sad but kept looking and looking to find the dog for us. And this past weekend we found him!

We decided to check out a rescue we’ve never been to before that was on the way to my family’s house. Immediately it was a better experience than the SPCA. All the dogs were in this big penned in part of the building. They were playing with each other and we got to play with them all. There were sooo many cute ones and I was falling in love with this one puppy. Until the lady walked in from a walk with two other dogs and as soon as Will and I laid eyes on the one….we both looked at each other like YEP.

Meet Finnikin! Aka Finn for short.

(He hates getting his picture taken apparently/moves too much so 96% of the pictures I take of him are blurry and not good quality at all.)

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His name at the rescue was Slinky which is so fitting but we didn’t love it. I named him after Finnikin from Finnikin of the Rock by Melina Marchetta because it is one of my all time favorite series and I LOVE him as a character. Like so much. The naming process was hilarious and pretty much went like this:

Me: *throws out names from my favorite male book and tv characters* (IDK WHY HE DIDN’T LIKE CHAOL, ROWAN, DORIAN, AEDION, RHYSAND, TAMLIN OR LUCIEN)
Will: EW. *throws out names from his favorite sports people*
Me: YEAH NO.

The rescue thinks he is 1-2 years old and he’s a hound/beagle/pitbull mix (god, maybe even some dachshund in him). He is just the cutest. I’m telling you pictures don’t even do justice — my sister agrees on that when she saw him in person. AND HE IS SO GOOD. Like as much as we wanted a puppy I’m so happy we aren’t dealing with one destroying everything and having to housetrain him. He’s just PERFECT. Doesn’t get into stuff, is energetic but also chill, doesn’t bark that often, is happy and friendly, loves other dogs, loves like every human ever. We’ve had him since this past Monday and it feels like he’s been a part of our family for longer — he’s just so comfortable with us. Like he fits perfectly.

I’ve been so busy spending time with him and wanting to make him feel loved and adjusted (plus LOTS OF WALKS) that I have had like zero time to finish any of the posts in my drafts or really read much. NO REGRETS THOUGH. He’s already brought us so much happiness.

So I’m curious:

Do you have a pet? If so, is your pet named after anything literary related??

If We Were Having Coffee

I saw a life coach I love, Ashley, do a post entitled If We Were Having Coffee and I decided to take her lead and do one myself in November 2013 because I loved it and sometimes I feel like we forget that there is a whole life behind the people that write and read blogs. I got such a great response to my initial post so I made it a  reoccurring thing for the past couple of years and do it when I feel so inclined!

 

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So, grab your coffee/beverage of your choice and meet me for a chat. I’ve got a hard root beer right now (AMAZINGNESS but dangerous because you forget it’s booze).

If we were having coffee….I’d tell you that I’m currently reading The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up and just starting the second book in the Vampire Academy series.  I’d ask you what you are currently reading!

If we were having coffee.… I’d tell you that even though I’ve been doing a little bit of traveling/vacationing this summer I am in one of these moods where I’m so antsy because I want to be everywhere in the world right now. I just get frustrated by the fact that in order to travel you need money (which lol at my bank account right now) and in order to get money you need a job….oh and most jobs give you like NOT ENOUGH VACATION TIME. I just want to explore and go places and I follow too many travel blogs and people who are traveling right now and the wanderlust is so, so strong. It’s always strong but it’s like this unbearable sort of strong right now. I’m trying to plan my trip to Spain next year but I just can’t because I WANT TO GO NOW.  Is this normal human behavior? IDK BECAUSE WILL DOESN’T GET LIKE THIS. He wants to go places but he isn’t like physically pained and antsy like I am.

If we were having coffee.… I’d tell you that I’ve decided Will and I are going to start home brewing beer. On vacation my cousin and his girlfriend were talking about how they do it and brought us some (it was an amazing saison) and I’m like OMG WE ARE DOING THIS. 1) we love beer and 2) I decided we needed a hobby to do together. We have a ton of our hobbies that we do separately and then we have like THINGS we enjoy together and do together but nothing that’s a ~hobby~. I’d ask you, if you were OF AGE, what’s the last great beer you had/if you home brew or know anybody that does. I’d also ask, if you were married or dating, if you have a hobby that you do as a couple!

If we were having coffee…. Id tell you that I cleaned out my clothes in my closet this past week using the KonMari method (the cleaning book I was talking about further up) and MAN did I have a lot of clothes. I’m really bad about getting rid of clothes. More so than books (I’ve talked about my ruthlessness before). I really struggled with it. You are supposed to ask yourself if  the item “sparks joy” and only keep what does. Well, the problem is that I can’t tell if something sparks joy or if my clothes hoarding voice is CREATING a sense of joy when I think about it. UGH UGH UGH. It’s so hard. I would say I got rid of about 40% of my clothes and shoes. I know I could have done better but it’s good enough for me right now. I’m going to continue on with it for the rest of my items but oof that was hard. I’d ask you if you’ve done the KonMari method (ALL THE RAGE RIGHT NOW) and if you are also a clothing hoarder. Like seriously I had stuff in there from high school and early college years which was like circa 2002-2008. OOF.

If we were having coffee…. I’d tell you that I’ve been craving a really good non-fiction title. I don’t even really care what about. I want to learn about anything. I want to just read something interesting! I’d ask you for recs!!

If we were having coffee… I’d tell you about my efforts to try and create a nice, relaxing morning routine and how maybe it works like 30% of the time. I think I’m destined to have the kind of morning routine where I wake up miserably and late and rush around and eat my eggs in the car while trying to remember if I brushed my hair at all this morning only to realize no I didn’t and oh hey I don’t even have a hairband on my wrist when typically I have like 5 on each wrist somehow. In my head I envision these peaceful mornings with the sun shining in and I do some yoga (I don’t even do yoga) and I sip my tea and listen to Enya (is Enya still around?) and like create wonderful shit before 7am. HOW HARD IS THAT, SELF? I’d ask you what your morning routine is like!

If we were having coffee….I’d tell you how Will and I really need to make friends with other dating/married couples. All the couple friends were part of the group that we are no longer part of and the few others we had either a) broke up or b) moved away (our last couple friend who moved to Spain last week). HOW DO YOU FIND COUPLE FRIENDS? THERE SHOULD BE AN APP FOR THIS….an app to like “date” other couples to find a good match. I just miss having another couple to go out and do things with. It’s really hard to make friends in general at this age. It used to be so easy…WOAH COOL SPARKLY SHOES LET’S BE FRIENDS! INSTA BESTIES ON THE PLAYGROUND. Maybe this still works as an adult? IDK maybe I will try it.

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If we were having coffee….I’d you that I feel like I’m finding it harder to find new FAVORITE books and movies. I LIKE and even super LOVE a lot of things I consume but I’m having a hard time finding those life changing things that just stop you in your tracks and just speak to every cell in your entire body and you don’t know how you possibly lived life without having experienced it before. I don’t know if it’s just that I’m hard to impress BECAUSE I consume so many books and entertainment or what but UGH…I want that FEELING. Do you know that feeling? I’d ask you what the last thing that gave you that feeling was.

If we were having coffee…I’d tell you that I’ve been having a hard time with nostalgia lately. I don’t know why. I’m just suddenly MISSING things and people and moments from the past (really really missing my college years…I felt so free then). The way things were. I love the way things are SO MUCH and am so happy with who I am but I’m also yearning for different parts of who I was before. I don’t know if it’s that I’m turning 30 in a couple of months but the nostalgia is starting to weigh on me. When I was cleaning my closet out and I’d pull out these clothes all these memories just came flooding back — my trip to Europe, dates with Will when we were in college, moments with friends I’m no longer friends with. GAH. MAKE IT STOP. I have nostalgia feels every now and again but these are so strong lately. I’d ask you what the hell was wrong with me. But rhetorically speaking obviously. I mean, unless you are a psychologist and can tell me what’s literally wrong with me.

 

If we were having coffee…what would you tell me? Come on…lay it all out! It’s just you, me, the pleasant sounds of a cafe…and maybe some other eyes in the comment section but NBD right?? Our we can have coffee in my inbox if you don’t feel comfortable. I really want to know! What’s going on with you?

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