If We Were Having Coffee…

One of my favorite bloggers, Ashley at Your Super Awesome Life/aka the life coach I told you all about, did a post like this the other day and I decided I wanted to do the same because 1) I loved it and 2) sometimes I feel like we forget that there is a whole life behind the people that write and read blogs. She sat down and typed out what she’d talk to her readers about if she was meeting them for coffee. So let’s try it?

 

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So, grab your coffee/beverage of your choice and meet me for a chat. I’ve got tea right now but if we met earlier it would be a gingerbread latte. What are you having?

If we were having coffee….I’d tell you about how I’ve been in an epic slump for the past week. I’d tell you how I wasn’t sure if it was ME or the book (The Signature of All Things by Elizabeth Gilbert). I’ve been really preoccupied/stressed so I know that could be my problem. I’d tell you that I decided to try something paced a little differently and ended up reading Ashes to Ashes by Melissa Walker and finished it in a day. Now I’m going back to The Signature of All Things but reading Picture Me Gone by Meg Rosoff at the same time to balance it out. I’d also ask you what you were reading.

If we were having coffee... I’d tell you about how I’m really having a hard time finding those books that just WOW me to the fullest degree. I’m talking those books that make you remember why you love reading. The ones that just knock you off your feet. I want to curl up and sob like a little baby because of how it wrecked me or because of how beautiful and amazing it was. I want to almost convince myself I never want to read again so this book could be the LAST BOOK I’D EVER READ if I died. End on an amazing note. I’d ask you what book last did that for you.

If we were having coffee.… I’d tell you how I’m really kind of nervous about this whole not having a job thing. I don’t know what I can do anymore honestly. I send out resume after resume and rarely hear ANYTHING. I’ve had people look at my resume. I’d tell you that my unemployment is up in December and I don’t know what were are going to do. I’m rather scared. I’m going to see what is hiring around the holidays and just go from there. Also, I’d tell you how demoralizing this all has been. And stressful. And all consuming. Probably contributing to my slump.

If we were having coffee…. I would tell you about how I’m really loving this auntie thing even MORE as Genevieve grows up. She is almost two and such a little person with a BIG personality. I love watching her grow and learn and I just get so much joy from being around her. I would tell you how she likes to say to my sister, “MOVE MAMA!” so she can be the closest to her baby sister Adela.

If we were having coffee…. I’d show you the bruise on my leg because I’m a klutz and ran into the side of the bed today and how it hurts so bad. I’d also ask you if my roots were showing really bad because I’m WAY overdue for getting my hurrr did.

If we were having coffee… I’d tell you how I’m really, really happy that I’ve been reconnecting with my high school/college bff again. We have been on rocky ground for the past couple years but it’s been really nice working on our friendship and both admitting where we messed up.

If we were having coffeeI’d ask you if you always knew what you wanted to be when you grew up and if you are happy doing what you are doing. I’d tell you how I’m so passionate about social media and marketing but I doubt whether I could do the corporate thing long term because my last job sucked the life out of me. I would tell you how I hate the notion that you have to pick what you want to be as an 18 year old kid, before you even really KNOW who you are, and pursue that as a degree for the next four years. 18 year old Jamie who chose to be a business major is a lot different than 28 year old Jamie and had different motives and priorities in life than me now. I’d tell you that it scares me that I still can’t answer the question of, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” Can’t I just date a few careers first?

If we were having coffee….I’d tell you how I’m loving doing Blogilates and it’s the first workout I’ve stuck with ever in my life. I can feel myself getting stronger and stronger and more flexible since I started doing it in July. I’d also tell you how I’m a dummy and I signed up for a 5K on Thanksgiving and trained for one week a month ago. OOPS.

If we were having coffee…I’d tell you how excited I am about something that I’m working on. I’d also tell you that that something isn’t the NaNo project I promised myself secretly that I’d do this month without telling anyone. Not one word has been written.

If we were having coffee… I’d tell you how thankful I am for you. For reading what I write. For talking to me about books and other things. For encouraging me. For commenting. For letting me be myself.

 

If we were having coffee…what would you tell me? Come on…lay it all out! It’s just you, me, the pleasant sounds of a cafe…and maybe some other eyes in the comment section but NBD right?? Our we can have coffee in my inbox if you don’t feel comfortable. I really want to know! What’s going on with you?

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About Jamie

Jamie is a 28 year old married lady who is in denial that she's actually that old. When she's not reading you can find her doing Pilates followed by eating gelato, listening to music with oversized headphones and teaching her niece how to be as awesome as she is.

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  1. Love this!! I know how you feel about trying to find a job… it’s awful. I have been trying forever. Nothing. Thanks a lot degree!! ;) I joined in on the fun!! Here is my coffee shop chat: http://angelasanxiouslife.blogspot.com/2013/11/if-we-were-having-coffee.html

  2. Love this SO much!

    I’d tell you that ten years ago,when I was a senior in high school, I was planning on being a criminal lawyer and getting married right after law school. I had my life all planned out. I’d also tell you that ten years later, after a failed engagement and more recently, two failed relationships, that I no longer know what I want to do with my life and that’s really hard for me.

    I’d also tell you that I am absolutely terrified to have my cat fixed. We are going through a different place than we got our other cat spayed because these people don’t answer the phones.So we’re going somewhere else. Somewhere where I have to leave my sweet kitty overnight. Just thinking about it unravels me. And I get it, the female cats have a much more in depth procedure than male cats but being without her overnight is gonna hurt. Big time.And I’ll miss her horribly.

    I’d also tell you that my NaNoWriMo project has come to a standstill. After somehow losing 6k words 10 days ago, I haven’t found my writing mojo again.Which sucks because I was about to branch out and write a love story even though I don’t usually gravitate towards reading them.

    And finally I’d tell you that I spent last night in the ER because I have crappy balance and fell on concrete outside of my house. Diagnosis? fractured ribs. Which hurt a lot.

    Ginormous hugs Jamie <3

    • It really is so hard to feel like we don’t know what to do…especially when there is so much pressure to FIGURE it all out. When we look around and see friends in marriages or careers or whatever it is we don’t have and feel like we should. For me it’s the career thing. I feel SO behind at 28. I keep trying to myself we all have our own stages and journeys in life and I shouldn’t compare but that’s easier said than done when most people are well into their careers at this age. The not knowing is hard/scary enough as it is but then we all have that pressure — self imposed and from other people.

      * hugs to you* Hope you find somewhere you trust to take your cat <3 So weird even when our pets are not around for a day! Used to that loyalty when you walk in!

      And OH NO..that is horrible that you lost all those words. Gosh how horrible! I hope you will be able to work it out! I want to read your book some day!!

      And oh my goodness. Yeah..your ER trip is way worse than my bruise. Be careful, lady!! <3

  3. What am I having? I’m having juice and and because it’s afternoon tea time, hummus and crackers. Yum.

    If we were chatting…I’d tell you how awesome I think you are and how I’m just getting out of a book slump myself. It can be so frustrating so I hope it doesn’t last long for you! I’m currently reading The Diviners (HUGE book but I finally decided to look past that and I’m really enjoying it). The last book that absolutely wow’ed me was my last read, The Sky Is Everywhere. It’s such a beautiful, beautiful book!

    “I want to almost convince myself I never want to read again so this book could be the LAST BOOK I’D EVER READ if I died.” From now on, we should never ever waste time on bad books because you never know. You wouldn’t want to waste your last book on a crappy one! Thinking this will make it much easier to put down books from now on.

    If we were chatting…I’d give you a BIG hug and tell you to keep staying strong. I’d also ask if there was anything I could do to help because you deserve a job, an amazing one, and one that isn’t going to burn you out again. With Christmas being such a busy season and with more jobs looking to hire during this time, I’d suggest that even if it isn’t in the area you work of work or it’s only part time/casual, have you looked into this? Christmas casual type work. Maybe your local bookstore is looking to hire?

    If we were chatting…I’d tell you how awesome I think it is that your reconnecting with your friend! You’ve mentioned it before and it’s so very awesome to hear you’re chatting again!

    If we were chatting…I’d demand (kidding…kind of) that you tell me what you’re working on and I’d tell you I’m working on something too (bloggy) and that I have these idea (not bloggy). And then we’d hug it out some more. <3

    • Mmm I love hummus and crackers (or veggies..LOVE dipping veggies in hummus)

      I have yet to read The Diviners (the length does scare me!!) but omg The Sky Is Everywhere…one of my faves!!! I FEEL like I might be out of this (sometimes I just need to finish a book to get out of it) but we will see!!

      Right? We really shouldn’t waste time on crappy books. I’m bad at putting stuff down though. But I try to tell myself that…would you want this to be the last book you ever read?? lol SO MORBID I AM.

      I would happily accept this hug! I’m thinking of looking into B&N because at least I could be happy doing some book pushing. haha. I’ve done retail before (Forever 21) and that was crazy but I think a bookshop would be better suited to me!

      It’s been a crazy year in terms of that friendship. I completely cut the cord after things being weird for a couple years because it was really not healthy for me and I think that this year apart from that group is what I needed to remember who I was and to reflect on my own shortcomings in all of this and just gain perspective about what I want in a friend. It’s been really nice to reconnect. She has been there through so much and plus…we’ve changed. She’s become a mom in the past year and I’ve also changed so I think it’s kind of like starting in a new place with us. I don’t think I will ever go back to hanging out with that group again but I want to focus on my friendship with HER. That’s important to me.

      Hehe I would totally tell you what I’m working on if we met for coffee. And I would make you tell ME what you were working on <33

      Thanks for meeting with me, love!

  4. I love this post! It is SO incredibly you. These posts right here are exactly why I adore your blog so much, you’re so down to earth and genuine, Jamie! Maybe sometime if I’m ever over on your side of the state or vice versa, we could actually go for coffee and talk about what’s on our minds. :)

    • Aw thank you, Jess <3 I totally hope someday we can meet for coffee for real!! WHY DOES THERE HAVE TO BE SO MUCH LAND BETWEEN US IN OUR STATE!?! It would be so epic to finally meet…it’s been since what..2008 that we’ve known each other??

      • I know, you would think that living in the same state, we wouldn’t be TOO far from each other, but like I said, maybe we could arrange something. You’re right, it would be SO epic! It blows my mind that we’ve known each other for that long, too! I’m lucky to be able to count you among my bookish friends :) <3

  5. This made me cry!

    If we were having coffee I’d tell you

    I know just how you feel not having a job. I feel so down and demoralised at constantly worrying about bills, how it’s affecting my mental health and those in my household who are also struggling. How it’d be nice to just once join in on a pay day shopping trip with my friends and buy shoes and enjoy a glass of wine after but more importantly feeling productive and valued and like I have something to offer.

    I’d tell you how this time of year always makes me sad that while I have a lovely father I wish he was the type of guy who was in my corner and that I knew if I needed him at 4am he’d come no questions asked but like my friend said I need to get it in my head that my dad will never be the dad I want him to be and that is not my fault, it’s not because I was born even tho sometimes I feel that way when I hear how my parents marriage started to unravel soon after.

    I’d tell you how excited I am to be an aunt again (less than a week) however it makes me wonder will I ever have kids and a husband but you wrote some really valuable advice on my birthday bucket list that I love and appreciate and remind myself of every day when I feel down so thank you Jamie!

    And my gingerbread latte is finished now so I’ll slink off but thanks for letting me unload and I think we’ll both be okay no matter what xxx

    • *offers tissues*

      YES exactly that with the job thing. I sit here every day applying to stuff and with ALL THIS TIME to worry about everything. Luckily I have blogging to help distract me but it’s been making blogging hard because I am just so WORRIED all the time. And YES..sometimes even the simplest thing I’m like GAH I wish I could spend money to go do that but I shouldn’t. I think this unemployment period though HAS taught Will and I a lot about what we do and don’t need and how we can manage our money. We HAD to be good at it right out of the gate when we got married because that’s when I lost my job. Not a fun lesson lol

      *hugs about your dad* That’s so hard. I think one thing I’ve realized about people is that sometimes we just have to readjust our expectations of them. It sucks because we shouldn’t HAVE to..you deserve a dad like that..but sometimes for our sanity we have to. We have to remember that they are just people…imperfect, flawed people. I’ve had to do that with one of my sisters and just kind of readjust my expectations of our relationship. Same with some friends. I’m so sorry that you have to feel this way and it is NOT your fault. I come from divorced parents and I often have wondered if it was the stress of kids but we can’t do that.

      I AM SO EXCITED FOR YOU TO BE AN AUNTIE AGAIN!! I’m glad my advice helped, love! <33 It’s so hard to wonder “Am I going to ever have that?” when you look at this glimpse right now and think there is NO way. Trust me, I thought the SAME thing.

      And yes we WILL be okay. Thanks for this..it was lovely to chat <33

  6. Great post Jamie! I really know how you feel, especially about the job stuff.

    If we were having coffee I’d probably rant to you about how I don’t know what to do when I graduate from college. I’m on a student visa studying in the UK so I can be with my boyfriend, who’s a Bit (I’m from the US). But when my visa expires next year, there’s no way for me to stay in the country unless:

    * I marry my boyfriend (which I’m sooo happy to do, but I’m afraid my parents would freak).
    * I somehow manage to secure a job before my visa expires… but… this is a whole other issue

    More than anything, I want to somehow run my own business. Whether that’s freelance web development stuff like I’m doing now, or some other venture on my own. I KNOW that’s what I really want to do… but there’s no way I can stay in the UK and do that. Unless I marry my boyfriend, I’m not allowed to stay in the UK and work for myself without a work visa, but it’s impossible to get a work visa for self employment unless you have a legitimate start-up company and like at lest $200k in funding.

    So I’m freaking out because I don’t want to take a job that I’ll hate just so I can stay in the country.

    Sometimes I just feel like my boyfriend and I are totally starcrossed lovers and the world goes out of its way to plot against us!

    • Man, girl! You are in such a hard predicament! Gosh, I can’t even begin to think how I would handle it. I had friends who were in a similar position (he was a Brit and she was American..but they were here in the US). He was on a work visa but that made it much easier than your situation. They did just get married this summer :)

      Have you talked to your parents about this possibility of marriage? Do you feel like you are ready for that step?

      Hmm that is so hard because I totally think you should be focusing on your web stuff because you rock but that sucks that can’t count as a work visa. So it’s like do you put that on hold for a little bit so you can stay? MAN. Do you have to work full time with a work visa? Or can you do part time and then do your freelance stuff on the side?

      You should totally write a YA novel about this! Keep me posted, love. I can’t imagine how stressful and agonizing this decision is!!

      • Haha I always did think my life could be a YA romance novel. Starcrossed lovers cross an ocean to be together, only to be separated by government policies and visas! (Okay.. the tag line needs some work.)

        I definitely do think I’m ready to take the marriage step. By next year (when we’ll be having to decide what to do), we’ll have been dating almost 5 years. So it’s not like we’re running into marriage after only a few months, or even a year. We’ve been together for 5 years and have lived together off and on for 6-12 months (it’s hard to count because we stay with each other for like a month, then we’re apart for a month, then we stay together for 3 weeks, rinse and repeat..).

        I sort of had a conversation with my mom about it the other day.. my mom just thinks that 23 is too young to get married.. and my dad is determined to not see me married until I’m 35, just because he had 2 failed marriages before my mom so he thinks 35 is “the magic age”.

        And there are soooo many rules about getting a work visa. You have to be receiving over a certain salary, be working over a certain amount of hours, have a company SPONSOR you, etc. Ugh!

        I bet we probably will end up getting married.. it’s just a question of feeling brave enough to stand up to my parents about it lol!

        I’m so glad it worked out for your friend! I love hearing about success stories like that ♥

  7. Omg love this, Jaime. So perfect and wonderful.

    If we were having coffee right now I would tell you that I share in your unemployment worries. I’ve been unemployed for over a year now. My husband and I just moved to VA (from WA state). In WA the cost of living was so low that financially we were fine without me working so it wasn’t quite so stressful. But now we live right outside of DC and holy crap. Cost of living as like doubled. So I’m feeling the pressure to get a job, but the problem is, I have no idea what I want to do with my life. Ultimately I would love to be a published author. But that’s a long way down the road and I need something in the interim. I went to school for Fashion Merchandising (what a worthless degree, seriously.) and don’t want to do anything in fashion. I would love to get into Social Media management, but have no corporate experience in it and nobody will give me the time of day. So I’ve started to apply for things like administrative assistant jobs which is definitely not what I want to do with my life. Sometimes I feel so trapped, you know?

    I would also tell you that we just secured an apartment yesterday and I am so relieved/excited. We lost a couple apartments we really liked before we were ready to make a decision and I was getting really discouraged and stressed about it. And this one worked out perfectly because our move in date is the absolute last day my husband’s company will pay for our temp living.

    If we were having coffee I would tell you about all my family drama and how I sometimes feel really alone. I’ve never had very many close friends and sometimes I feel like I have no one to talk to. My older sister has always been my best friend but lately she’s been pulling away and I don’t know why or how to change it. And now I’m crying. Lol. But on a positive note I have met some amazing people blogging, people that I call friends and I hope they call me the same. :)

    I could tell you way more things, but then we would be here all day and I need to go apply for more jobs. It was wonderful having coffee with you! Let’s do it again sometime! <3

  8. What a great idea! Indeed sometimes it’s difficult to remember there is a whole person and a life behind a blog and sometimes it’s difficult to show myself in the posts on my blog.

    If we where having coffee I would order tea instead and tell you how I don’t like coffee, but love tea and am sort of addicted to it, to the extend that if I don’t drink tea on a day I get a headache. I am drinking turkish apple tea right now.

    I would tell you about the current book I am reading and how I am contemplatinf DNF’ing it and how I already DNF’ed 2 books this month. The last book that really wow’ed my was Omens (Cainsville #1) by kelley Armstrong, it a mystery book where the main character find out she is the daughter of two serial killers and she tries to find out more about their murders. There are some paranormal elements in it, but it’s not the focus. I loved it and already pre-ordered the second book which will be released over 267 days, yeah it will be a long wait.

    I would tell you that I am still not sure which job I want and that I hate the idea that you have to choose what you want to become so early. I’ll tell you how I studied Psychology even though afterwards I am wondering whether it realy was the right study for me. I love psychology, but eventually mayored in Economic and Consumer Psychology and went more in the marketing direction.

    I would also tell you about that horrible year of my life where I was unemployed and how difficult it was for me. I also tell you about my two current jobs and how my mom gave me that push to start my own company and how I love the work I do now and finally am starting to hope that I am where I want to be concerning work.

    I probably would talk a lot, because I don’t know a lot of people besides other book bloggers that read. Which mean I hardly ever have the opportunity to talk with someone in real life about books and it’s something I miss in my life, because I have no one to talk to about books and talking on the internet is usually more difficult.

  9. You know I love my job. And I mostly always knew that I wanted to do books. But I didn’t figure out that I wanted to do marketing until I was 27 or so, and didn’t really start doing it until I was 29. The three jobs I had before my marketing job at Perennial were all various degrees of terrible and demoralizing and draining at times (some more so than others) and for a long time I felt like I was “behind” because I hadn’t gotten a marketing job at 22.

  10. First of all, I’d tell how this really touched me and brought me to tears. Then again, I tend to tear up watching GMA every morning. Which I am doing now with my morning cup of coffee.

    I’d tell you that your blog is the one that inspired me to finally go for it and start blogging myself.
    I’d tell you that after being in school for 5 years working towards my degree, I am burnt out and losing sight of the reason I wanted to become a teacher in the first place. That I am struggling to find that passion once again and that I just want to be done with school because I am so tired of it.
    I’d tell you that I find myself feeling lonely a lot lately, especially since all of my friends have recently moved away…2 live in London, one lives in Missouri, and the other in Alabama. I’d tell you that I put on a strong front bu there are days where I just curl up and cry because I miss my friends.
    I’d tell you that the fact I need brain surgery next summer scares me more than anything and I hide that fear from my family. In fact, I hide a lot of my emotions. I like to put on a strong front, but I honestly don’t know how much longer I can hold onto that.
    *sigh* I’d also tell you a few jokes and talk about lighter subjects, but mostly I’d thank you for allowing me to vent and get a few things off my chest. :)

  11. I love this post! It’s so hard being a grown up! I can really relate to what you meant. On the bright side, if you are in a book slump, I highly recommend Shadow and Bone by Leigh Bardugo. I know, everyone is talking about it. But I just read it and there’s a reason everyone loves it! Hang in there, girl!

  12. What a beautfiful post Jamie! Seriously, you just made my day. Thanks for sharing and being so honest!
    As per your slump 1. I heard really mixed reviews about the Elizabeth Gilbert book, so if you aren’t enjoying it, I’d move on to something better and never look back! 2. As for the job thing, I can’t imagine how frustrating your situation must be. It sounds like you’re doing everything you can, sending out jobs, staying positive. I wish you luck. You’re so right about picking your career at 18 though. It’s such a flawed system.
    Lastly: keep pursing the secret project that is making you happy! Seriously, you deserve it, and anything that makes you smile can’t be a bad thing.
    Hang in there!

  13. What a great post. I have been there with the job and am feeling your frustration – to quote Tangled, sometimes I ask “when will my life begin?”. I don’t know about you, but I have always been job-oriented and ambitious, so it is frustrating and makes me feel utterly worthless. And it shouldn’t for me or you or all the people in our generation that are going through this.

  14. I really feel like giving everybody a great big group hug right now, because we all need it.

    I’d tell you that I know how you feel about your degree/career, especially choosing at 18. I loved doing my B.A. in English, and I stand by it. I hate seeing job interviewers,co-workers, even some of my customers look down on me because I did what I loved in college. One even told me I would be working a drive-thru for the rest of my life (I wait tables in a country club). The job market for English majors feels tiny, especially where I live, and each day that goes by where I don’t get a response, an email back, breaks me a little. My mom says (and she’s usually right) finding a job is like having a second one. I want to find a job in publishing, in books. There’s got to be one out there for me.

    I’d tell you that finding those magical books that make you laugh, sob, and cuddle the cover are usually the hidden gems of the bookstores. It’s like finding Chanel at Goodwill – it’s there, you just need to search it out. I’d tell you that I’ve fallen into that trap, then I realized I wanted to do this for fun and to connect with all of these wonderful people who are crazy book addicts like me. : ) I’d also tell you I hate DNF’ing books. I’ll scan the rest of the pages just to avoid that, to give the author a chance. This has happened more times than I care to admit this year. I’d tell you maybe to put those books down for a few days, try another one, and start the first ones from the beginning when you feel less pressure to read them.

    I’d tell you that your blog is one of my biggest inspirations, that I love how you style your reviews and features. I’d tell you how excited I am for Secret Santa & how much I’m agonizing over which books to by my person.

    And thanks, most of all, for doing this. Hugs <3

  15. If we were having coffee I’d tell you how much I learn from your blogging. You are so good at this and you make it look natural, maybe it is, but the “tricks of the trade” are all there and you are a rock star.
    That is all.

  16. If we were having coffee I’d tell you how much I learn from your blogging. You are so good at this and you make it look natural, maybe it is, but the “tricks of the trade” are all there and you are a rock star.
    I am learning from you each time.

  17. if we were chatting …I would give you a hug and totally understand the stress of looking for job. Congrats on the auntie job. If we were chatting …I would say that I am going back to school to figure out what I do after having kids. DNF those books and its okay …may be take a break from books and watch TV.

  18. This is such a great post, Jamie – we could all do with some more coffee and chat times :)

    I’d tell you I can only imagine how frustrating the job search is for you – it’s been a few years since I was in that situation but it was almost constantly in the back of my mind and it made me feel so inadequate. But I’m 199% certain that it will all work out in the end – sometimes the best things happen when we least expect them.

    I’d tell you if you aren’t feeling love for a book, don’t be afraid to put it down and come back to it later – I’ve done this so many times as I’m mood reader – and loved them when I’ve gone back to them, or felt that I’d at least given it a second chance and now I’m certain it’s the book and not me ;)

    I’d tell you that living overseas is pretty much driving me crazy – I really want to move back to Australia and be closer to my family – we aren’t really close but I miss having them nearby if I need them. I’ve never felt 100% comfortable living in this country and it’s so difficult to make good friends. And the weather is SO not me lol.

    I’m also freaking out just a little bit that I’ll meet my stepmother for the first time on Christmas Day – bless my dad, but he didn’t actually stop and think it might be a bit wierd, and I don’t have the heart to tell him.

    BUT I’m super super excited to be going home for Christmas – I can’t wait to see everyone and watch my neices and nephews open their presents and just be awesome. Oh and eat tonnes of food and drink and just YAY.

    This is an awesome post! Keep up the awe some work :-D

  19. I don’t know why, but I’m crying right now. I look up to you so much (seriously) and I’m so happy I have you in my life. I can’t wait for the day where we can actually have coffee together (It will happen!) and chat about everything.

    If we were having coffee, I’d let you vent and vent and vent until you got everything out and then I’d give you a hug because I know how stressful life can be sometimes. I’d tell you to not lose hope about the job situation because I believe that eventually you’ll get the job you dream of, and all of this is just teaching you something about yourself or life. I’d tell you how next week is Thanksgiving and I get to see my grandpa! And how he’s buying everyone keepsake jewelry and I picked a Kate Spade necklace that is glittery on one side and the other side says ‘All that glitters’ and that I don’t think there’s a more perfect piece of jewelry that describes my relationship with him. I’d tell you that I wouldn’t have gotten through these months without you and your support means the world to me. I’d also tell you that while I do know what I want to do career wise when I graduate, I feel like I have no clue what I’m doing with the rest of my life. I’m so impulsive and indecisive that I feel like I am all over the place all the time and it stresses me out and sometimes I’m just so sick of being me.

  20. If we were having coffee, I’d be drinking a grande mocha with an extra shot (no whip) and I’d buy one for you with the free drink I’ve got waiting on my card. While waiting for it to cool down, I’d tell you about how discouraged I’ve been feeling lately. How the doubts about my writing are starting to drown out some of the confidence I’ve slowly built up over time. I’d tell you that I wonder if I just give up now and devote more time to my real life job (which I also love) and let go of the dream of being a writer.

    I’d tell you that my father led a very satisfying life doing what he loved, but only after “dating” a few careers first. And how because of his encouragement I did the same thing and have finally found a place and profession to call my own. He told me that you can always make a living at something you love, if you are dedicated and willing to think outside the box. I’d tell you to go for it, whatever “it” is.

    If we were having coffee, I’d agree that I’m looking for *that* book too, the one that breaks your heart because it ended. I’d tell you how badly I want to fall in love with a book. I’ve come very close a few times, but nothing has moved heaven and earth as much as I’ve wanted or needed. I’d tell you that one of the best things about writing was capturing that feeling, however fleeting, and marvelling that I could create it myself. And then how sad I am that the feeling is gone, and maybe somehow tarnished by what has come after.

    And then because I wouldn’t want to end on such a low note, I’d share stories about my son, who is the epitome of Bill Watterson’s Calvin from Calvin and Hobbes, and tell you about something hilarious he did or said. I’d also tell you how much I love the dress I’m wearing from Land’s End and how online shopping is kind of a new thing for me. And I’d let you know that your post stopped me in my tracks while multitasking and made me think of taking a few minutes to go for a coffee or speak to a friend. And I’d say thank you.

  21. I love this post. It’s adorable and awesome and the perfect post to read along with my coffee.

    I’m right there with you on the book issue. I’m usually so easy to please, but lately reading feels more like a chore than something I do for fun and that makes me sad. I’m reading Sekret right now, but so far I’m not overly impressed, and I haven’t really fallen in love with a book since I Fangirl almost a month ago. I miss falling in love with books.

    Being unemployed is probably the most terrifying thing I’ve ever experience. Finding a holiday-job is a good start. What field are you looking for jobs in? My B.A. ended up being useless for finding a job so now I’m going back to school to get my Paralegal certification. Are there any call-centers in your area? It’s a crap job but in my experience they are almost always hiring and aren’t very particular re: experience as long as you have some steady work history and maybe some customer service experience.

    ISN’T BEING AN AUNT THE MOST FANTASTIC THING? I adored it when Emma was a baby, because I love baby snuggles, but it gets even more rewarding as she gets older. She just turned two a couple weeks ago and she’s just the smartest little thing and so full of attitude. Nothing makes me happier then going over to my brothers and hearing her yell “Auntie” and start jumping up and down or rushing to hug me. It’s precious. She’s going to be a big sister in January and I can’t wait to see how she reacts to that.

    I am so in agreement with you on this. I had no idea what I wanted to do at 18. I picked Poli Sci as a major because I was toying with the idea of law school, and while I am still going into the legal field, I wish I’d done something else, that could have led into working in publishing or social work. There are so many options and I hate the idea of being stuck on one career path for the rest of my life.

    *hugs* Your such a smart, wonderful person and you’ll figure out whats right for you and excel at it. I know it.

  22. I would be drinking either a hot chocolate (if I was near you) if we were near me I’d be drinking a diet coke. You know my love affair with a diet coke. And it’s still in the 80s/90s here.

    I’d let you rant and rant and sometimes be a bit snarky because that is what you expect from our friendship. I’d hug you when you need a hug and respect your space when you just need to rant it out. I’d say I get it. I do. I have a job right now, in the field I went to school for, but is it what I want? EH. It’s in an academic library and I’m more drawn to private (think a nail polish company, a sports team, DISNEY!) or being a YA librarian. But I’m so far in debt with student loans that I’m thrilled to have a job with the title for future job hunting. I’d tell you I’m excited to meet you in January even though I’m fearful you’ll hate me because while I’m finally confident in who I am, I fear I’m going to upset my friends and they’ll talk about me behind my back. And then I’ll hide because I just dropped a truth bomb with you and I’m embarrassed.

    I’d tell you I’m stressed because I don’t feel like I have enough time to do my job, be a daughter, a friend, a functioning member of society and then I’d ugly cry laugh with you.

    I love you Jamie.

  23. I think I’ll take the gingerbread latte – it’s only 12:20 now, so I’m needing some caffeine.

    Reading slumps are the worst. The worst. I’ve had them where I’m pretty sure I’ll never love another book again. I just finished Endless by Jessica Shirvington and it was absolutely amazing. I flew threw that baby is two days and was up until midnight both nights. If you haven’t started the Violet Eden Chapters yet, that would be a good one to get you out of your slump! Although Jessica is now on thin ice, but that’s another issue. :)

    I’m a huge klutz, too. So don’t feel bad about it. At least you don’t have a scar from hitting your hand on a door. I kid you not . . .

    I’m having job issues, too. It’s not just you. I have a degree in teaching English 7-12, but I can’t find a job in my area to save my life. I’m not moving – too close to family and the boy and I just bought a house – so I am limited, but it’s also ridiculous. English teaching jobs are almost impossible to come by and almost just as impossible to get the interview. I love teaching, but my situation is really make me rethink my possible career path.

    I LOVE Blogilates myself! Cassey is amazing and I love her. It hurts so good. She’s such an amazing inspiration and really gets you excited about working out. Something I never thought I would ever say!

    And as a final note: I’m thankful for you, too.

  24. Completely love this! I think I’m going to do this on my blog.
    I can totally relate about the having your whole career and future decided at 18. Although I’m only 21, I have absolutely no idea whatsoever what I want to do with my life. I feel like I like so many things and so many different careers interest me . I’m currently not in school and feel really behind because lots of my friends are either graduating or transferring and I’m just like, “ah how did you figure it out!”.
    I always thought I wanted to do Graphic Design but as I get more into book blogging the idea of being a librarian or even a teacher (which I use to want to be when I was younger) appeals to me more and more. But yeah if we had coffee I’d let you know that I think it’s normal (even though it’s frustrating) to be unsure about your future career. Some people are just lucky and know what they want to do and for others it just takes a little time to figure it out.

    This was a really inspiring post Jaime thanks for posting it!

  25. I’m stealing this idea, so I’ll tell you on my blog.

    I did want to say, Jamie, that I understand how horrible unemployment is, but I really, truly believe that you are one of the most passionate and talented bloggers/social media/marketing people I’ve ever (sort of) met, and whether it’s corporate or something else, I think you have a ton to offer. I would hire you in a second. Just keep working at it, and make the ends meet in the meantime, even if you have to take jobs that aren’t exactly up to your level. I had to take a really terrible job after my masters for awhile that had me crying every night for a week at one point…I was doing physical labour and being paid next to nothing…but the thing is, it’s easier to get a job when you have one, and things will come together.

    In terms of what I wanted to be when I grew up…no effing clue. Am I happy with where I am now? I’m okay with it. I feel like I would have studied publishing if I’d known myself more, but I’m okay with what I’m doing it…

    I am completely, utterly on the same page as you in terms of blogging and slumping. Although, I think part of the problem is that I’ll read an amazing book, and then I won’t want to read anything for awhile because everything else pales in comparison…I’m on the worst blogging slump ever right now. I just want to be inspired to read everything again.

  26. I love this idea and I’m probably going to use in on my blog soon. I’m so thankful for bloggers such as yourself who just lay it all out there. It gives precious insights that I definitely need right now, specifically that not knowing your life path or career trajectory at twenty-three does not, I repeat, doesn’t NOT make you inadequate or a failure. This is something that I struggle with everyday and it’s so incredibly important to hear it from other people going through the same thing.

    Today I had an interview for a full-time position at Starbucks, and landed the job. And yet I have a BFA in Writing from a very prestigious art school. I don’t regret the connections I made nor the skills I learned at my school but I’m drowning in student loans. And to make matters worse, my boyfriend (of almost six years) recently asked for a six-month break, with the understanding that he didn’t think we were getting back together. This meant I had to move back into my father’s house, without my car (in his name), any job lined up, or my cat. I’m looking for publishing jobs in Boston but the pickings are few and far between. The openings that I do find are managerial in nature, a position for which I’m not even remotely qualified.

    I try to take things day by day and focus on me. Some days I’m better at it than others. Other days I watch family movies to put a smile on my face, at least for a moment. Thank you so much for putting yourself out there because at the end of the day we need a community to lean on, and book bloggers are the simply best.

  27. Love this post! Thanks for sharing :) I think I might steal this idea for my blog.

  28. I know being unemployed is difficult, but how about this-I’ve been unemployed for the past 4 years and I just got a job that I start December 2nd. I’m TERRIFIED! It’s not in my field and it’s been YEARS since I worked in an office and I didn’t want the job, but when you’ve been unemployed for so long, you have no choice but to take it. Everyone around me is excited and I’ve been a bundle of nerves hoping I win the lottery in the next week so I don’t have to go. I’m afraid I’m going to be stuck there waiting and waiting for things to happen. Yeah, I know I should be grateful that someone gave me an interview and is taking a chance on me, but I’m dreading it. Honest to god dreading it. :/

  29. If we were having coffee, we’d talk about how homesick I am, even though I’m 31 years old and should have been on my own for ten years by now. We’d talk about how thankful I am to have a job on the horizon, friends who will let me sleep at their houses when I’m in full-on meltdown mode. I’d tell you how I’m excited to go see my family in one month + six days, even though it isn’t my parents.

  30. Omg Jamie, what you said about having to choose what you want to do for the REST OF YOUR LIFE as an 18 yr old — I have been saying that soo much recently. It’s ridiculous. How would we have known? I’m currently in my last year in dental school and if I could do it all over again? I wouldn’t have done it. It’s fine, don’t get me wrong, but I wonder if I could’ve been happier doing something else. But I never had enough time or the chance to explore things, you know? You choose a major and you go. There’s something wrong with that system. Anyway, good luck with job hunting!! Its definitely rough. :( I also love this idea, so much fun!

  31. Aww, Jamie. I feel for you. I really do. I’m also unemployed currently w/ my benefits running out very shortly as well. I completely understand how stressful it is. It is super frustrating and demoralizing to spend so much time and energy sending out all those resumes without ever hearing anything. I know I’m new to your blog but I can tell that you’re a wonderful, intelligent, passionate person with a lot to offer the world. My sister works at QVC which is headquartered in West Chester and I can certainly have her put in a good word for you if you have any interest in applying there. Also, as you pointed out on Twitter, we don’t live far from each other! If you ever want to meet up for irl coffee and support I’d be more than happy to do so. DM me or email which you also have. Keep on keeping on. I know exactly how it is.

  32. If we were having coffee I’d tell you..It sounds like it’s not a slump but the book!
    And that I’m reading Allegiant, Another Little Piece and The Disenchantments, but unfortunately I haven’t had a lot of time this week, and when I have I’m just too tired to read.

    If we were having coffee I’d tell you..that this year I went “wowow” (the most) over Fangirl, Siege and Storm, Saga (comic) and Courtney Summers. And I’d recommend all of them to you, especially the last two!

    If we were having coffee I’d tell you..I didn’t always knew what I wanted to be when I grew up. For the longest time I wanted to be an artist. I took drawing and painting classes, but I’m really insecure over my art skills and I guess I gave up on that idea, even tho I kept doing art as a hobby. And to be perfectly honest I really cannot remember when I started considering Psychology as a career. I really cannot remember when I thought of it, but today I am a recently graduated Clinical Psychologist and I’m pursuing a Master’s now in that area, and sometimes I still have my doubts. I’m not the most confident person ever, and I have days were I think “God, I think I chose the wrong thing ? I may not be cut out for this, I should have gone for social communications or something with books ugh”, but then other days I’m just so freaking convinced THIS IS THE THING FOR ME and I love it. I think so far I just need more experience to stop fluctuating between those states.

    If we were having coffee I’d tell you..I think that maybe you could try the corporate thing again, because what if you find a job that doesn’t suck the life out of you in that field ? Have you ever thought about doing the blogging thing professionally ? Or maybe adding vlogs to it ? I’m not sure how it works as a job, but I have seen so many people doing it, and you are already so great at book blogging Jamie!

    Like you I hate the idea of choosing what you want to do THE REST OF YOUR LIFE when you have barely even lived. And I HATE the pressure people put on you to study and pick something like it’s just THAT EASY. And how people bug you so much if you end up changing your mind over something. Who ever said things were written in stone ? We are human beings, we can change our minds! We adapt and change constantly for god’s sake, I think what should be weird is the idea of doing the same thing for such a long time when there are SO MANY POSSIBILITIES OUT THERE, there’s so much to do and learn! And we can only do one thing ? That’s just unfair. “Can’t I just date a few careers first?” EXACTLY.

    If we were having coffee I’d tell you..good luck with whatever you are working on. I’m sure it’s going to be great. I love your creativity, enthusiasm and honesty! Thank YOU for posting and sharing so much with us!

    If we were having coffee I’d tell you..I already ordered my TBTBSanta present and I’m so excited to start the preparations!!! :D

    Great post Jamie! Much love <3

  33. I love this! I’ve been in a bit of a slump too. I can’t really pinpoint what’s causing it either. /: I think I’m just waaaaay overdue for some mama time. I’ve had ONE less than 24 hour chunk completely kid free since March. I love my kiddos. I really need a mental health day!

  34. Jamie, Jamie, Jamie. Why do you wanna make me tear up with your beautiful, honest, thought-provoking posts? Oh Jamie. *hugs*

    If we were having coffee, I’d tell you that this last year of my life has been an odd mish-mash of terrible things, and wonderful things, and that the wonderful has balanced out the terrible, thank GOODNESS. I’d tell you I’m happier than I’ve ever been, and that all I want is for everyone to be this happy. And then I’d tell you that life brings challenges, and that you, my friend, are going to be okay.

    If we were having coffee, I’d tell you to hold onto hope, hold onto it so tight that there’s not a chance it will slip out of your hands. I’d tell you not to be afraid of December or your employment running out. I’d tell you that it isn’t you or your resume or anything you’ve said or done in an interview. It’s just timing. I’d tell you that a chance came along for me and that the same thing will happen for YOU too, and I hope it happens soon.

    If we were having coffee, I’d tell you all about IF YOU FIND ME and how I related in so many ways to the main character, Carey. I’d tell you I wasn’t her growing up but I COULD have been, and I’d tell you that her strength and heart stunned me into silence and into tears. I’d tell you about the long email I sent the author, and how we became friends, and how she’s teaching me to be brave. I’d tell you how I read the book back in the spring but I still think about it often, and aspire to be more like Carey, to be “woods-brave,” and to never let life stop me from living it and making my own choices and being proud of who I am.

    If we were having coffee, I’d tell you that I struggle a lot more than I let on with the whole “what do I want to do with my life,” and that having finished my WIP and thinking of self-publishing next year scares me to DEATH. But that it’s worth doing. I’d tell you that if you are THAT passionate about marketing and social media, that the only person stopping you from making your dream happen is you, and that sometimes you make your own luck. I’m working a job now that I do hope to continue and advance in, but I’m going after this dream in my heart of being a published writer. I’m self-publishing in 2014 and I want to see you take steps toward YOUR dream. Make dreams happen. Now.

    If we were having coffee, I’d tell you that I’m a klutz too, and then I’d tell you we should get a refill because I THINK we’d probably talk so much IRL that we’d close the coffeehouse down.

  35. If we were having coffee I would tell you I was there with the unemployment last year. It’s really hard and stressful even if the person you are with is super supportive. I made myself a schedule everyday and tried to go out at least a few times a week even if it was just for a coffee. Eventually you will find a job that you will be happy doing :). Also don’t try to stress too much. It’s super hard but it will get better. :)

  36. Kate (@imlostinabook) says:

    I just discovered your blog and am absolutely in love with it! Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts, both literary and otherwise. <3

  37. If we were havig coffee…I’d tell you how excited I am to be going home for my birthday and Thanksgiving (on the same day this year!). It’s been 2 years since I was home for either and I know I’ll be crying through the whole thing. It’s hard to be so far from home, to miss the farm in Maryland so much and then to feel like a stranger in my old home when I visit.

    If we were having coffee…I’d tell you how nervous I am about my own unemployment. I understand how it can be soul crushing to feel like such a failure. I’d also tell you how nervous I am about my PhD applications and how uncomfortable I am with all of the uncertainty in my life.

    If we were having coffee…I wouldn’t be able to drink coffee or tea at all because of my very annoying health problems. I would probably start chatting about my health even though I know it’s bad manners and uninteresting to anyone else. But my particular health issue is quite intrusive on my daily life and I’d be very jealous of you cuppa!

    What a fun idea to get to know your blog readers! It’s nice to feel like we can have a chat with the bloggers we read so often, but know so little. Cheers!

  38. Nieces and nephews get progressively more awesome as they age. Mine are 8, 6, 4, 2, and newborn and I love getting to know they older ones at this stage. They have such strong interests and personalities, it’s amazing. P.S. hang in there with the applications. Job hunting sucks, I hope you find something you love.

  39. <33333

    If we were having coffee RIGHT NOW, I would be worried because it is 8 pm and I have hyper active tendencies and coffee keeps me up late. I'd probably be drinking water instead.

    If we were having coffee, I would tell you to set that boring book down and read WE WERE LIARS. It's so Jamie. SO SO JAMIE.

    If we were having coffee, I would tell you that the best thing about WOW books is that they are almost always a surprise, at least to me, so keep your mind and heart open whenever you start a new book.

    If we were having coffee, I would tell you that sometimes I feel jealous of unemployed people because they don't have to leave the house in the middle of the night to deal with other people's issues, because they don't have to give up weekend days because all hell breaks loose at work. I would say I've gotten work PTSD to the point where I now lock the door if it's just me at home and I live in a small, quiet neighborhood. I would say that I am so tired and sometimes helping people for a living is draining. I would tell you that maybe it's worth it to search for the job that you are passionate about, that won't burn you out.

    If we were having coffee, I'd tell you that I think you are such a cool aunt based solely on Instagram. I'd ask you questions about Genevieve and Adela.

    If we were having coffee, I would tell you the truth about your hair.

    If we were having coffee, I'd ask what you think drove the wedge between you and your BFF.

    If we were having coffee, I'd tell you that YES, I get it about dating careers — I went from student teaching, to retail, to administrative assisting to community educating to advocacy to hopefully working on a master's. I would tell you at 26 I still don't know what I want except that I never want an on call job again.

    If we were having coffee, I would say omg GIRL LOOK AT THAT BODY. And then I would promptly tell you to make me workout too. Also, that Cassey is the best but I think I like running and elliptical better. Cardio is more my speed. Also, that I have not worked out since August and feel gross and ugly.

    If we were having coffee, I would tell you that you will rock your secret project even though I don't know what it is.

    If we were having coffee, I'd probably take you out for some drinks to celebrate friendship or whatever. Poppin' champagne, yo.

  40. I’ve got to say — I’m in love with this post! Having coffee and conversations with people is actually something I truly hold as a special favorite “thing” in my life, so to have it written out in a blog post is pretty darn fun for me.

    Now, if we were having coffee, I would have the following responses and things to say:

    If we were having coffee… I’d tell you I was reading The Host by Stephenie Meyer, which is a surprise to me since I didn’t particularly love the Twilight books. What’s an even bigger surprise is that I am actually ENJOYING it. I’m also going to be reading an ARC of Freaks soon, followed by Lover Reborn and Lover at Last by JR Ward.

    If we were having coffee… I’d tell you that I can’t remember that last WOW book I’ve read since House of Hades. That book was an emotional roller coaster ride for me since it’s part of a series that I absolutely adore.

    If we were having coffee… I’d totally commiserate about the job sitch. I’m the middle of unemployment myself, so I understand where you’re coming from. I’m really hoping that I find something that I actually WANT to do and am GOOD at soon, but so far, I’ve been getting no responses. Here’s to hoping we can both find jobs we love and would do for the rest of our lives!

    If we were having coffee… I’d tell you I’m still not sure about what I want to do for the rest of my life, except for the part where I keep reading and writing and raise my own family. Career-wise, I’m still at a loss, but hopefully, with a little more focus and one-on-one time with myself, I’ll figure things out.

    If we were having coffee… I’d tell you how much it sucks for me to be so far apart from the husband. It’s been exactly one month (and a couple of days) since we last saw each other in person, and it’s just so damn hard. I really am hoping that the visa situation is remedied quickly!

    If we were having coffee… I’d share my goals and plans for 2014, because I’ve been coming up with a whole TON of them, and just have to keep organizing them properly. For the first time in a while, I feel utterly focused and I think that’s pretty darn great.

    If we were having coffee… I’d tell you the truth about your hair and anything else. That’s what friends are for, right? I’d do it in the nicest way possible of course.

    I MISS YOU! <3

  41. This is a great idea! Thanks for sharing so much about yourself over some coffee!

    I would tell you to stay positive and that you will get over that reading slump. Sometimes they are hard and annoying but I have faith that everyone gets out of them at some point, we have all been there.

    I would also tell you that being an aunt is awesome. Sadly my nieces live far away and I don’t get to see them that often, but when I do I love it!

    One last thing, hang in there about the job thing. I graduated from college Dec. 2011 and I have yet to find a full time job. I currently work part-time at a library, and I love the job but I’m just a page (re-shelve books) and sometimes it can get a little redundant. On the other hand, I love blogging (although it pays nothing), reading, and I am currently writing a book, hoping to one day be a writer that makes some money, no matter how small. So just hang in there, I’m sure a job, one you will love will come around soon, you are not alone! I have some friends that got a job right after and some still don’t but they are making it work. Just hang in there and focus on living life and enjoying your free time.

  42. I’ve been meaning to comment on this post for ages! I’m actually at Starbucks right now with a tea (curse you home internet!) so I thought it was fitting. So, here goes. If we were sitting together over a tasty beverage, here’s what I’d say…
    I hate slumps. I was in one myself a little while ago. Just a baby one and I think I could easily explain it as a typical book blogger problem: so many books to choose from that I was overwhelmed and couldn’t decide which ones to pick first. I’m hoping to get a good list going because I have a TON of reading to do in the next little while. Right now I’m rereading What Happened to Goodbye by my all time favourite author Sarah Dessen. I’m loving the reread challenge I’m doing as revisiting some of her earlier work has been freaking fantastic but it is cutting into actual review request time. Ah well. Anything for Dessen.
    I’ve been lucky lately in that I’ve read a lot of “oh my god all the feelings” kinds of books. Crash Into You (which I was so happy with since I was only so so on Dare You To), Allegiant (holy mother effing eff), and The Pursuit of Mary Bennet (reminds me that Austen retellings/continuations can be excellent). These definitely remind me why books are my first love.
    I am SO with you on the job thing. I might have a breakdown New Year’s Eve if I don’t have a job by the end of 2013. It’s hard and it sucks and I hate waiting to see if I’m going to hear from places about even an interview. It’s been awhile since my last (failed) interview and I’m getting super nervous. I really hope you find something soon. I get what you’re going through on so many levels. And I’m always here to chat about it! Email me, tweet me, whatever. I’m here.
    If we were having coffee, I’d show you pictures of my pseudo niece and nephew. They’re the kids of my boyfriend’s brother but in their minds, I’m an aunt. They’re adorable. We could share cute stories about the kidlets! And I’d tell you that I’m terrified of having kids of my own. Good thing I’m nowhere near thinking of that yet.
    I’m a klutz too. I think we’re meant to be friends. I once tripped on a wall in high school. And I haven’t gotten my hair cut in over a year. I’d rather eat than spend money on my curly mess of a hairdo.
    I’m so glad you’re reconnecting with your friend. I lost touch with a friend I was close to for years and I must email her again. I miss her.
    I have no idea what I want to be when I grow up. Never have. I like reading. Can’t I just do that? I hate that so much pressure is put on us at 18 to figure out what we want. I wish I could go back and do things a little differently. I love my major but my extra curriculars would have been different.
    Finally, I’d thank YOU for being you. For letting us into your life in the awesome way that you do. I’d tell you, probably while blushing furiously, that I adore your posts and I aim to be a little bit like you when I write my own posts. I’d tell you that I wish we could meet up in person but the whole living in two different countries thing kinds of puts a damper on that (though I recently met some authors from NYC and Iowa when they came to Toronto so anything is possible). And I’d tell you to keep working away at what YOU want to do. We love what you’re doing but if you don’t it’s not worth it. Now, I think it’s time for a refill…

  43. I totally agree about those books that you cry Jamie…a good one of those one in a while is just nice. Everyone needs a good old sock in the heart to make them love reading right?

  44. I did my own post of this on my blog b/c you inspired me!

    If We Were Having Coffee..I’d tell you that I have been applying to jobs left, right and centre and haven’t had a callback since summer. So what I’ve been doing is updating my resume and portfolio even more just so I can figure out why no one is hiring. Or why they’re not hiring me because I feel like I’m not good enough to land an interview anymore.

    If We Were Having Coffee..I’d tell you that it’s SO hard to keep a positive attitude about being unemployed and that most nights I don’t get enough of sleep because I’m constantly worrying about bills and everything else.

    If We Were Having Coffee..I’d tell you that my aunts has leukaemia and another has cancer. I’m constantly worrying about them, and my mom. She has been tested and so far she’s the healthiest out of her siblings, but I can’t help but worry. This is also another cause for loss of sleep.

    If We Were Having Coffee.. I’d tell you that I’m seeing someone new, and he’s easily one of the best people I’ve ever known. It’s only been a short while, but I feel like he’s my best friend and that he understands me like no one else has. I’d tell you that he makes me happy and you could probably see it in my face and I would blush and say to stop teasing me so.

    If We Were Having Coffee.. I’d tell you this year has been a lack laster year of blogging only because I’ve been in such a slump. That to me, blogging hasn’t been that intense (unlike last year) where everything was fresh and new and I’m constantly trying to write reviews but they all end up sounding the same. Sometimes I get writer’s block and I don’t even know what to form my opinion on especially if there is no story or there are characters I dislike because I don’t want to have such a negative review.

    If We Were Having Coffee.. I’d tell you that I’m worried about the drop in page views and visits and that everyone usually only comments on my posts when there’s a giveaway or contest and sometimes I feel like no one really reads my reviews. I know this is wrong to think but I can’t help but feel like I do all this work and no one really reads it.

    If We Were Having Coffee.. I’d tell you that I don’t want to give up on blogging because it’s been such a great experience and what I’m feeling isn’t even just me. Because I see so many other people who have given up, who have stopped posting all together, and even disappeared off of Twitter.

    If We Were Having Coffee.. I’d tell you that I miss them and their talks. That was what fueled my love for reading. Getting to share each other’s excited opinions about their book boyfriends, or the twist and the turn that was found in their latest read. I miss Twitter being so active and that I would get replies from all over the world.

    If We Were Having Coffee.. I’d tell you that I’m thankful for you just listening to me talk and speak my heart out because life is just so fast-paced and before you know it, another month has rolled by.

  45. Is it too late to take you up on the inbox coffee date?

    Ashley

  46. If we were having hot chocolate (because coffee is gross), we would put some Bailey’s in it.

    Oh wait, I was supposed to be at least semi-serious. Haha.

    Past Jamie, I’m sorry you were slumping, but, hey, since I’m writing from the future, good news, your slump is over now! YAY. Also, your slump over that one book is why I regularly read multiple books. At any given time (for now), I have two print books, an audio and a manga series going. It’s got its drawbacks, but this system does keep me from slumping when I’m in the middle of a book that, for whatever reason, I’m not into at the moment.

    If we were having beverages, I would tell you that I’m having trouble being wowed too. Sometimes I wonder if something’s wrong with me, particularly when I’m not having all the feels over a book where everyone else is like OMG I AM DYING FROM EMOTIONS. But then you read a good one and things are better. It’s been a while since I had a sobby good one. Hmmm, I don’t cry all that easily. The last one I remember that made me cry at all was Rose Under Fire I think, though I cried while I wrote the review. Before that maybe the Jojo Moyes book with the red cover? I am blanking hard right now. But that’s so long again. ME WITHOUT YOU? YES? I think?

    Ugh, I don’t know if I’ll ever voluntarily leave my current job, because I hate job hunting so damn much. My heart is with you.

    Oh man, Jamie. I always have random bruises everywhere. I walk into things so often, I can’t even remember having done it and it’s not like OH this bruise is from that. Just I’ll look down and it looks like I’ve been abused. My furniture is a bunch of jerks obviously.

    So far as careers go, can’t I just get paid to be a book blogger and watch tv shows? I’m really good at it, I super swear.

    Bleh, let’s not talk about working out. My current work out is my illness. The coughing is giving me some strong abs.

  47. I would tell you how I hate the notion that you have to pick what you want to be as an 18 year old kid, before you even really KNOW who you are, and pursue that as a degree for the next four years.

    Jamie, yes. I just randomly found this oldish post, but I was just thinking about this yesterday. When I graduated high school, I wasn’t sure what I wanted to do or be. It ranged from a Veterinarian to Computer Networker. And while I do love those ideas and could be good at it, it’s not where my passion lies NOW. Now, I want to do social media, marketing, promotion. It’s what I’m passionate about and really good at. So funny that I found this post at such a timely point in my life. *sigh* Back to the job search.

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