I saw a life coach I love, Ashley, do a post entitled If We Were Having Coffee and I decided to take her lead and do one myself in November 2013 because I loved it and sometimes I feel like we forget that there is a whole life behind the people that write and read blogs. I got such a great response to my initial post so I made it a reoccurring thing for the past couple of years and do it when I feel so inclined!
So, grab your coffee/beverage of your choice and meet me for a chat. I’ve got some Sleepy Time tea in hand (god I never actually have coffee when I do these posts…I used to drink it but cut down a lot). I’m excited to chat with you all because it’s been since October!!!
If we were having coffee….I’d tell you that I’m currently finishing up Underwater by Marisa Reichhardt and also reading the Goblet of Fire (yes, this is a first time read of Harry Potter for me!) I’d ask you what you are reading…
If we were having coffee.… I’d tell you how totally pumped I am for 2016. I mean, we are only 5 days in but I am totally dominating on some of things I wanted to work on this year. I’ve started working out again (wee hiatus this Fall until now) and I want to die but I feel great. I’ve been nourishing my body again with all the healthy food after my sugar coma and major overeating from the holidays. No seriously Will and I eat pretty healthy 80% of the time and then the holidays we turn into rabid sugar monsters. I’m setting up a nice bed time (hence the sleepy time tea right now!) and morning routine because I have issues with sleep and that’s one of my goals. I’ll tell you…I don’t think it’s a coincidence that I’ve been exercising, eating right and attempting to sleep better and I feel READY TO CONQUER THE WORLD. I’d ask you about some of your goals and desires and intentions and hopes for 2016 and I’d probably share with you some of the other stuff that is on my TO CONQUER list for 2016 and I’d be super invigorated about how badass 2016 is going to be for us.
If we were having coffee.… I’d tell you how super excited I am for the trip Will and I are taking this year. We are going to London for a week and then to Madrid to visit friends for a week. I’m excited to be going back to London (Will has never been) and getting to experience a new city. I’m a person who feels very frustrated when I can’t explore and travel and in the past couple years we’ve had to cut down on travel stuff because $$ and I just feel so discontent that I just want to jump out of my own skin. I’m excited to have some adventures and spend time with Will and probably get lost. It will be fun because Will and I have both been to Europe but never together! Only mildly freaking out at the thought of leaving Finn for 2 weeks. I don’t want him to feel abandoned especially being a rescue dog. I’d ask you if you have any travel plans for 2016 and if you’ve been to either of the cities I’m going to/have recs of things to do/eat/etc.
If we were having coffee…. I‘d tell you I’ve made a new group of ladyfriends recently (actually around the last time I wrote one of these posts) and it’s just so happymaking and positive. I was always friends with guys from high school to college (with the exception of my bestie and a few others) and so I always felt like such an awkward duck with friendships with ladies after college. Blogging definitely has helped that TREMENDOUSLY to the point where I’m like HOW DID I EVER NOT HAVE A SUPPORT SYSTEM OF AWESOME LADIES BEFORE?!?! WHY DID I NOT REALIZE THIS IS WHAT I NEEDED?!? I’ve struggled with forging IRL friendships as an adult and I’m just thankful that I stopped sitting on my couch like GEE I WISH I HAD MORE FRIENDS. I’d ask you to tell me about your closest friends and how you met!
If we were having coffee…. I’d tell you how I’m still feeling pretty lost direction-wise. My compass is just like stuck on where to go next. (Recap: had a marketing job for a few years, got laid off in 2012, job hunting was my full time job for a year when I was on unemployment, my year was up and we were going to have to leave our apartment so I started nannying while also still doing that job hunting thing. I’ve had interviews but nothing. It’s frustrating. I’ve tried different things. Spruced up my resume and cover letter. I’ve literally tried everything and I go through these periods where I just STOP it all because it honestly kills my self-esteem and drive to be rejected so much. So for my mental health I have to take a break. I just…don’t know where to go from here. I feel like I’ve given all I had to this job search and now I need to figure something else out. I probably wouldn’t be able to ask you anything because I’d want to change the subject or I’d start to cry if we are being honest with each other. But in my head I’d be hoping your job stuff is going okay!
If we were having coffee… I’d tell you that I am SUPER unhappy about winter temperatures finally coming to Philly. LIKE I WAS OKAY WITH 70 DEGREES THIS MONTH. I thought maybe Winter and I could be pals if this weather kept up but NO…reality check. It’s actually winter here in the north. So YAY 10 degrees and walking your dog in that crap. I REALLY REALLY over the past couple years have been trying to embrace winter (all the warm and cozy things about it, the things I can enjoy in solely this season, not feeling bad about lazing around watching Netflix, embracing the quieter calendar to pursue new things) but then I step outside and am assaulted by Winter’s nip and I’m like YEAH NOPE I EFFING HATE THIS TORTUROUS SEASON.
If we were having coffee….I’d tell you that I’m in the mood to binge read a series. I haven’t truly binge read a series (like compulsively read with no other books in between) since Twilight in 2008 I think. I more so do the read book 1 then a couple books in between and the read book 2…..or my usual of just being awful at series and forgetting everything. I’d ask you what’s the last series you’ve binge read or at least for a good rec of one to binge read!
If we were having coffee….I’d you that I cut back on social media largely for the second half of 2015 (intentionally and also not intentionally) and honestly I feel like I really needed to review my social media habits and see things that were problematic. Also, as much as I love social media, it was sucking the life out of me when I would spend TOO much time on it. It was a combo of being overwhelmed by all the opinions and voices, the negativity I kept seeing, my own social media overusage that led to burnt out and just so damn tired of it all. I mean, it’s not all bad but I just got to a place where I was just done. So, here’s to balance in 2016 and knowing where to put my energies. I’d ask you how you balance your social media consumption/usage and see if any of the same things that exhaust me about it also exhaust you. Then I’d probably ask you for cool new people I should be following or the cutest animal video you’ve watched.
If we were having coffee…I’d tell you that OMG I WAS SUPPOSED TO BE DONE WITH SCREEN TIME 20 MINUTES AGO IN KEEPING WITH MY NEW AND IMPROVED BEDTIME SCHEDULE. GAHHHH BYEEEEEE. LOVE YOU. KEEP IN TOUCH LET’S DO THIS AGAIN BUT MAYBE EARLIER.
If we were having coffee…what would you tell me? Come on…lay it all out! It’s just you, me, the pleasant sounds of a cafe…and maybe some other eyes in the comment section but NBD right?? Our we can have coffee in my inbox if you don’t feel comfortable. I really want to know! What’s going on with you?