I saw a life coach I love, Ashley, do a post entitled If We Were Having Coffee and I decided to take her lead and do one myself in November 2013 because I loved it and sometimes I feel like we forget that there is a whole life behind the people that write and read blogs. I got such a great response to my initial post so I made it a reoccurring thing for the past couple of years and do it when I feel so inclined!
So, grab your coffee/beverage of your choice and meet me for a chat. Currently I’m drinking a cup of the Reading Nook tea from Plum Deluxe which is a monthly tea service that so kindly set me some tea to sample (this post is not sponsored at all…just genuinely stoked to try some new tea)! I’m digging the Reading Nook flavor — I have a chamomile/lavender one I’ve always liked but oh man this has rose and vanilla too with the chamomile and lavender and it’s so tasty. I feel like I’m soooo going to ask for a subscription to this for my birthday because 1) I can never think of things when people ask me 2) I drink so much tea and always want to try new things that this will be the perfect way to find new teas and never run out of my favorites.
If we were having coffee….I’d tell you that I’m currently reading The Winner’s Kiss (OMG!!! SO NERVOUS/SAD FOR THIS SERIES TO END) and Saga Volume 5. I’d ask you what you are currently reading!
If we were having coffee.… I’d tell you how we are getting down to the last month before our trip to London and Madrid. I’m in that phase where I’m loosely planning all the things we want to do and see and I’m like OMG I WANT TO DO EVERYTHING AND WE CAN’T AND I WANT TO CRY BUT I AM SO HAPPY TO BE GOING BUT OMG WE NEED MORE THAN 2 WEEKS. I’d ask you to tell me your trip planning strategies!
If we were having coffee.… I’d tell you that my wrist is FINALLY pretty much healed. I’m sosososo excited to finally be easing back in to some of my workouts that were wrist based. It’s amazing how thankful you become for things that you take for granted in your daily life — the fact that I normally have full use of my wrist and arm. I learned A LOT about patience and not jumping back too soon — taking the necessary healing time is crucial even though it was hard to do. I’d ask you if you’ve ever had an injury! I’m always curious because the most I’ve ever done was like sprain a thumb or something before this. Seriously.
If we were having coffee…. I‘d tell you that I’ve felt so positive about the relationships in my life right now. I’ve got some good girlfriends now that are positive and fun and drama-free. I’ve let go of some other relationships that weren’t bringing me joy and stopped focusing on those. It’s amazing how adjusting where you put your energy really affects the rest of you and your well-being. I feel like I want to take stock of other areas of my life where I need to take away some of my energy because it’s not good or productive anymore and find another place to put it. Like a spring cleaning of the soul basically. It’s not easy because I feel like I am a person who always wants to make something work in the end but I’m starting to realize sometimes it’s better to let it go and point my energy somewhere else. I’d ask you if you had any spring cleaning of the soul you needed to do/or have done lately.
If we were having coffee…. I’d tell you that, speaking of spring cleaning, I am really in the mood to physically spring clean — especially my books and my closet. I have the hardest time keeping things organized and tidy — even after reading and attempting the Marie Kondo book. I know it begins probably with having LESS but I also get so caught up in the day to day stuff that those habits are bad on a daily level and things just get out of control. We will clean things up and it looks really great and then it falls to the wayside. This has pretty much been my whole life though. Part of our problem is that we really don’t have a lot of space to put things in our one bedroom apartment but I think I need to do a really intense session of purging and organizing. I’d ask you if you have any holy grail cleaning/organizing/purging tips or a method that you use daily to stay on top of stuff.
If we were having coffee… I’d tell you one of the things I’m working on right now is being content. It’s something I’ve struggled with probably since high school — I just have such a discontent heart. I’m so restless. I want to be everywhere I’m not. I will get something I want but then I’m not content with even that. I’m constantly like can I be happier? More fulfilled? More this? More that? Rather than letting myself be happy or fulfilled or whatever. It’s just something I’ve always struggled with and I know sometimes I am my own worst enemy when it comes to my own happiness — because I have to try REALLY hard to let myself be content. I mean, where’s the line? The line between a healthy sense of discontentment and an unhealthy discontentment? I feel like I often border into an unhealthy discontentment. I’d ask you what you think about it!
If we were having coffee….I’d tell you that I am not at all prepared for the Walking Dead season finale next week!!!! I know what happens in the comics and I just don’t know how all this is going to play out and I realize I get too attached to fictional characters but I cannot handle any of my faves on this show being killed off….but it’s The Walking Dead and literally nobody is safe even if you are a favorite character. IF DARYL DIES WE RIOT. Seriously though. I will be emotionally distraught if one of my faves die. Will thinks this is abnormal to care so much and get affected like that. And I’m like HAHAHAH YOU CLEARLY DON’T UNDERSTAND MY PEOPLE ON THE INTERNET THEN EITHER. The internet: making me not feel like I’m the only weirdo who cares too much since forever. I’d ask if you watch the walking dead and if you are prepared for the finale!! I’d probably ask you what other finales you are dreading/anticipating this spring! I watch too much tv so I probably could talk about many with you!!
If we were having coffee….I’d tell you that I’m excited to be back in smoothie weather again. For the past few years I’ve done smoothies for breakfast from spring to early Fall but then when it gets cold I just cannot handle smoothies so I go to oatmeal or eggs or avocado sprouted toast with a fried egg – all the warm foods. But I always love my smoothies plus my blender is great and I can blend it and take it to go so easily which makes my mornings even easier. The smoothie I’ve been making for the past month for breakfast is 1 cup almond milk, a handful or two of spinach or kale (whatever we have more of), 6-7 frozen strawberries, a stalk of celery, a scoop of vanilla organic protein powder and a squeeze of half a lemon. I sometimes make a PB&J one and a blueberry one but this one has been my jam lately. I’d ask if you are a smoothie person and what your fave one is!
If we were having coffee…I’d tell you that I’ve come to think a lot about my worth and a value as a blogger. I’ve thought about it a lot over the past 6 years and normally I would think about it as not letting your worth/value revolve around stats or numbers or whatever. But over the past couple years I’ve been thinking about how much I’ve let myself be devalued and I’ve finally started to do something about it. I’ve said no to a lot of things recently because 1) I don’t think the content adds much value to my site or to my readers truthfully 2) I think my space is worth more than the work I’m being asked to do for free/nearly free. I know what my reach is. I know what my value is. I know what my word is. And you know what? I’m okay with missing out on opportunities that I don’t feel truly add to my blog. I’m okay with missing out on opportunities that I know I would be paid for in other niches…or even that I know other mediums in the book community get paid for. I know what I’ve built in the past 6 years and I know what it’s worth and I don’t mean that in a “I’m greedy gimme money way/sell out way.” I want the content — free or paid — to feel worth it and for my whole heart to be in it. I don’t want to work hard on a post I feel was more effort than I/anyone else got out of it. I just don’t. And I’m okay if that doesn’t align with what others want for me. I’m happy churning out my own content to support the books and authors I love. This isn’t a rally cry of being mistreated or used — just taking back my space and putting the value on it that it deserves. I’ve watched newer mediums come in and get things bloggers have been told aren’t possible…and it stings a bit knowing my reach and the hard work I’ve put in for 6 years. But my diminishing free time makes my time feel precious to me so I had to make some decisions knowing what my value truly is and own it. And I feel good about it to be honest — to be honest with myself how I’ve been feeling working so hard and not feeling it was worth it in the big picture. (And this has zero to do with anyone else except me…so if you don’t feel the same way as me…it’s because it’s a personal thing not a statement of how people should feel…don’t feel bad if you enjoy collaborating for free/get lots more out of it than I do…this is just where I’m at after 6 years).
If we were having coffee…what would you tell me? Come on…lay it all out! It’s just you, me, the pleasant sounds of a cafe…and maybe some other eyes in the comment section but NBD right?? Our we can have coffee in my inbox if you don’t feel comfortable. I really want to know! What’s going on with you?