So here’s the thing. I’ve been blogging for almost 5 years (come next month) and I’ve met A LOT of bloggers and I’ve seen a lot of bloggers go. It’s hard cleaning out your blog reader and seeing that blogs you loved abandoned theirs or dear friends who started at the same time as you announcing they are quitting (hai Jen, Anna, Tara, Kristi, Melanie and so many others).
The blog landscape is always evolving. So are the people. It’s bittersweet. I love meeting new people but it’s sad to watch so many of them fade away (especially if I only really had a “blog relationship” with them). It’s this ebb and flow of watching people come and go. I am grateful for the people I meet along the way regardless. But it’s hard after 5 years. I won’t lie.
When I worked at Forever 21 after college and was frustrated because I felt like the girls weren’t super friendly to me, a girl who worked there told me, “We aren’t super friendly to new people not because we are rude but because when you are here a long time it gets hard to say goodbye so often with the turnaround here and also to constantly have to make new relationships.”
Though I disagree with initial snubbing as a defensive sort of mechanism, I understand this sentiment in ways when it comes to blogging. If you know me I am super welcoming, friendly and talkative with new bloggers. I’m always there to support and make new friends. Lots of great new bloggers come into this community every year and I’m so thankful for that and inspired by the fresh air they bring. But I won’t say it doesn’t get hard “finding your people” after you already found them so many years ago and then they left. It is hard to keep opening yourself up again and again and hoping for lasting relationships and new blogs to love like you loved past ones. It’s HARD to not get stuck in your ways after 5 years — just reading the blogs you’ve always read and staying close only to the people you have always been close with. Maybe this is where people think there are ~cliques~ amongst the more established blogs but it’s really that so few of us have remained in it for THAT long that we cling to each other. We’ve established friendships that have lasted all these years and that really IS something in an ever changing landscape.
As much as I am welcoming and friendly and supportive of new bloggers on the scene, I know sometimes it is hard for me to fully connect these days. I feel disconnected. A little out of the loop. Kind of irrelevant at times. On bad days like the “get off my lawn” type of cranky lady. I’ve been trying to combat this feeling and to stop thinking so much about “THE GOOD OL’ DAYS”, which truly were formative and important and are what made me love this hobby, and embrace what everything is now and what I can contribute to it.
So, after that long-winded explanation, I wanted to share some blogs that I’ve actually added into my blog reader recently. While I might talk to a lot of bloggers and visit their blogs via Twitter and comments and such, adding new blogs to my reader is something I do very rarely because I’m constantly so sad to have to take them out when they vanish. Also I’m lazy and always behind on things. But I’ve been trying to get better and figured I’d share a few I think you should check out.
They aren’t necessarily NEW bloggers….just ones I’ve added to my reader lately so that I can make it a point to keep up with them when I have my shit together and am using my blog reader.
Lindsey reads a variety of stuff and I love it! She also talks movies on her blog which I love because obviously I love movies. I love fangirling all things Sarah J. Maas with her!
Laura is another one who reads widely — love her YA and adult recommendations! Her blog has been around for a while but it wasn’t until the last year-ish that I started reading her blog more regularly! Plus she’s a literary agent and bookseller so I love her perspective from all sides of the book world.
Leah is my go-to for adult fiction — especially historical fiction!! She’s so sweet to talk to on Twitter and I love when she yells at me lovingly to read books she loves!
Nikki reads mostly YA of a variety of genres but she is my go-to for anything non-contemporary these days..especially fantasy! She writes really great reviews and when that girl fangirls over her favorites MAN does she fangirl. I LOVE IT. There are some authors/books that make me automatically think of Nikki because of her extreme love and enthusiasm for them!
I hope you’ll check them out and follow them on social media! Check out my sidebar for other blogs I love (by no means an exhaustive list and I hate knowing I’ve left people out).
Tell me some bookish blogs you’ve added to your reader lately! Or if your blog is new (within the past year especially) tell me a little about yourself/blog and say hi!