I saw a life coach I love, Ashley, do a post entitled If We Were Having Coffee and I decided to take her lead and do one myself in November 2013 because I loved it and sometimes I feel like we forget that there is a whole life behind the people that write and read blogs. I got such a great response to my initial post so I made it a reoccurring thing for the past couple of years and do it when I feel so inclined!
So, grab your coffee/beverage of your choice and meet me for a chat. Currently I’m drinking some La Croix…apparently I’m channeling my mom in the 90’s. I distinctly remember NOT liking this stuff as a kid.
If we were having coffee….I’d tell you that I’m currently reading Kids of Appetite by David Arnold. I’m literally on page 1 so I can’t tell you how it is but I’m super excited because I loved his debut Mosquitoland so much.
If we were having coffee.…I’d tell you that I’m flabbergasted that we are in September. I feel like I say this all the time, “where did summer go?” “where did 2016 go?” but really. I was thinking about it the other day how when I was younger time really did seem a lot slower to me. I distinctly remember feeling like an hour was the whole day and the whole summer was an eternity until I could go back to school. Now I feel like an hour slips through my hands in a second and a whole summer can pass me by when I blink (no but seriously I had a whole list of fun things I wanted to do this summer and I did a quarter of them and WHAT HAPPENED?). Is it that I’m too aware of time and the fact it’s not endless and I’m desperate to hold on to it? Is it that I’m not living in the moment as much? Am I too distracted? Trying to do too many things? Not using my time wisely? Whatever the reason is I’d really like to channel my younger self and see an hour as something that I can do a lot with. Now I think of an hour and feel like I can’t accomplish much in it (which sometimes because maybe I’m not 100% focused). I’d ask you if you are feeling like this summer or year in generally has flown.
If we were having coffee.…I’d tell you that recently my lady friends and I all took the quiz to figure out what personality types we were. It was SO SO SO enlightening. Especially because we had our husbands do it too. I got ENFP which I kept being like WOW this is so me except I always self-identified as more introverted than it says I am. I always figured I was just a really outgoing and super social and talkative introvert because I really DO get drained from socializing even though I love it and I just really value my alone time. But honestly it was so spot on. BUT EVEN MORE SPOT ON was Will’s (ISTP). I could NOT believe it. I’m reading and I’m like OH EM GEE THIS IS YOU. It was really interesting because it showed how we really are opposites in how we view and absorb and respond to a lot of things and it really made me understand him better. I can see, based on our personality types, why we clash on the things we do and reading about his personality in that way really cemented how I should approach certain things in our relationship. I also thought it was interesting how I always have thought that even though we are opposites that we are good at balancing each other and science like sort of supported that theory — like how I’m super impulsive and I would be like “let’s sell all our possessions and travel..plan what plan?” and he’s very much more grounded and logical. It was suuuuper interesting and just made me feel like I understood myself and him and our relationship better…not to mention all my friends who I did it with. I’d ask you if you’ve ever taken the personality test and what your personality type is and if you found it to be right about yourself!
If we were having coffee…. I’d tell you how I spent at least 6 hours on an issue with my host for this blog this past weekend and it reminded me how much I hate dealing with the technical aspects of blogging. Just let me write and connect and come up with ideas — don’t make me format or code stuff or fix things. It was SO frustrating and at the end of the day my issue didn’t even REALLY get resolved fully and I felt like I legit wasted my whole day…even though I was super appreciative for the last (actually competent) person I spoke to last. All that to say…I still can’t figure out why emails aren’t going out to you guys when I reply to your comments. It sucks. Maybe another day I’ll be able to devote to it but I feel drained.
If we were having coffee…. I’d tell you that all the back to school talk has me missing school as always. I LOVED school. I don’t necessarily want to do the work but I miss sitting down and learning stuff. I know I can learn things all the time but there is something different about school. I’ve thought this for a many years, but I keep pushing it aside, but I really need to make myself a plan to be more intentional about learning things. Like pick a couple subjects or things I want to learn or read about or learn how to do….and dive into the subject for a certain amount of time.
If we were having coffee… I’d tell you that we are coming up on a year (September 7th) since we adopted Finn and I just simultaneously can’t believe it’s already been a year but I feel like he’s always been here. Dog ownership is not without it’s lows (being less spontaneous/having to come home at a certain time, vet bills, taking him out in the cold when I want to be under my blankets, him not getting along with my dad’s dog, him being a little funny about new people, other quirky habits) but I love that little guy with my whole heart. We laugh so much. There’s always a Finn story to tell. We’ve taken more walks together in the evening which has been nicer than sitting in front of the tv. I love that he’s always so excited when I get home. I love not feeling alone when Will’s not here. I love snuggling with him. Gosh I’m getting all teary. Dog ownership has been a lot different being the ADULT that has to take care of 10000% of a dog than when I owned a dog that really my parents took care of….but I’m glad we did it.
If we were having coffee….I’d tell you how woefully behind I am on EVERYTHING since the summer. I don’t know if I just lose all motivation or I’m just too busy but I feel like I did NOTHING on my to-do lists this summer. My email inboxes are out of control. My apartment is in disarray. I put off things I shouldn’t have. I seriously need to get my crap together but I hate that feeling of “WHERE TO START?” and I’m getting that overwhelmed feeling that leads me to ignoring everything further. I’d ask you how you combat those feels???
If we were having coffee….I’d tell you that Will and I had a really nice visit with my family and going back to where I grew up before I moved to Philly (I talked about the trip here). I don’t get to see my family that often and it just makes me realize how much I miss them in a way I only vaguely feel when I’m away from them. I’ve gotten so used to having long-distance relationships with them (I moved with my mom here when I was in 8th grade) that I forget how much it feels like home when I’m there too. It was definitely a boost I needed to be around them. Especially getting to connect with my baby sis which I didn’t think was going to happen since she just went back to college but we made a day trip to her work.
If we were having coffee….I’d tell you that I’m compiling myself a small list of books to read to get me into the Fall/Halloween mood coming up and I would loooove for you to throw some suggestions my way.
If we were having coffee…what would you tell me? Come on…lay it all out! It’s just you, me, the pleasant sounds of a cafe…and maybe some other eyes in the comment section but NBD right?? Our we can have coffee in my inbox if you don’t feel comfortable. I really want to know! What’s going on with you?