I used to be pretty decent at self care before having Riley. I wasn’t perfect with it and sometimes I would forget to really stop and take care of myself but it was WAY easier then to take a pause on life and engage in some self care. Typically it would be pretty indulgent and luxurious because I had ALL THE TIME IN THE WORLD…even at my most busy. I look at all the time I had pre-baby and I’m like OMG HOW DID I NOT DO ALL THE THINGS WITH ALL THAT TIME I HAD? *cries about all the squandered time I would kill for now* But life has changed and I’ve had to figure out ways to practice self care and I’d love to share these easy self care ideas for new moms like me!
When I was at my lowest with the PPD I would find that, unless Will or his mom were around to remind me, I was NOT taking good care of myself — I wasn’t sleeping when I could, I wasn’t eating or drinking nearly enough, I wasn’t taking any time to recharge my own batteries which probably wasn’t helping anything. As I got better, I vowed to myself that even when I felt like I had no time (which feels like 99% of the time) I would find really simple ways to practice self-care as a new mom.
It’s important, as a mom, that I replenish and recharge my own self so I can at my absolute BEST for her. I learned that the hard way with my PPD/PPA…my friend Anna said it in such plain terms and it stuck with me — I have to put my own oxygen mask on before I can put on hers. I won’t be able to be the best for her if I don’t take care of myself. I really wish I would have had a list of easy self care ideas for new moms BEFORE I became a mom and scheduled it for myself day one.
What is my self care might not be your self care, for sure, but I just wanted to share some simple self-care practices I engage in on a daily or almost daily basis as a new mom. I think my view on self care definitely resembles this article — sometimes self care does mean bath bombs and manicures but sometimes it looks super practical and not very Instagrammable. And honestly these self care ideas for new moms PROBABLY aren’t going to make everyon ooh and ah but they ARE easy and something you CAN accomplish in this season of your life.
Self Care Ideas For New Moms – tip #1
Drink water
When I added this to my simple self-care ideas for new moms list it seemed stupid obvious that I almost felt like it was ridiculous to put on my list as something that qualifies as self-care. But let me tell you…by the time I get up and our day starts moving like a whirlwind (ESPECIALLY on days I nanny so I’m putting the need of 3 kids before my own) it can end up being late afternoon before I realize, “holy crap I haven’t had anything to drink all day.” The one day that put me to my breaking point with this I felt TERRIBLE. I thought I was getting sick and I went through my whole day and realized it was 9pm and I hadn’t even had any water (only a coffee that particular day). I never feel great when I’m not hydrated.
So I decided I HAD to be intentional about drinking water and the best way to do this, for me, was in the morning when I fed Finn and fed Riley I would also grab a larger water bottle and fill it up with water from our Brita (I can’t live without that thing…we save so much money not buying bottled water because I hate the taste of tap water) and bring it wherever we were. I realized I did better when it had the ounces on the side of it so I could physically SEE a numerical value of how much I drank but I only have one of those kind and plus it’s so huge that I like to bring a smaller one with me if I’m out of the house instead of the huge mammoth one I have for the days we are at home. Sometimes when I’m feeling bored of water I use my infuser water bottle and put some cut up fruit in it!
My favorite water bottles:
BKR 32 ounce water bottle: I really love glass water bottles and this one is the best one I’ve gotten though I do really love my Life Factory water bottle too which is also glass.
Sip S’well Water Bottle: I am OBSESSED with these. After my Hydro-flask (which I loved) had to be tossed (couldn’t find the lid!) I saw these at Target one day when I was supposed to be going in for ONE THING AND ONE THING ONLY. I’m obsessed with all the colors and designs they have. This one is stainless steel. Pretty much most of my water bottles are stainless steel or glass.
Water Intake Water Bottle: I can’t find the exact one I have (I think I found it at Marshall’s forever ago) but mine is similar to this one. I want to get another one because I really find that I do well when I can see the tracker thing so I might snag this one if I can’t find another one I like (anyone have one of these types you really like??)
Self Care Ideas For New Moms – tip #2
Shower ALONE
Two times a week I make sure I can get a LONG shower when Will is home and I will do a hair mask or a face mask or both! I typically do one on the weeknight and one on the weekend. There is just something about the shower that is super relaxing and mind-clearing for me and I really miss taking showers that don’t include peeking out at Riley in her chair I have in the bathroom and trying to sing, play peek-a-boo with the shower curtain and entertain her enough to get a shower before she decides she’s bored mid-shampoo. I hate rushing through my shower so I make sure to do this two times a week and I can’t even tell you what it does for my mental state. Plus my face and hair need some major lovin!
The hair masks and face masks I’ve been enjoying lately:
Self Care Ideas For New Moms – tip #3
Limit my consumption of mom & baby-related boards/groups/websites/books
I have the tendency…to obsess over things. And compare. And to worry. So I’ve realized for my own self-care I need to limit how often I’m looking at mom groups or message boards about baby sleep or trying to “fix” any sleep problems. I think I have far of a better attitude when I’m just being confident in my own mom skills and not try to fix everything because really not everything is a problem. Riley is an awesome baby — she sleeps pretty well, developmentally she’s right on target and sometimes ahead and she’s super happy. But when I peruse these types of things I start to feel like I’m doing everything wrong and things could be better. This one has been CRUCIAL to me. I look up and crowd-source the things I NEED to but I’m relying more on myself to figure things out. Too much noise in an overwhelming time isn’t helpful and is such a crucial and easy self idea for new moms that I PROMISE will make you feel loads better.
Self Care Ideas For New Moms – tip #4
Make Connections
Sometimes being a mom can feel super isolating I’ve learned…at least this young. I make it a point to either text a friend or my sister to have SOME connection throughout the day or I’ll walk up to our leasing office and chat with the ladies up there for a little bit or I’ll go to a storytime or something else. I don’t always FEEL like leaving the house (especially in the cold) but I found that I get real bummed, as someone who used to have a pretty busy social life, because I don’t feel like I SEE people enough. Honestly though even just texting a friend about what they’ve been up to or about the latest episode of a show we both love is super helpful for me so I’ve been trying to be super intentional about reaching out. When I am alone TOO much I don’t like the places my brain goes (especially when I’m exhausted and mentally drained) so making sure I practice self care in this way as a new mom is important for me.
Self Care Ideas For New Moms – Tip #5
Get dressed 95% of the time
On the days I stay home I mostly always force myself out of my pajamas. When I was on maternity leave I felt like I was always in my pajamas and it really bummed me out. I LOVE a good stay-in-my-pajamas day once in a while but I have found for myself it’s such a simple act of self-care to feel like a HUMAN with real clothes. I mean, I’m not dressing up or anything but just to feel a LITTLE put together makes a world of difference. My staples are comfy leggings and, right now at least, a sweater or a baggy t-shirt. I plan to make a separate post about my “mom uniform” at some point so stay tuned for that!
My staples lately:
My favorite sweater from Target is on sale (sob I paid so much more for it!!) and I have these Express leggings that are my ACTUAL FAVORITES EVER (and also on sale!!) but I have them in the silver gray below (with the Target sweater on). I’m always loving comfy (and cheap) tees from Old Navy to be around the house or throw a cardigan over.
Self Care Ideas For New Moms – tip #6
Do something my pre-baby self would have been done for at least 20 minutes every day
I have found that in the midst of this new role as mom and this new life I find myself in that I need to take care of myself by feeling grounded in some of the things I enjoyed pre-Riley. In the early days I felt like I couldn’t do anything…I was just so exhausted and mentally drained and my whole brain was consumed by baby stuff (also PPD/PPA was a huge factor in this). I remember one evening when Riley was finally asleep, instead of laying like zombies on the couch, we put on an episode of Fixer Upper and it was instantly such a mental relief. Now that she is sleeping better and we aren’t the newborn survival days (check out my newborn survival guide) I’ve found instead of getting caught up in all the mom things I carve out some time to read or to blog or watch a show. It’s not always easy because I’m exhausted (and sleep is totally self-care) but I personally need to take time for hobbies and things I enjoyed. When I came back to the blog after a few months of being “off” from having Riley it was EXACTLY what my soul and my mind needed. It did more for my mental health than I can even explain.
It’s not super luxurious or beautiful but these are my most essential self-care practices as a new mom and I feel like I have felt infinitely better as a result of being intentional about taking care of myself even in small ways. Easy self care ideas for new moms are a dime a dozen so you need to brainstorm and figure out what would be self care for YOU.
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What does self-care look like for you? Tell me some of your small ways you practice self care as a new mom! What easy self care ideas for new moms made a difference for you if you are a mom?
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Annemieke says
Self-care is so important. The important self-care thing that I found for me was that his nap time is me time. Especially now he only has one nap. I’m not going to do household chores or any of the sort. I do what I can when he is awake downstairs and upstairs I do when his dad is home. It works for us. Granted the house is a bit messy but I’ve never been a neat freak anyway.
I really need to drink more water. It would help with weight loss too. I forget to drink a lot too so I’ve combined my drinking to Merijn’s now that he drinks tea and water too, and that helps a bit though it is mostly tea.
Jamie says
That is SUCH an important one!! I don’t do household chores or anything except me time either during most of her naps. And SAME…I’d rather time to myself over a perfect apartment. I’ve embraced the mess.
Onyinyechi says
Great read! Sending this to my friends who are expecting, and also the new mothers I know.
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Jamie says
Thank you! <3
Lisa @ Reading, Writing, and Random Musings says
One of the hugest things I’ve done for myself is to disconnect from all electronics by about 8:00-8:30 at night. I stress less, and I think I sleep better!
Sarah's Book Shelves says
Amen, sister! Reading saved my identity when I had a new baby. And, I actually got to read a lot when I was nursing. Then my kids became toddlers and it became much harder.
But, these are great tips and I 100% believe new Moms need to carve out some small snippets of time/space/energy/whatever to retain some piece of sanity. Trying to have one thing that for myself, that gave me a small sense of accomplishment is the main reason I started my book blog.
Daisy says
So much yes to taking showers alone! I usually shower with Julia on my days off, but it’s so nice to just take your time. And I try to set aside some time during her naps for reading/e-shopping/just general indulgence instead of running around and cleaning. Oh, and walks, clears my head and makes Julia happy 🙂
lola says
Great read, i totally agree with doign things your pre-baby self would do. We as moms tend to get so busy caring for everyone else except our own selves
Fiona says
Self-care is important, and like you mentioned not always glamorous. I don’t have kids yet, but I do worry about future me when it comes to self-care and kids. (Totally saving this post for future reference). My bigest self-care thing I do for myself is I pack my lunch and set out my outfit the night before. That way, when I get up for work the next morning, I am ready to go!
Cristine says
Drinking water is so important for everyone- including new moms. It’s such a simple health boost
Pam says
These tips are fantastic. As a new mom, even the simple things like taking a shower and drinking water can be a challenge.
Sara | mshealthesteem.com says
Such wonderful self care advice. I can imagine that it’s so incredibly easy to put your self care on the back burner when you’re a mom. But it’s so important that you make time for you for the sake of your well-being. I love all of these tips. Especially the idea of making sure that you do something pre-baby you would have done for 20 minutes a day! What an important thing to point out.
Thank you so much hun! Sharing this with all my mama friends <3.
Christie says
These ar such great tips for a new mom. It’s so easy to fall into a slump!
Brandon says
These are all fantastic tips and are things that tend to go lower on the priority list when they shouldn’t. Thanks for sharing.
Tiff @ Mostly YA Lit says
It’s been 8 weeks now, and I’ve figured out that the three things that make my day a decent one are: 1) brushing my teeth and getting dressed 2) showering 3) a nap. If I get all three, I’m actually doing okay. If I get only one, I know that this hasn’t been an easy day for me, and I vow to do better the next day.
The biggest things I’ve managed to pull off lately for self-care are 1) reading 2) taking baby to mommy and me yoga – I met other moms, I got some exercise, AND Gemma loved staring at all the other people 3) hiring someone to come in and help me organize/tidy/do laundry/hold the baby. It’s only for a few hours each week, but it makes me feel less alone and more okay with my identity, especially since I don’t have a lot of help right now. I felt like I was drowning in laundry all the friggin time, and she’s come in for the first time and it’s like, my life is instantly better. For a few hours, I get to just be a mom, and not stress about the house. I know not everyone can afford that and it’s a luxury, but for me, it’s also just to keep me sane. And now I have time to comment on this blog post! (PS I can’t believe you have that new Gayle Forman already, I’m so jealous!).
Also, I meant to tell you – your 0-3 month survival guide is right on the money. We ended up using pretty much exactly the same things as you did. Go us! We’re keeping these tiny humans alive!
Mama in Heels says
I’m a mom of twin boys and it is so important to take care of yourself. If you are not well then how can you take care of your kids. Great tips!
xo,
Mama in Heels
Lhourdes Mercadero says
Self care is really important especially for moms like us. What I usually do is to have a massage at least twice a month. Thanks for this lovely tips
Nonee Ngazimbi says
Oh I need to save this post for when I have a child! These are such excellent self-care tips!
Kelsie says
I love the bk waterbottle! These are all great ideas!
Ray says
Number six seems like it would be incredibly important. Great list.
Leah says
Girl you said it!! Kids totally change everything, I have two and sometimes I look back at the pre child self and think why did I do that with all that time!! I totally agree with the water thing, I don’t know what it is but it is a constant go go go at bed time I realize I maybe had a glass of water the whole day, so I started filling up a pitcher of ice water and setting it on my table, now I go through 2 pitchers a day!! The mom group/board/community thing is so true, I felt when I was part of them I was doing everything wrong, it really got me down. The truth is we all mother/parent differently as long as the kids are healthy and happy it really doesn’t matter! My self care list is changing this year I need to take better care of my aging skin, and do more things I enjoy. I can’t remember my last bubble bath or the last book I actually got through that did relate to autism, self help, or blogging (I enjoy those but I really want to read a best seller, join an on line book club). I wish you all the best of luck completing you list and good for you for figuring it out now… it took me 5 years and 2 kids later.
Emily says
This is great! Sometimes as a mom certain things, like taking a shower alone, feels like such a luxury but they shouldn’t. We should make sure to make time for ourselves.
Brooke says
The getting dressed tip is so important! It actually makes me feel like a person rather than a mombie. Also, the limiting mom boards and groups. There can be so much pressure to do everything right in those groups!
Jennifer Erickson says
Amazing tips. I love the advice go limit baby groups and Facebook groups etc. they will drive you mad for sure!